It's not always fun

Being a dad is always fun.

To be honest, this is how I always play with women who are active fathers.

The pleasure includes everything from healing to being able to forget the daily fatigue.

That's why we sometimes end up with the illusion that we have become younger.

The older I get, the less I take these daily encounters and activities for granted, and they are so precious to me.

However, it's not all that fun.

Today, I'm going to talk about the troubles I sometimes have with women who are active dads.

I had a long Obon holiday the other day, and I enjoyed it in my own way.

But not everything was fun.

If you're a father and are a father, you've probably experienced it several times.

This problem occurs several times a year, almost without fail.

It's called an argument with a woman.

This is the reason why I got into an argument with a woman this time.

This year's Obon was surprisingly long, and I spent the time mainly with women who don't usually get to hang out.

I've talked about this before, but it was a chance for me to spend time with a ``rare woman'' that I don't usually have time for.

When it's easy to take a long vacation, like this year's Obon holiday, women who usually work during the day have the advantage of being able to meet up easily.

Especially if you have a contract with a lot of people like me, you tend to end up playing with the people you don't usually meet easily.

This may be self-satisfaction, but Japanese people have a weakness for limited items. (Feelings that can only be obtained now)

I guess you could call it that rare, but he has a habit of neglecting the women he usually hangs out with during those times when his feelings are shaken.

In the end, there's only one of me, so I have no choice but to choose one.

So this time, a problem arose.

After Obon, when I contacted the woman I usually hang out with, the atmosphere was different than usual.

When you say this, what is wrong with the person himself? Have you not noticed? I'm one of them too.

Naturally, I contacted them without seeming to notice them at all.

Then, the first thing he said in the phone conversation was, "My dad is the worst."

I asked her, ``What's wrong? Did you do something?'' and she answered, ``What's wrong? Did you do something?''

"What were you doing during the Obon holidays? I was waiting for you to invite me, but... were you hanging out with other women? I feel more betrayed than jealous."

It's not like I made a promise to her either.

So I answered like this.

"Yeah? I didn't make any promises, and I thought you were busy in your private life, so I was trying to be considerate, right? If I made you uncomfortable, I apologize. I'm sorry."

Why did I have to apologize? It's still a mystery, but she is a very nice woman, so I thought it would be sad to cancel her contract, so I apologized first.

We actually ended up having dinner that night, and we started talking again.

Apparently, she wanted to treat me to something, including thanking me for the days.

That too during the Obon period.

To be honest, I'm glad I didn't judge her based on her phone calls.

To be honest, thanking me almost brought tears to my eyes.

Even if I didn't think it was my fault at that time, I'm glad I apologized.

Young children today don't want to bow to others much.

Of course, there is also pride.

However, from what I've seen, there are a lot of women who are trying to become fathers, and even if it's their fault, they try to argue with each other and get out of the situation.

At this point, there are probably many men who get carried away by the same pace and get angry.

I used to be one of them.

So, even if I signed a contract as a wonderful woman, the contract would be canceled after a few months.

I wonder if the generation that we are now parents to have lost touch with the customs of the Showa era.

Perhaps there is a part of you that sees women as weak, and misunderstands that women are the ones who should apologize.

It's obvious, but there's no need to apologize if it wasn't your fault.

However, if the woman is the type who can't apologize, it may be a necessary skill for a father to apologize first as an adult, even if it's just a formality, and to clean up the situation. hey.

I'm always learning about that part of my life as a dad.

But even now, I get irritated when a much younger woman says something to me in a strong tone.

After all, it's a dad's life, so if you just hold back, some women end up saying things like, ``Actually, I wanted to do something for my dad,'' like this time.

The woman in question has been under contract for two and a half years.

Maybe that's why he couldn't forgive me for spending money playing with another woman.

At my age, I didn't expect a woman to call me out for being restrictive, so I was a little happy.

I feel like being able to feel this kind of joy is one of the privileges that comes with being a father.

However, there are some women whose anger cannot be subdued even with these adult responses.

If so, what should you do?

This is something that I have experienced since becoming a father, but the younger the woman, the more excessive the demands become if she buys a present to please him or apologizes more than necessary. may be presented to you.

Therefore, if you feel that this is not going to work out, you need to think about how to fade out and cancel the contract.

After all, young women have little life experience.

For this reason, when it comes to daddy activities, you shouldn't make him think that everything will go his way.

This needs to be determined from the father's perspective.

Even my friends have told me that they let women have their way with them, but in the end, they were unable to respond to their excessive demands (for example, please buy me an apartment), and they ended up canceling the contract in a bad mood. I will.

Therefore, if you get into an argument with a woman who is a father, where should you draw the line? One option might be to think about this before signing a contract.