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If someone who is married and has a child at home is working as a dad, it seems that this person's child will not grow properly, and I think it will be gray in the future. (Currently enrolled in an education-related department)

My parents were actually having an affair, so I understand how it feels, but children aren't that stupid and I can guess from the atmosphere.

There are times when I am consulted about my wife and children, but I sometimes think that if I stop working as a dad, it will be resolved.

It's not something you can say as a college student who is working as a dad.

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Thank you very much for your question.

I don't know if the questioner's parents had an affair, and I don't know if the questioner is ignorant, but as objective statistical data, Japan About 50% of people have experience of adultery and cheating.

This number is based on Japanese data, not Japanese men.In fact, the probability of cheating adultery is almost the same for men and women.Despite this, the only problem with men cheating is simply that cheating men are easier to find out.

In other words, if the formula that "parents are unfaithful = children are unfaithful" is correct, then one in two Japanese people is unfaithful.If the majority is wrong, it's no longer possible to know what's wrong and what's right.

By the way, I don't know if my parents were having an affair, but considering objective statistical data, there is a 75% chance that at least one of my father or mother is having an affair. I guess.Especially my father was very popular, so he may have been having an affair.

I personally don't have that kind of awareness, but maybe I was confused.

I hate men who act like dads

"It's not something you can say as a college student who is working as a dad."

At the time when you are using this phrase, you probably understand that you should not say it.

No matter how you think about it, there is no doubt that it is better not to say anything if you simply think about the problem of profit and loss.In XNUMX% of cases, the relationship with that papa will end, and there is almost no profit from being unnecessarily hated by people.

The problem is, why did you ask such a question even though the questioner knows all about it?

The reason why you are asking such a question is that the person asking the question wants to tell Papa, "Why don't you stop working as a Papa?"However, considering the problem of profit and loss, I cannot say.This is probably the biggest problem you are asking now.

So the question is, why would you want to say something like that? Why would the questioner want to make a remark that is highly likely to result in a big loss, far from gaining even a single yen?

Of course, I think that the most important thing is the feeling of "I want to say what I want to say and feel refreshed", but if you have such a feeling, it is because the questioner hates his dad. not.

Since this consultation is being conducted by Universe-sama, no matter how beautiful things are arranged, basically the relationship is not love but money.So whether you like your dad or not, I don't think there's a particular problem if you can build a relationship that's convenient for both parties.

In addition, in the case of the questioner, I feel that he dislikes "general men who act like dads" rather than dislikes the current dad.I'm sure you think that unmarried men are better than married men, but I don't really like men in general who use services like Papa-katsu when it comes to their own family circumstances. I guess.Therefore, even if you introduce another man, the situation will not change much.

And above all, I despise myself for bowing my head and receiving money from a man who should be hated and despised.

do you want money

There was a man who was born in Chiyoda-ku, Tokyo, spent elementary, junior high, high school, and college in the three central wards of Tokyo, and then got a job at a company in the three central wards.

He was good, courteous, intelligent, had a high social status and salary, and was handsome.

Of course, he must have struggled in his own way.However, the hardships he speaks of are always the hardships felt by those who aim high.

He can talk about how hard it is to climb Mount Everest, but he can't talk about the anguish of people who work hard for a year and still can't pay to climb Mount Everest. is.

"I studied hard, but I could only get into a university with a deviation score of around 60," said the man. It is.

The man, who talks about the hardships of not being accepted by his first-choice company, doesn't even know that there are many people who can't even go to Tokyo in the first place.

A man who probably comes from a good family, receives a proper education, is not financially destitute, and is loved by many people.

However, he doesn't brag about his circumstances to anyone, he is polite, kind, and gentle to everyone, and he doesn't even have the slightest hint of evil.

I can't possibly fall in love with such a charming man.

Now, if you are a member of society, it is possible that you are in a situation where you have a big financial problem and are forced to live as a dad.

However, the person asking the question is a university student.Of course, it may not be economically rich, but it will not be enough to have trouble with tomorrow's bread.If you are in such a difficult financial situation, you should not be able to go to university in the first place.

So why is the questioner doing dad activities?

Bowing to the most hated existence in the world, perhaps selling his own body, and wasting his precious time as a college student to get money?I don't know if it's 20 or 30 a month, but does the questioner really want that money?

Probably not.Of course, it's not that you don't want money, but I can't help but feel that the questioner's choice of "papa activity" is not just money but another reason.

So what is the reason for that?

I think the key to that is the good guy I introduced earlier.

What did you think when you heard him talk?He is definitely an excellent property.He may not earn 1 million yen a year, but he will not make less than 1000 million yen a year either.

However, that man doesn't even understand that there are "discordant parents" and "parents who don't love their children" in the world.You may have heard the term single-mother family, but you probably think it is as far-fetched as hunger in Africa.

He was born in a lucky family with a lucky gene, so he doesn't even understand that he is in the top few percent of the world.Because he and the people around him were all good people, he couldn't even understand that there were bad people and poor people in the world.

That's why I don't like this good, polite, kind, and so naive asshole.

My job is a love hotel staff.At least it's not a job that will give you a good look when you go to the other party's parents to apply for marriage.Despite such a reality, that stupid man says without a shred of malice, "Isn't it a splendid job to be a love hotel staff?"

If you're the person who asked the question, who was unfortunately born into a not-so-good family environment, I'm sure you can understand a little bit of what I'm saying.

I believe that there are many "so-called decent college students" around you who were born into good families, received an appropriate education, and get along with everyone.Looking at such a person, I think I feel a little bit of the feeling I feel for that stupid man.

Of course I know, and I'm sure you know.This is nothing but jealousy.I'm just jealous of the "respectable" people who have led a "decent life" unlike me, and we want to become such "decent people" if we can.

Fortunately or unfortunately, for someone like me, they are too dazzling and too far away, and they will never seem to get along with each other.

I don't know how you are feeling, but if you are the one asking this question, I think you will understand my feelings.

Then, if the person asking the question feels the same or similar feelings to the people around me, then there is some reason why the person asking the question is doing dad activities. But I don't understand.

I have no basis for my heart other than that it is not decent anymore.If you see people who are too decent and realize that you can't walk a decent path, you have no choice but to rely on your heart that it's not decent anymore.

It's a psychology that can't be understood by a "sane person" like that idiot.However, it is too dazzling for "non-sane people" to walk the same path as "sane people".

If that's the case, even if it's someone who should be spit on, it's better to go through the wounds with a "crazy person" who is doing dad activities. There is nothing more humiliating for a "crazy person" than being heard by a "sane person" who understands you.