Anonymous Question Box Part XNUMX: Aesthetics on the verge of leaving

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In this column, I would like to share my opinions on the questions that I was particularly interested in through my experiences, mainly from the questions sent to the anonymous questionnaire box. increase.

We hope that this column will serve as a guide for those who have just joined the dating club and those who are considering joining.

Thank you very much.
 

aesthetics of the passing

Please forgive me for making this column a little heavy because my thoughts are strong and uninteresting (laughs).

It was also the opportunity for me to become a respondent to an anonymous questionnaire box.

"Leaving Aesthetics at the Dating Club"
https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/1481

I've picked up what I've been thinking about all the time.

The person who asked this question is probably a woman in a relationship, and the purpose of the question was determined to be "Everyone, what kind of breakup should I do when the relationship ends?"

When I saw this question, it was almost the same situation as the first farewell I experienced, so I locked on with the questioner saying, "I wanted you to say it too."
 

the difficulty of parting

I also think it's very difficult to say goodbye at a dating club, so I'm still wondering which one is better?　

I'm not sure either.

The reason is that even if the relationship started with mutual consent, I think that it is not so common to say that the relationship ends with mutual consent, just like in general relationships between men and women.

This is because I think that there are many cases in which one of the parties ends the relationship without being satisfied at the time of termination.

Therefore, I think that blocking communication is a method to quickly secure a distance to a safe zone by bringing it to a unilateral end of a relationship, partly because of the prevention of crimes such as stalking.
 

The closing

On the other hand, although I can understand the idea of ​​​​cutting off communication, I wonder if there is a more amicable ending.

If you only meet once or twice, you may not know each other very well.

"I want you to do more like this. (I wanted it.) I want you to stop doing this. (I wanted it.)"

can't you say?

If you have met more than XNUMX-XNUMX times and have deepened your relationship with each other, you can generally understand the other person's abilities, personality, and what you expect from a relationship.

Dating clubs have a contractual relationship with each other.

Even if you can't meet and talk face-to-face, isn't it possible to "farewell" via LINE or email?　

And so on.


This is because I think that by doing this for each other, we will be able to obtain secondary effects that can be used in the next relationship and human relationship with the relationship that has been dissolved.
 

What I learned from the aesthetics of the passing away

I think that the person who asked this question about "the aesthetics of leaving" was probably expecting "words of farewell" and was trying to make use of it in the eventual farewell.

Since it was a sudden communication cutoff, I wonder if he was able to sort out his feelings by asking questions.

Our relationship is not something that can be said publicly, that's why we have to work sincerely with each other for a once-in-a-lifetime chance, foster a relationship where we can say "thank you" to each other, and have a relationship without regrets. I think
 

What is the process to get there?

In addition, in the process of reaching that point, for example, the party who intends to end the relationship gradually reduces the frequency of the relationship.

Alternatively, adopting a method such as waiting only for contact from the other party can make the other party feel a change from the previous relationship, so it is a very passive and great idea. , I think that it is an effective means to plan a farewell in a natural way.

The other is the review of dating conditions.

Regarding the review of dating conditions, we recognize that there are many negative opinions even in the anonymous questionnaire box.

Dating clubs are always looking for the best companions.

Therefore, if there is a discrepancy between the relationship you want and the relationship you actually have, you will be looking for the next partner, and you will be able to put your feelings and funds into the new partner rather than the allowance.

However, I think there is also a way of thinking of compromise, not only pursuing the ideal here, but also searching for a place where each other can settle down.

Those of you who are married can understand this, but I think that all ordinary couples are generally like that.

If that is the case, I think that renegotiation with the other party with whom you feel comfortable is also "possible".

Taking the example of negotiating a reduction in wages with a woman, the woman may be a little dissatisfied, but if the relationship continues, she will be able to maintain a stable economic foundation and be good for her mental health.

I also think that it will be easier for men to continue due to the benefits of reducing the financial burden.

Since negotiating an increase with men is the opposite of the above, I think that both men and women will benefit, and I think it will be easier to proceed with the cancellation of the contract.

No matter which method is adopted, I would like to proceed in a state where we can face each other until the end.

When and how will you end the relationship with the woman you are currently dating?I can't predict it, but when I was at a loss, I rushed into a dating club and chose from among many women.

If possible, I'm working on it while always thinking that I would like to say goodbye, "Thank you for your help."
 

in conclusion

I hope you understand that this column is what I always think is the best at the moment.

Also, if you have something that makes you think, "What about this?"