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I am Yui Shiina from the Osaka branch.

 

Summer high school baseball has begun!
It feels like summer.

I was thinking of writing this on the day of the opening ceremony.
Mishima's post was posted earlier on the same day, so I gave up.
(Right now, the Tsuruga Kehi match has just started. I'm curious about the trends in the match.)

 

By the way, the other day, I was checking social media as usual before going to bed, and there was a column that caught my eye.

 

“Why are imaginative people popular?”

 

Hmm... Is it because you can think about the other person's feelings or something like that?When I opened it, it was a fairly long column.

 

I shouldn't have watched it before going to bed!

It was too long, so I skimmed it.
I'm curious, but the lack of sleep is a matter of life and death.
That's how I read it, but there was a place where it was very useful for me.

 

"Think about the other person's circumstances" and "think about what the other person thinks" are completely different.
After that, you need imagination to think.

 

It was like
If you can see it just by looking at it, you probably already understand the technique.And I'm sure it's getting popular regardless of gender.

 

Think about what the other person thinks.
At first glance, I think it's a good thing, and I thought it was necessary, but what is pointed out here is to guess the other person's feelings.
And it is not good that there is a possibility that you will solve yourself without knowing whether the feeling you guessed is correct or not.

It means that it is not good to come up with the idea of ​​taking the option of not telling.

Let's say you have something you want to say to someone else.
What will the other person think by telling it?I think.
◯◯ might seem like it. You must think ◯◯.
As a result of thinking so, it seems that it will be the flow of giving up telling ....

 

Anyone have any idea?

 

I have a lot on my mind.
Thinking on your own, it becomes difficult to say on your own, isn't it?
And it becomes a lump in my heart, and I don't know how to close the subtle sense of distance with the other person...
I can only think of it.It's my thought process that creates a world where I can't even say what I want to say!

 

So what does it mean to think about other people's circumstances?

 

First of all, it's about thinking about the position of the opponent, not the feeling of the opponent.
On top of that, think about how to convey it and what kind of way of saying it, and send it out.
That's what it means.

 

I see.

What I thought was important might be this one.
When the other person receives it, the feeling of caring that there are no thorns, that there is no need to worry, may be the "thinking about the circumstances" that was written in that column.
Perhaps there is also a personality in it.

 

To build a relationship with someone, it is necessary to convey your feelings and what you think.
So don't think about how what you say will make you think, think about how best to convey it to the other person.

 

I'm feeling.I made it really easy.

That said, if you think about how to convey it, it doesn't mean that you can convey anything.
Well, it's okay if you're an adult.

 

This is not limited to dating clubs, but especially if the time between meeting and deepening the relationship is short, it is important to be able to treat the other person with consideration and whether you can feel what the other person thinks. .

What should I do to build a good relationship with my partner?
For those of you who have been holding back what you want to say to your partner and haven't been able to build a good relationship, I hope it will be a hint.

 

 

Universe Club Osaka Branch
Yui Shiina