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This is Miyoshi from the Customer Success West Japan Unit.

This is a story from a while ago,
We areEmployee training in May this yearWas carried out.

As part of the training program,
Some staff members participated in a "dating experience".

The content is to experience the Universe Club interview, enrollment, and dating from the customer's perspective.
(Between staff)
It was to explore club rules and improvements in on-site operations.

I participated as an administrator.
Various opinions came out from the staff who finished the pseudo date experience.
What surprised me the most was the staff member who said, "It felt like two hours was too long, instead of four hours."
It means that there were many men and women.

This was unexpected for me.
After all, is it because it is training after all?
Or perhaps some of the actual members feel the same way
Are there a certain number of people...?

I should have forced someone to run it and had a date experience myself!
From the moyamoya that
No wait.
I thought that it would be better to use it for a long period of time (about 3 months?) to get a realistic feeling.

 

And now it's been exactly 3 months.

 

Register for the app (matching system that is not dad life)
create a profile for yourself
After matching with about 30 men and exchanging messages,
I actually met with 3 people and went on dates with each of them several times.
Only one person is dating now.

I have registered for matching apps and joined dating clubs in the past,
I withdrew from the membership as soon as I was able to confirm the contents, so it was my first experience to spend so much time communicating with multiple people.

It will soon be six years since I became a staff member of the Universe Club.
However, through this experience, it is said that the perspective of the staff and the sense of the member who actually goes on a date are completely different.
I was keenly aware of the obvious.
The troubles that I have seen and heard on a daily basis can be confusing, frightening, and depressing when I actually experience them.
Sometimes I felt irritated by the unreasonableness.

The trouble I experienced (that didn't work) was
If you say it, it was only a certain content.

・Date Cancellation

・Ask for personal information

・ Face-to-face date is 6 hours

・Abusive words/Abandoned lines (I was alone, but this was the most tiring)

・I was suddenly hugged in a place where there was no one left (I couldn't speak and I couldn't move)

・I can't refuse to exchange messages because I think I'm a good person even though my feelings don't match
(Even though I know it's rude to the other party)

・ (A story I heard from a man) Three women who met and dated on the app were married in quick succession and became distrustful of people

 

 

Negative content that you often see in post-date questionnaires…
Each one of them will damage your heart if you actually experience it,
I can't behave like I usually advise as a staff,
I was so exhausted that I became afraid to go on dates, and I became reluctant to continue my activities.

Going on a date in the first place required a tremendous amount of courage.
I realized that the members overcame this feeling and joined Universe and started dating.
I once again thought that I would like to establish a mechanism to strengthen the follow-up system.

It's not a problem, but
If the other person doesn't talk to you or your message is too short
("Yes" and "That's right" are the main and the story doesn't spread)
Tired of trying hard to communicate,
It didn't last long.

Also, although there is also this,

・Large amount of messages (several dozen per day)

・Do not tell me about yourself with only questions,
Opposite pattern: All the claims, there is no space to talk about this

・Difference in temperature sensation
(A message filled with hearts from the moment you first met♡♡♡)

I struggled to deal with these exchanges.
(It makes me want to shut up and cancel the matching, but that doesn't give me any experience points, so I'll do something about it.)

After overcoming this situation,
Based on that experience, I thought that I should be able to grow as a coordinator (probably), so I struggled.
Sometimes I have a decidedly bad feeling,
There was also a period when I was absent from new matching due to pain.
Now I'm working on small things at a pace that I can't do.

However, I also made a personal discovery.

It was painful even to exchange messages several times a day with people who were not compatible with each other.
Even if you date a person you can respect for 8 hours, you will not get tired at all,
I never wanted to go home early.

So back to the beginning,
In our dating experience training,
The opinion that "even two hours was too long" came out here and there,
Because my goodwill and feelings were not suitable for the other party.

(It was a natural result because it was an in-house training and the management side decided the pairs without permission.)

That was my personal opinion.

At the same time, I thought
Back to my app experience...
If the face-to-face date was over in 1-2 hours
It means that there were people who thought that they could have built a better relationship.

 

 

Face-to-face makes me really nervous
Even if you don't mean anything, you accidentally say or do something wrong,
I'm worried about things that I don't usually care about,
I think I was oversensitive.

When I meet someone I don't know at all, I felt that the first impression leaves a strong impression.

However, when it comes to the second and third dates with the same person, the vigilance gradually disappears.
I've been able to spend it in the bare state.
When you meet someone you don't know at an app, club, introduction office, etc.,
I thought that it might lead to a long-term relationship in the end if it was a short time, except when it was very compatible.

Of course, if it's a C/D date at Universe Club, I think the story will change again m(_ _)m💦
I once again felt that the dating club is truly an extraordinary world.

Finally…

I only dated 3 people in just 3 months of activities,
One person I have a good impression of and continue to associate with
I wondered what was different from the other 30 people.

・First of all, he was someone I could respect as a person.
・Both before and after meeting, he kept an appropriate distance and treated me.

And don't do anything I dislike, let me please, listen to what pleases me
I think the biggest reason was that I felt strongly that they were trying to implement it.
(There were other kind people, so of course I think there is also a problem of compatibility)

Since I am a woman, I think there is a bias in my senses,
This is not a one-sided story,
I believe that there are things that both men and women can relate to.
If there is no consideration and imagination for each other, the relationship will not last after all.

 

That's it for Miyoshi's matching app experience report.
Thank you for staying with us until the end.

The road of trial and error to the best matching of UNIVA Staff will continue in the future.