Dating club that's not just sweet and sour (5)

Hi, I'm Ren.So far, I have mainly described encounters and relationship building through the dating club.I have come.

This time,Little incidents that occur through dating and feelings at that timeI would like to write about the shaking and response.

 

table of contents

・ Motives and circumstances for joining the dating club: limits of information collection

・ First date: Utilization of staff and “second date”What I did to avoid wasting

・ Continuity: About relationships and sense of distance

・ Controlling your emotions: dating multiple people in parallel

・ Happenings are unavoidable: various things happen (^^;; ←Coco this time!

・ Finally: the risks and rewards of using dating clubs

 

Happenings: Big and small things happen (Are you doing something?)

If you go on dates many times,Good things and bad things happen.If anything, I feel that happenings are more of a bad thing.

 

What I have experienced is

• Wrong meeting place ( ；∀；)
• I can't find the shop/I forget the location ( ；∀；)
• Forgetting to reserve a room ( ；∀；)
• I misunderstand the hotel where I took the room and guide me ( ；∀；)
• I forget to give thanks ( ；∀；)
• I'm late for work: I can't contact you even if I'm late ( ；∀；)

. . .When arranged in this way, essentially"man-made disaster"is not it. . .I think that the other party is accepting well.

 

Also, compared to the above,There were also incidents that caused great damage to both myself and the other party.Ri you.

It was a successful first date with a certain person,Let's meet continuously,I woke up on the day I was shown to the room for the first time.

 

This person is very friendly with me,The conversation was so lively that I almost missed the last train from the first date,As a matter of course, the date of the day was also exciting.

However,Maybe they were a little nervous, so they both drank quite a bit. . .And somehow flirting started in the taxi heading to the room.Mari (driver, sorry!),I notice a "something strange" happening to me. . .that?Do you not react at all?

Even if I drink a little alcohol, I react normally,I lost all signs of reacting,This was my first experience in life.

"This turned out to be pretty bad, didn't it? ? ”
 

I am very upset ((((; ゚ Д ゚))))))))

Then, for some reason, he suddenly said, "Gentleman (? )” comes down and asks the other party to return,And I notice that I have not handed over the taxi fare.

"outrage"is a chain of . . orz

Naturally, this "riot"has the destructive power of a triple play,Disappointment (+ anger) from the other party immediately afterI got a line and immediately blocked it.

 

Even now, my actions at this point are unclear. . .

For the time being, "You can stay here until morning."And another self is tsukkoko. . .

This is also a "man-made disaster"is not it.Even if I remember it now, it's such an embarrassing memory that if I had a hole, I'd want to go into it.
 

The other person at this time was a very beautiful person with a good personality,It was a real shame for me andI feel really sorry for this person.

 

A big happening for men = what it means to be a girl on a date

A few days before the date (sometimes the day before) "I became a girl"contact.The feeling of being excited pulls for a moment.smile

I have a room cancellation.Furthermore, what to do with this date in the first place, "Angel" and "Devil"goes round and round in my head.

 

(Devil) It's not funny that there's no after dinner.Let's postpone.

(Angel) Isn't it fun to spend time together?Let's meet as planned.

 

Basically, I'm a chicken, so "Angel" always wins.. .

However, to "become a girl" is actually the following 1)In addition to the nonsensical reason of 2), there is also a case ofThat's what I experience.
 

1) It simply overlapped with such a day

2) Stepping stone to end the relationship

In the case of 1), the countermeasure is simple, remember the day,All you have to do is adjust the subsequent dates so that they do not overlap with that cycle,If you are in a relationship that is open to some extent, "It doesn't overlap, right?"I feel like I can prevent it if I hear that.

In addition, I asked if we could meet next time without much delay.I will alsoIn many casesYou can respond to the next date without leaving a gap.

Even from the other party, you can't get the full amount of thanks just for the meal.So, taking off the cycle will be a rational action.

If you think about it, "becoming a girl" around the scheduled datecan be painful for your partner.

Also, if you think mainly about money, "resuke"I also feel that it will be a rational action in a time efficient manner.

In that sense, it isI'm enjoying my time together,This may be becauseI'm trying to think that it's good to be happy.

 

On the other hand, case 2) is also rare.this isYour partner (essentially) occur on the serious sideI think it's

Having a partner (including a new daddy),I don't want to create a relationship that crosses the line with anyone other than that person, orWhen you want to liquidate the encounter through the club as yourself,This is the case when you want to make a face-to-face “declaration of the end of the relationship”.

 

In a case I experienced in practice, I arbitrarily 1)I interpret it as "I want to eat just rice", and at this time also "Angel"wins, enjoys a meal and goes to the second party,When I was about to decide on the next date, I said, "I can't see you anymore.sorry. "have become.

Thinking about it now, if the "devil" won and went to reschedule,I think it was a strange development,If I'm not good at it, I wonder if there was a fade-out due to the schedule adjustment, What do you think?

If you think so, being "declared to end the relationship"It's a pretty big shock, but directly from the person's mouth, "I want to end the relationshipThere is also a good aspect that the line is clearly drawn,Looking back.

 

After my experience of case 2),As long as the other party says it's okay to meet,It's better for me to go on a date as planned,I think.

In fact, if you think you don't have to worry about what happens after your meal,Enjoy your meal and switch your mind to enjoy the after party as much as you canIf so, I think it will be a very meaningful time.

 

happy happenings too

Basically, happenings are often bad (and man-made disasters...lol)However, as the number of times we meet increases and we build relationships,Some happy things happen.

 

For example, when the other party went on a private trip,It means that you will bring me a souvenir.

The relationship created in the club isBasically, it is a relationship that does not enter private, soI don't exist in your partner's daily life,That's how I feel.

Under such circumstances, the act of buying souvenirs at a private travel destinationYou remembered me =I was able to appear in the other person's daily life, albeit for a moment,Therefore,I'm honestly happy about this.

 

Also, make a proposal with no good source,We can celebrate your partner's birthday,It's a pretty happy happening.

If I'm your partnerI save my anniversaries to spend with my friends and lovers,I think that the chances of getting an OK are basically low.is

 

Therefore, when we make a proposal and accept it,I am quite enthusiastic and think about a date plan.smile

I am very satisfied with myselfLet's start the new year togetherIt's a very happy time to be able to celebrate.

 

Well, next time will be the final column for this subject,As a summary, "The risk and return of using the dating clubI would like to write about

Len