In Search of the Ideal Woman (Extra: Thoughts on Mr. Takita's Blog Comments)

This time, I will change the schedule and write what I think about the comments on Mr. Takita's blog.

I think it's hard to understand even if you suddenly say Mr. Takita's blog, so I will explain it simply.

The Universe Club has an official blog where employees post their thoughts.

This is a blog that helped me a lot during my time there.

Mr. Takita posted the other day

"Takita believes that men's libido is not just a place to satisfy women's desire for money."

When I read the blog, I thought "That's right" as the title says, but what surprised me was the comment that was included.

That is, Men's Column DarlingIt was a criticism of several people, including myself, who have posted on

I was about to comment too, but it seemed like an emotional post, so I stopped.I will cool my head again and write what I think.
 

Regarding personalization of the column comment field

I am reflecting here.

I can imagine that the place where the contributors commented on each other was not a pleasant thing to see from the outside, saying, "It's just getting excited among the friends." increase.
 

About personalization of posted columns

It is impossible for me, who is just an amateur, to post something that will appeal to everyone.

So that's all I want to say in my article.

"Don't make mistakes like me"And those who want to be of some help are men who have just joined the club.

That's why it's a post that doesn't really convey to those who enjoy clubbing, and if it's a bad sentence, it's even worse.

As long as the club has allowed me to post and I have something to say, I cannot agree with the claim that the column is personal property.

In fact, I had to rewrite this article twice because I had some criticisms (laughs).It's checked by the club, so I don't think it's going to be privatized.
 

About comments

The comments on Mr. Takita's blog were critical of the column's contributors, including myself.

That's fine.
 

Because I can't write something that will appeal to everyone.The question is, why is that place?That means.

Perhaps they have contacted the club directly asking them to stop posting.

Still, it will be published, so it may have been criticized on the spot.But maybe there was another way.

"One-on-one when angry"
 

I was taught a long time ago, and my interpretation is, "When you get angry, don't do it in front of everyone. You hurt the person more than necessary and you can't convey what you want to say. That's why when you get angry, it's one-on-one." .

Of course, criticism and anger are different, but I think it makes sense if you change the anger part to criticism.

I wrote earlier that there might have been another way, because I have this thought.

Since the comment section is a public place, I can't say it's one-on-one, but if I were you, I'd directly put a critical comment in that column, and I think that's a way of showing respect to the other person.

If you are criticized in a public place where everyone can see, in a place that is not directly related, no matter how much you think you are right, the person who said it will not be able to take it honestly.Although it was later retracted, Mac made it clear that he would not contribute to the column.

I digress, but I like Mac's column.

If you read it superficially, it will just blow you away (I'm sorry Mr. Mac), but the reason why you can change a woman so much, isn't it?If I could do that, I would be able to create the kind of relationship I was looking for with a woman.Someone commented that he wanted to become Mac's apprentice, and I agree with him (laughs).
 

I don't think there is anything more difficult than commenting.Because they don't know each other.

It's difficult to convey your thoughts anonymously to someone you don't know, and only with letters.Even more so if it is a criticism.

Since we are anonymous, we have to be very careful with our words and our distance, or the opportunity for communication will be ruined.
 

When I was in the club, I didn't know any male members, and I kept it a secret from my friends.

It was a trial-and-error club activity by myself, so when I joined the club, I relied a lot on the information on the bulletin board (which is no longer there), and that helped me a lot.

There was such a thing.

At the very first interview, when I asked about the rate of entertainment expenses

“I cannot give you an answer.There is a bulletin board, so please take a look there.』
 

Now I can understand why you answered so, but at the time I was at a loss.Because it's my first time in a dating club and I don't know right or left.

read the bulletin board anyway

What kind of shop should I go to for the first time about entertainment expenses?And so on here.

As I wrote in Episode 2, it was thanks to the bulletin board that I got along well with Minami-san, whom I met for the first time. (I was dumped because of me lol)

This bulletin board was later closed, but since it was a closed forum for members only, it was full of specific information.

For me, who worked alone, there is nothing more important than information.

Since anyone can see the official blog, there is a limit to the information that can be issued.This is helpful for those who are familiar with clubs to some extent.Beginners want concrete and raw information.

For example, travel expenses.On the official blog, I write about things like one hand (I don't even know if I read this much), but specifically, it's a story about Nambo and Nen.

The bulletin board said 3 yen for gold class women and 4 yen for platinum class women, so I did.

It's a pity when such a valuable bulletin board is closed...
 

I heard that the reason for the closure was that some employees were slandered and stressed out.

Some employees have closed the comment section of the official blog now.

If the comment section is messed up like that, it can be a safe blog or column that no one will criticize.

I don't want anyone to criticize me.Then the blog and column will be thin, and the column may even be closed.

It's the people who have just joined the club who have cut off their sources of information that are the most troublesome, and it's also a problem for people who are used to clubs, isn't it?

In the past the bulletin board has really been shut down.

I joined the club in the summer of 2016.

The same thing happened over and over again in less than two years.

say what should be said
I think it's a good thing.

 

However, it is meaningless if it does not reach the other party.

As Mr. Mack wrote, your standards are different from mine.
In order to prevent this from happening, it is important to be careful.

Would you like to have a little more compassion for your opponent, including me?
 

Would you like to make a comment that is easy for the other party to receive?
 

Why don't we help each other become better?

I know that even if I, who was criticized, write this, it is not persuasive.

It goes without saying that I quit the club, but I dared to write an article because I was worried about it since I was a student.

I hope that my blogs and columns will become places for better communication.

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