A dating club that's not just sweet and sour: at the end

Hi, I'm Ren.So far the relationship through the dating club and the turmoil of my heartI've been writing mainly.

This time, as the final episode,Risk and return or benefits through encounters and relationships hereI would like to touch on the advantages and disadvantages.of course,This is an ongoing situation, so it is neither complete nor exhaustive.So, just my personal impression at the moment,I hope you can take it as such.

 

table of contents

• Motivation and Background of Joining Dating Club: Limitation of Information Collection
• First Dates: Utilizing Staff and “Second Dates”What I did to avoid wasting
• Continuity: On Relationships and Sense of Distance
• Controlling Your Emotions: Having Multiple Parallel Relationships
• Happenings are inevitable: various things happen (^^;; 
• Finally: The risk and return of using the dating club←This time here!

 

“Return” of joining the club (merit, what you got)

It hasn't been long since I joined, so it's still a "brain flower garden"Although it is in the state ofA positive heartbeat like loveI think it's a clear advantage to be able to taste it.

There is also a tsukkomi that it is not worth the age, but the uplifting feeling of the heart isI think it has the power to change the way we spend our daily lives.

Especially big is "recognizing that I am a male",I feel that we cannot ignore the fact that actions will change as a result.increase.Of course, meeting here

• First of all, the other person is also looking for a date
• The male-female ratio is clearly male-dominated

In that sense, I'm wearing "thick-soled geta",It is not "mote" in the essential sense.

But still "The stance of "be attractive as a man" is "everyday"I think it will have a positive effect on

 

• Weight and physique management
• clothing selection
• Cleanliness
• Body odor/breath odor
• Attitude... etc.

It will be an opportunity to (again) reflect on various things.

In particular"weight managementBecause it leads to a change in physique, it seems easy to see from the outside.

From family and work-related people (inside and outside the company), "Have you lost weight?"Since it has become more common to sayI think you will see a change.

(However, as will be described later,This change is also risky.Sweat)

 

Also, the original purpose was to create time to become a male.It brings obvious mental stability.

In short,It means that I was "frustrated" before doing this activity (Sweat), the “mental pocket” that is born through this activity isJudgment necessary for work (especially management),I feel like I'm raising my patience.

 

In addition, I am "home" and "play"But I basically don't talk about the contents of the work.

Then,Don't you get anything out of talking to your partner?When you sayThere is no such thing.
 

one generation below"Stance towards life" "The vague anxiety I feel about societyValues ​​and sensibilities toward work and companytouch theThis is very useful for team management.
 

In particular,Since birth, we have been surrounded by digital devices with high usability.use SNS as a matter of course,This feeling is something that my generation does not have, so I called it "At least understand it with your head."It is also a very important input to become a trigger forYou.
 

Women who participate in these activitiesIn the first place, compared to the same generation, it is mature,I guess that meansCompared to when I was the age of the people I'm dating now, it's obviousI often admire that "I'm solid".

 

The “risks” (or disadvantages,anxiety)

Like return and merit, risk and demerit are “tangible” and “intangible”, “measurable”, “immeasurable”I think there are various factors.Regardless of lightness or heavyness, if you list the items in an ad-hoc manner,

 

• Expenditure cannot be ignored
• I have to spend time
• Not only family but also work people are afraid to find out
• It's supposed to be "play", but I feel like I'm jealous
• No matter how much you fix it, it's a "secret"

 

In particular, I think that family break-ups can occur in a variety of situations.I remember a few chilling scenes. . .

 

• You've lost weight.Are you on a diet too?Sweat
• Isn't there a lot of incoming calls on Line recently?sweat sweat
• There are a lot of dinners these days.It's hard.sweat sweat sweat
• I lost the receipt.It's not an expense sweat sweat sweat sweat

(Fortunately, her taste in clothes isn't that bad,There have not been many changes in terms of clothing. )

 

The point is, I don't know where it will come out, soIt's bad if you don't raise the alert level everywhere.

It's just "play".However, in order to make it a sustainable "play",We must never forget that it is a "secret".

To be honest, meeting here is "full of risks"I think it is the activity ofOf course, the riskWhen there is, or is expected to be, a return relationship, this "I think it's time to stop playing.

 

A Final Word

There are various opinions about dating clubs (Most of them are probably negative/critical)I think I remember that there is.

If I don't need it,I don't think I've ever used a place like this before.

 

However, there are many relationships between partners.

Especially the so-called "I feel that the problem of “less” is difficult to deal with regardless of gender.

It's not pretty,That is my feeling as a participant.

"I do not want to do it"Changing sides is futile, and if you go "forcibly," it's a "crime."It will be.

Especially "married business"Other than the problem ofWe are creating a relationship where we can compromise with each other to make it work.)Too much trouble for the case.

Without fear of misunderstanding,I don't think it's the kind of thing to discuss with others.

 

When it becomesI believe that the parties must find their own way to resolve the issue..

one side endures, Emphasize the feeling of "those who do not want to" and borrow a professional's hand,Divorce as a last resort.
 

Of course, unintentionally, "serious adultery"I think there are cases that lead tothis will not make anyone happyshould be avoided as an option.

 

Under such circumstances, meeting at the dating club is morally "white"It can be said that it is not, but the "receptacle" of the above problemI capture it as one form of.in short,

 

• Money is often involved
• Not necessarily a professional in that field
• You can create a relationship with a specific person
• The premise is that we are not serious about each other

…etc

 

The characteristic of the encounter here is to mix "gray",After all, it can remain "gray",I wonder if that is the meaning of existence. . .I think so.

 

Without any particular conclusion,I have written down what I felt up to this point.I would like to conclude this series with this..

All 7 times including the extra edition,Thank you for joining us in Rumble.

Len