What you need when you can't say no

Thank you very much for always watching.
This is Toritani, who is in charge of the Kyoto branch of Universe Club, who loves sweets!

Do you have the strength to say no?

Do you have the courage to say no?
Toritani, to be honest, it's hard to say that he does, but I think he does.

if it's small
・Demonstration sales
・When handing out leaflets
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if it's big
・ Religious solicitation
・When a friend asks you to borrow money
・Hard selling
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I think there are many things from small to large.
Such things are skillfully solicited by various people, from people you trust to people you don't know at all.
Do you refuse at times like that?

What you need to think about when someone who can't refuse refuses

I think that people who can't refuse will not be able to refuse when asked, or will be forced to listen to the request.
There is something I want you to think about at such times.
I would like to tell you about such things this time, so I would be happy if you could watch it to the end.

1. Think about your feelings

It's time to decline an invitation from the other party, but I think I'm probably sorry for myself.
However, I think that there is no end if you think about the feelings of the other person.
In such a case, first determine whether it will be at your disadvantage.
If you feel that it will be disadvantageous to judge, I think that it is better to refuse firmly.

2. Think objectively

If you think about your position when invited by the other party, it will be more difficult to refuse.
・I wonder if you did something like this before
・Because you always help me
・You did a lot in the past
I think there are as many reasons why people can't say no to human relationships.
Consider your position objectively.
・Isn't this unreasonable from an objective point of view?
- Objectively, isn't this brute force?
・Isn't this objectively unfair?
First, put yourself out of your position and think about your current relationship.

3. Decline clearly

At the end, please refuse with words that the other party can understand.
Nuance alone is not enough.
It is important to firmly refuse.
At that time, I want you to be careful
・ Polite language
・Do not use ambiguous words
- Express your apologies
Please be sure to tell me that.
I think that just by doing that, it will be overwhelmingly transmitted to the other party.

A Final Word

What did you think?
This is just the easy part.
There are many more reasons and ideas you can't refuse.
Ignore that and think about it.
If you don't refuse, people close to you may get hurt.
Please have the courage to refuse yourself so that it does not happen.