Hello.This is Shingo Lee, a column writer.
　I would like to tell you about my own experience and what I have learned from that experience.

 

　Nampa is an act of getting acquainted with an unspecified number of people, so you will inevitably come into contact with foreign cultures.

 

　It's still early autumn before it becomes corona.I met her under the overpass in Yurakucho.
With flowing blond hair, wearing a tight rider jacket on her white skin, she is feminine yet cool.

 

"You look sluggish. You must be tired from work. Let's have a drink and relieve stress."

 

　She is French Canadian and 29 years old.She seems to like Japanese pop culture, and she seems to have come to Japan to pursue Japanese idol groups using her working holiday.

　Although my real name is different, I will call her Meg here because she looks like Meg Ryan in the movie "You've Got Mail".

　This time I would like to divide what I learned from this Meg into the first and second half.

 

Encounter Underpass

　

At first, I spoke to him in Japanese, but he didn't seem to be that good at Japanese, so I spoke in English.On that day, after going to a Senbero store in Akachochin, which is a little far from Yurakucho, I took him to my favorite bar because he wanted to drink some more.

 

　Meg was a truly beautiful woman.Her big eyes, blue eyes, and her white skin are translucent.Above all, her small face seemed to emphasize her neat features even more than anything else.

 

　I myself often face off against people from other countries, but in Christian cultural spheres it is more difficult to harmonize values ​​than in Buddhist cultural spheres, and I often struggle.

 

　After having a fun introduction of myself at the Senbero standing bar, I invited him to my favorite bar to sit down because I was a little tired from the standing bar.
　When I entered my favorite bar, I said, "It's a little hot."

　I felt strangely excited about her delicate body.

　Despite her small body of about 155cm, she had a bewitching atmosphere.

 

　By this time, European countries had played against England, France, Switzerland, etc., but all of them were unable to fill the gap in their values ​​and continued to suffer crushing defeats.

 

　I had just been dumped in quick succession by two French women who were wearing it on a long-stay trip, so I decided to reconcile my values ​​and focus on closing the distance.
If you are a regular street pick-up, it is standard to invite you to a hotel on the day you meet.But I didn't rush and decided to face Meg.Now that I think about it, maybe she was afraid to lose Meg because she was so lovely.

 

　Meg said, “I like Japanese beer and chuhai.

 

What are the values ​​of Canadian women you care about?

 

　I asked, "On Japanese SNS, there are often discussions about whether men should treat men on dates. What do you think?"

"Do Japanese girls take it for granted that a man buys them? That's silly. But if a man doesn't buy on the first date, Canadian women think it's 'no pulse'. Just say goodbye

When I asked, "So, aren't you with a Japanese woman?"

“Japanese women have no respect for being treated to something.

 

In this exchange, I was moved by the word "respect for the other party".Perhaps it was rolled in Meg's palm and "induced to treat", but it was so touching that it seemed refreshing.

 

　I learned many other things from Meg during the day, but I'll save that for next time.Please look forward to.

 

The importance of daring to question "common sense"

 

　Dating a foreigner is a good opportunity to reconsider your daily self.Reconciling each other's backgrounds and values ​​and clearly defining "the distance between you and yourself" is also the work of defining your own values ​​and positions.

 

　How much does romance occupy your life? Is sex entertainment or communication? How much is your time alone worth?

 

　I think that there are many other things that do not go well as a result of neglecting this process because there is an illusion that basic values ​​are shared even between Japanese people.

　Between a man and a woman, regardless of the form of the relationship, whether it's love or dad life, I think it's important to start with basic values.

 

　I used to live in the United States, and the general style of dating is "dating," in which you go on dates and have sex several times before you officially start dating, and then decide whether or not you want to go out with someone. .

　As you know, Canada is a neighboring country to the United States, so I thought that they would have the same values, but apparently Meg's values ​​are "not having sex until you are officially dating", but it is common in Europe and the United States. He seemed to have a sense of value that "marriage is an extension of love".
In Japan, there are quite a few opinions that love is love and marriage is marriage.

 

　On that day, I talked about values ​​with Meg, promised to have yakitori and delicious beer next time, and parted.

　Well, let's talk about the future in the second part.