Learning from the match with 37-year-old child Naoko (pseudonym)

Naoko (pseudonym), a 37-year-old mother of two, whom I met last time.
Because the conditions are quite high, on the contrary, the expected value has risen, and I definitely want to play one match!So we decided to meet.

As a result, it was not a particularly interesting match, and it was concluded that we would not continue to meet.But, "What didn't suit me?" By verbalizing it to write this article, I came to understand what I wanted from a woman in my own "relationship", which was somewhat ambiguous, so it was beneficial in its own way. It was an encounter.

Lunch→Hotel

I wanted Chinese food and couldn't drink alcohol, so I tried it here.

China Blue
https://s.tabelog.com/tokyo/A1301/A130103/13019633/

There is no private room for two people, but the space between the tables is wide, so it is easy to talk without worrying about the surroundings.

The taste is not worthy of special mention, but the scenery is nice and the gorgeous feeling is not bad for women.There are many variations of tea, so I think it's good for those who can't drink.When I use a hotel restaurant, I have a somewhat personal feeling, but when I go to the room after eating, I don't like the feeling of being noticed by passing by the front desk if it's a restaurant on the lower floors. , If possible, I thought it would be preferable to eat on the upper floor and go straight to the room.
However, I felt that there were not many restaurants on the upper floors of luxury hotels in Tokyo that would satisfy me, but this one was relatively good.

What kind of woman was she and what didn't suit her

I thought it wouldn't fit, and I didn't have the motivation to meet again.For some reason I will write it again.His personality gave a very serious impression, and he was like the following.

・She has a clean relationship with the opposite sex (I don't know if that's a good expression), and she seems to have never had an affair.
・ Married at a young age and has little experience with men
・ It's the first time I'm looking for a man with a clear relationship

As for the reasons why I thought it didn't fit,

1) Communication on LINE is troublesome
Basically, I'm a person who doesn't communicate frequently because it's troublesome to communicate with LINE or email.Even if you are in a romantic relationship, if you don't contact me, I won't contact you, and sometimes I won't contact you for about a month. no).

2) Low technical maturity
Maybe because I don't have much experience with men, I feel nervous and awkward.It was boring to say without choosing words.

3) Lack of self-confidence
I think it's probably because I spent a long time focusing on raising children, or because I had little contact with the outside world for a long period of time.She's a very pretty person, but she doesn't make a lot of claims to the point that it's a waste.I like to do something about women who have more pride and come from above, so I didn't feel like that was a good fit.

4) Somewhat difficult to live
The high demand was not for a price that was a manifestation of self-confidence. It seems that

Then what kind of person would be suitable?

I wrote a lot of reasons why I thought it didn't suit me, but then what kind of person would be good for me?I thought it would be better to evaluate the items as follows.

・Do you have a type of appearance?
・Technology at night
・Sense of beauty and self-confidence
·Youth
・Mental comfort
・Economic comfort
・Lover feeling

This is what the chart looks like.

Thinking about it again, when I'm with a woman, whether it's romantic or casual, I try to meet her expectations and needs as much as possible, but the rest of the time I leave her alone. I want. I don't think there are many P-active girls who are happy with frequent or unimportant interactions from men, so this woman may be a rare person.

It's important to be able to enjoy sex as a sport, not a romance, and to have certain skills to enjoy it.Also, I feel more comfortable being rolled around by women, so I really like women who work nights, such as hostesses.I'm good at bargaining with men, or rather.It's just my experience, but I feel that women who have a lot of experience with men are more skilled and satisfied with both communication and physical relationships, so I thought again that such women are better.

Also, of course, I think it's difficult to express it because I think it's a story that if you have financial leeway, you won't do P-katsu, but rather than people who are in poverty and do P-katsu to reduce the negative to zero, I think that there are many cases where people who have a certain amount of financial leeway and do P-katsu to build up extra things have more peace of mind and are able to enjoy conversations.

So, if you look at the importance for yourself, it will look like this.

Thinking about the gap with women this time, I wonder if it's something like the following.I felt that what I valued and her characteristics and good points didn't mesh completely.

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I think that Naoko (a pseudonym) is a very good person depending on the man.You can enjoy a pseudo-romance, and it has a youthfulness and freshness that makes you look like you are in your 20s.For me, that was one of the negative points.
It was different from what I expected, but it was a realization and a very meaningful encounter.She is certainly a good woman and I hope she finds a man who is compatible with her.