Thank you for visiting the Universe Club blog.
This is Kazuma Hamada from the Fukuoka branch.

It's been less than half a year since I joined the company, but the other day I was talking to a friend and went to a dating club.
I have a story that I can relate to, so I would like to write about it.

The other day, I went out with my childhood friend to go to a hot spring on holiday.

This friend, until recently, was quite a playboy.
His tool was a dating app, and he remembers using it like a fish out of water.

I didn't expect to hear such unexpected words from him.

On that day, we met again for the first time in about two months.

For the time being, we talked about the current situation while soaking in the hot springs.
About the future... about health... about love...

And hear shocking words.

friend
"She got it."

(I.e.
"... (゜ o ゜)"

This guy who was such a playboy had a girlfriend...?She had other things on her mind
This was the topic that finally came up while talking,

“What and when do humans feel happy?”

(*Please be assured that this is not a religious story.)

I might have gone crazy from being in too much hot water.

In general, the three major needs are said to be appetite, sleep, and sex.

Here Hamada imagined fulfilling the highest level of each desire.

・Satisfy your appetite at the highest level = The moment you stuff your mouth with fatty meat at a high-end yakiniku restaurant
・The desire to sleep is satisfied at the highest level = the moment when you can sleep as much as you want without thinking about the next day in a fluffy bed
・ Sexual desire is fulfilled at the highest level = The moment when Mr. Kanno 〇ho's words are attacked

Certainly, after eating the highest quality meat at a high-end yakiniku restaurant, what if Mr. Kanno Hoho-san attacked me on a fluffy bed?
Couldn't be happier...

However, I was kicked out by my friend.
And he says:

“I don’t think the three major desires are appetite, sleep, and libido in the first place.”

In my heart, I thought (Why! I want to be attacked by Kanno 〇ho!)

My friend says
"I quit dating because she was able to,

I realized, 'In the end, it's okay to have a girlfriend who accepts you now rather than just having sex.'"

And that.

What the hell...!I thought, but it seems that it is somehow different.

"Ever since I was dumped by my ex-girlfriend, I've been madly spreading my libido with dating sites.
In the end, I didn't want to have sex, I was just lonely and wanted someone to accept me."

"Until then, I'll call you my ex-girlfriend.I was satisfied because I had someone to approve

Losing that kind of existence made me feel lonely, and I wanted to meet a woman anyway, right?'

"That's why I have a theory that my three biggest desires are appetite, sleep, and approval."

Hearing this, I inwardly

(Zusshin...) It's time...

And I thought, I see, this might be the essence.

In the first place, I feel that human beings certainly want to be recognized by someone else.

For example, because no one looks at the perpetrators of various crimes seen in the news,
I heard somewhere that he commits that crime.

I thought it might be the nature of human beings to not find their own value by approving and being approved by others.
And it may be that they are "romance" as a system of mutual approval.

friends too

"I've expressed my libido through apps, dating sites, and customs, but
The connection of only sexual desire has the maximum momentary happiness, but it disappears in an instant. ”

"Love is a prerequisite for mutual approval.
The feeling of happiness is thin compared to the release of sexual desire, but it lasts for a long time. ”

“In the case of men, sex gives them instant happiness, so they misunderstand their desire for approval as sexual desire.”

"Don't you really want me to approve you through love?"

It said.

When I actually had an interview with a man at Universe Club,

"If it's just a relationship where you just have sex, then sex is fine."

I would like to ask you a question.

Our club is not a meeting place with marriage in mind, but it is a place where you can "enjoy pseudo-romance".

Men who are looking for pseudo-romance are more than just physical relationships.

"Even if it's pseudo or temporary, it's a relationship that allows us to accept each other"

Although I was young, I felt that this might be what he wanted.

I'm a newcomer, so I'm sorry for saying such arrogant things.

However, my job as a matching coordinator for Universe Club, including myself,

I felt deeply that it was a profession that could create relationships that build not only physical but also emotional connections, and I felt that I had to take responsibility for my work.
As soon as I shuddered.

Except for the greeting blog, this is almost my first blog, so please forgive me for my poor writing.