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This is Fukunaga from Universe Club Osaka Branch.
This time"What's the correct answer? I'll tell you about the staff's anguish! (Delusion)"With that,The Boundary Between Dissecting and TellingI would like to write something like a conflict in the setting business about.
(If you don't mindPart 1I hope you can read it too.)
Many of our male members are introduced to us by friends.
Also, in the case of referrals, many people join the same class, so I think that there is a very rare chance that an offer woman will come over.
[Situation 1]Pattern in which Mr. A (introducer) offers an offer to a woman who has already dated (possibility of popular women)と
[Situation 2]A pattern in which Mr. A and Mr. B make offers at the same time (possibility of occurring in new women)There are two types, but if you notice this situation, what is the correct answer?
① Pretend not to notice (especially do not tell both parties)
It's not like I can notice everything, and it's a basic principle not to reveal other people's things, so I'm sorry!
"Please talk about that with us."
② Tell A that B made an offer.
To tell the truth, Mr. B had an offer to Mr. A whom Mr. A had a date with before (given an offer).and consult with Mr. A.
③ Tell B that A has already dated (offered)
In fact, Mr. a, whom Mr. B offered, has already been set up with Mr. A!What should I do with this offer?and consult only with Mr. B
④Send the situation to A and B all at once
Since Mr. A and Mr. B are friends, I will inform them of the current situation at the same time and give them instructions on whether or not to proceed with the offer.
⑤ Confirm your feelings with ako
Actually, Mr. A, whom I met before (or is setting up), is a friend of Mr. B, who made an offer this time.asks Ako.
The five ideas above came to mind, but none of them fit.
I know about ① but I can't do anything about it, but if it's ② to ⑤, it's a very annoying scene that I can't do it because I can't reveal the offer status or friendship of one of them.
If I am now, I feel like I will end up looking for other options and getting lost in ③ and finally taking option ①.
If you notice this situation, what kind of action will be the best option for the member? I think that the response will change depending on the relationship with the woman, but I feel that this is not necessarily the correct answer.
This time it was an example of what to do if something like this happened, but I think that what to do when faced with a situation that is not in the manual is both difficult and interesting.
if else"There's a good way to do this"Or"If I were you, I'd want you to do this."We would appreciate it if you could tell us your opinion.
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Ryota Fukunaga
I think ③ is better. There is no need to tell Mr. A, and there is no need to tell Mr. A that Mr. A and Mr. B are acquaintances. Let's leave it to Mr. B's judgment.
① looks like a safety pie, but it is a mine.If you find out later, people will hate you and say, "Why didn't you tell me!?"
It's a complaint, but it seems that it's a rule not to tell if it overlaps with your period, but as I wrote in a column article before, it's very unpleasant to know that it was hidden.When I recently made an offer to a certain branch, I was able to confirm smoothly with the expression "poor physical condition peculiar to women".I would like to ask for such a good response.
It's not a sport, so the rulebook is just a guideline.Are you a baseball referee?I want to yell.
Pretending not to know is no good.Please take this to heart.
Mr. Mac
Thank you for your comment!
Also, sorry for the late reply.
It's been a long time!
It is your opinion to confirm with Mr. B in ③!
Mr. B said to Mr. A, "It seems that you went on a date with that girl," and Mr. A said to the club, "Isn't that a secret?"
> "It seems that it's also a rule not to tell when it overlaps with your period."
As far as I know, this is not a company rule.
If a woman contacts you saying, "I'm planning to have a date with a girl...", I will report it to the man and ask for instructions on whether to continue the date or change to another date.
It's not about menstruation = adult dating, but because I think menstruation can make it difficult for some people to go on dates due to severe abdominal pain.
Of course, from here, is the date date menstruation?No confirmation will be given.
It was my understanding that I would report if there was a report from a woman.
Pretending not to notice may have been a bad expression.
I thought I should have written with the nuance that I can't do anything.
Thank you for your valuable opinion.
I'm surprised you're having trouble with this.
There is no need to tell any of the parties.
Or rather, not telling them is a duty of confidentiality.
It is the misunderstanding of the members to resent it.
I'm in trouble in a club that teaches.
protein-like
Thank you for your comment!
Also, sorry for the late reply.
> "There is no need to tell any of the parties."
Regarding (XNUMX), it is your opinion that you should not tell both parties.
I was able to gain some confidence in my own judgment after receiving an opinion from Mr. Protein.
Right now, I'm so immature that I worry about things like this, but I'd like to expose my immaturity in this way and grow even a little by receiving various opinions from smart people. .
Thank you for your valuable opinion.
simple is best
If you say that, what will the club do if the offer is concentrated at the same time as the female member who is listed for the first time?In my imagination, it's not a strict order of offers, but it seems that black members, close friends, etc. are working with some conjecture and flexibility.Well, I can understand the black priority, but other than that, I have heard about the timing and content of offers from female members, and there was a time when I felt ah~~.I think the fairest rule would be to simply guide people in the order in which they received offers, and I thought that was the case.However, it is possible that such a situation may occur at the time of enrollment for both members who recommend friends and members who are introduced, but due to privacy concerns, the club will not make any adjustments or report before or after the fact.I think it's good to sing as a rule.
