2018/07/27

Honne and tatemae during a date

This is Moka Shichijo from Universe Club Osaka Branch.

After the date, we ask all the members to cooperate with the questionnaire.

Both male and female members are given a date score, and sometimes their real intentions are written.

If you are a little worried about the content, we may check the facts with the permission of the member who received the questionnaire.

We have 25 questions out of 5 points.

■☆☆☆☆☆ [Appearance]: Did you have a clean appearance?
■☆☆☆☆☆ [Details]: Did you enjoy your date?
■☆☆☆☆☆ [Personality]: How was your personality and character?
■☆☆☆☆☆ [Etiquette]: Was there any rudeness, such as being late or speaking or acting?
■☆☆☆☆☆ [Overall]: How was your date overall?

It is very important information for us as concierges because we can find out things that we didn't know during interviews.

If there's something you'd like to share on future dates, of course you'll be able to do so.
So, I hope you will continue to tell me your frank impressions on dates more and more.

However, it is a common problem that you should be aware of.

~on a date~

Two people who promised to date

Man: “When are we going to meet again?”

Woman: “How about next week?”

Man: “Then, how about on XX day?”


Woman: “Yes (*^^*) I’m looking forward to it♡”

The content.

It's a normal exchange, but this exchange often causes trouble.

The day before (or a few days) before the appointment, the man will ring the phone.

Universe Club: Thank you for calling.

Man: "I promised to go out with Mr. XX, but he suddenly stopped contacting me. Did something happen?"

Universe Club: “Huh!? That’s right.

Put the phone down and call the woman from Universe Club.

Universe Club "Hello. Are you Mr. 〇〇?"

Woman: “Yes. What happened?”

Explain the content of the phone call from the man

Woman: “Actually, I have no intention of going out with you, but I felt bad about saying no, so I made another appointment.”

Universe Club: "That's no good. If you don't want to go out with me, I'll ask you to make a meal reservation once you've promised your next schedule, so please don't decline once you've decided on your feelings. We will contact you, but please also contact the man.”

There are many exchanges like this.

I would like you to absolutely stop making promises to date when you don't have any intention of dating, perhaps out of consideration.

At that time, I would be most happy if you could face me with your true intentions.

If you can't refuse the relationship on the spot, at least don't decide the schedule, and ask that you decline later.

We, the concierge, would like to tell you as much as possible in advance so that it will be a wonderful meeting, but if we are not able to meet you, we would appreciate it if you could tell us your honest feelings.

While cooperating with all the members, I would like to support you from behind the scenes so that many wonderful couples can be formed, so I would be happy if you could continue to receive honest surveys in the future.

Universe Club Osaka Branch
Moka Shichijo

*The woman in the photo has nothing to do with this content.

Author of this article

Leave a comment

There is no sure that your email address is published.