Mr. Don Quixote
Thank you for your comment!
Also, sorry for the late reply.
> "What would the club do if the female members listed for the first time received a lot of offers at the same time as the update?"
Here, basically, we give priority to those who have received the e-mail first. (*It may be slightly different depending on the branch.)
However, in the form of advance notice as a benefit for black members, some of those who are expected to be flooded with offers will be published as a benefit for black members in advance before being uploaded to the member site. .
> "I think it would be good to state as a rule that the club will not make any adjustments or report before or after the event as it is a matter of privacy."
You are right.
Looking at the comments, I felt that if there is a correct answer for this, it should be to tell the man, "Please understand that I can't say it even if I wear it" at the time of interview or introduction, or to write it in the rules.
Thank you for your valuable opinion.
If you say that, I will introduce you to my friends for free.
you
Thank you for your comment!
Also, sorry for the late reply.
I didn't realize it until you commented, but if you know that the offer is on, you can ask your friends to introduce you.
Male and female members are free to introduce a friend who has dated and become friends with them as long as it is mutually agreeable, but if you tell them, it encourages them to be introduced by friends instead of an offer. If so, that might be a problem.
Thank you for your valuable opinion.
I think ⑤ is better.
When Mr. A and Mr. B find out later, I think that flowers will bloom with Yatch Matter and funny stories.
There is also the fun of competing for that child, and you can compete to see which one is more popular.
If AB gets angry, don't worry about it.
If a girl is good at arms, she will be full.It helps girls to protect themselves when they are bad guys.
After that contact, we will be able to consult closely.
Child a "It's profitable w"
A ``Oh, are you dating that girl too?''
I mean, when you apply, if you're a friend, you should talk about applying for such a girl.
I mean, if you're a kabcha, why don't you ask the staff?
Oh, if you tell me to tell you when you wear it, please tell me.
"It might be a good idea to ask in advance, if you wear it, will you contact me?"
and a different opinion.
Goldfish
thank you for your comment.
Also, sorry for the late reply.
Thank you for your new opinion!
You always give me new perspectives, so I can learn a lot!
A relationship where you and your siblings can find out and laugh together is ideal (laughs).
If you really don't like wearing it, ask your friend, "I'm thinking of making an offer to this girl, but you haven't met her, have you?"
You may be talking about something like that.
In any case, I learned that this is what happens because I have to check in advance,
At the time of the introduction interview, I have to ask both of them, "What would you do if you wear it?"
Thank you for your valuable feedback.
It seems that I am in the minority.
Maybe the feeling is old in the Showa era...
Mr. Fukunaga, whether you're a man or a woman, wouldn't it make you happy if you received sweets from the members?
The sweets that the members receive from the staff are useful information.It is also called caring.
The staff member who gave me the menstrual information I wrote above probably knew my dating style from reading the column article, so she was considerate.
For male members who are concerned about information leaks, I think it would be safer not to tell them, and the point is that they should adjust to the other party.
If I were Mr. Fukunaga, when I received the offer from Mr. B, I would say, "Thank you for the offer, I will proceed with the setting. By the way, Mr. B was introduced by Mr. If you've dated someone before, should I let you know, or should I not?"
I introduced some acquaintances to Univa, but I had the upper hand in terms of power relations with them.In general, isn't there a lot of patterns in which A-sama is more dominant than B-sama?
In that case, Mr. B will probably be hesitant to make an offer to Mr. A, but he will be grateful, and I think we will be together for a long time.
It's a strange story, but if a staff member with a good impression left UNIVA, I met him by some kind of connection and said, "That was XX at that time." If it were me, I'd be tempted to take advantage of it (laughs).
That's what it means to be in a long-term relationship.
Well, is this area like a small business like me or a sole proprietor?Rather than Showa.
Mr. Mac
thank you for your comment.
Also, sorry for the late reply.
Opinions were quite divided this time.
If everyone who reads this agrees,
I don't think there's much to gain from that, or rather, I don't think it's suitable as a subject.
> "The point is to match the opponent"
The best response for each member is different, so it is important to understand what the person's needs are and act accordingly.
> "In general, there are many patterns in which A-sama is more dominant than B-sama, isn't there?"
I went to interviews for introductions several times, but there were certainly many patterns of this power relationship.
By further supplementing the first opinion, I was able to better understand Mr. Mack's thoughts.
Thank you for your valuable opinion.
I agree with protein-like.
I don't think there is any need to teach A, B, or Ako.
In the first place, due to the nature of this club, both A and B should have been introduced and introduced with the fact that such a situation would occur.Furthermore, even if A and B are not in an introduction relationship, it cannot be denied that they may be acquaintances by chance (especially in rural areas?). Huh?
Mr. Goro
Thank you for your comment!
Also, sorry for the late reply.
It's possible that you know each other by chance.
In such a case, if Mr. A is wearing it with a friend, if it is recognized that the club will tell you, it may cause trouble on the contrary.
Thank you for your valuable opinion.