The day I went from being a 'girl friend' to being a 'mama friend'

This is a continuation of the previous column "The Day I Became a Woman".
(https://universe-club.jp/column/watasigaonna）

It's been three years since I met her for the first time.At the end of this column, she received her marriage announcement from her, and that her husband is already sexless.

After that, as a daily story, I wrote a little bit towards the end of another column, but I received a report that the husband was cheating on the app.

"The other side of a certain male member"
(https://universe-club.jp/column/toarudansei）

""Thank you" to the dating woman"
(https://universe-club.jp/column/arigatou）

However, she will give birth to a boy next month.

Is it easy to do?smile
congratulations (^^)

Review so far

・Meet her on the app
・The relationship starts at XNUMX each time
・Changed to XNUMX per month
・Received a marriage proposal one year after meeting
・Refuse a marriage proposal and make you cry
・I thought we would never see each other again, but from now on, our relationship as just a “friend” will start.
・She can get a boyfriend relatively soon
・I can't have sex, and after eating, I change from a hotel to Starbucks
- Earn more Starbucks points
・Suddenly called and receive a marriage report with the boyfriend
・I can't see you anymore.And we cry each other (laughs)
・I thought we'd never see each other again, but from now on, I'll become a woman and start a relationship as a "female friend."
・Receive cheating report from husband
・Husband has money suppressed and is GPS controlled
・I sympathize with my husband, and for some reason I want to support him.

This story continues from here.

Christmas "Women's Association"

Even after I became a girlfriend, we often went on dates.

I wonder if it's okay.Even though it's Christmas.

When are you going to eat next?When I asked, it was Christmas.

I wonder if it's okay.Even though it's Christmas.

Is it okay? Because it's a "girls' party" (laughs)

Then I decided to go to the hotel for Christmas dinner.

When I saw her dressed up in a formal place after a long time, I honestly thought, "She's cute."

At that moment, I returned to being a man (laughs).

Is it a "Christmas" date?

There's definitely something

Only anticipation grows.

...and have a delicious dinner.

... and exchange gifts.

Finish the bill smartly and leave the restaurant.

Walk around the Christmas town while making small talk.

I somehow felt it in the atmosphere.

this guy! !

...Well, I'm going to go home like this! ?

(laughs)

For her, it's just a "women's association".

However, at that time, I had reverted to being a man.

(Just don't go home)

However, I came to the station ticket gate with Areyoareyo.

(Even though it's a Christmas date, this guy wants to go home for free)

(This guy definitely won't let me go home)

This is how I feel at that time.

Thinking about it now, it's crazy (laughs).

Horror development from here.If you don't like horror, skip it.

In front of the ticket gate, we were chatting for a while, but I slowly took one step, two steps, and slowly started to close the distance between her and me.

I can see her taking half a step back.

However, the stride I take naturally exceeds that.

While chatting in front of the station ticket gate, I approached her very close.

Confused by my face as I approached her while making small talk, she leaned back to keep her distance from me.

However, the speed of my upper body naturally exceeds that.

And in no time my huge face approached her and forcibly kissed her confused.In front of the ticket gate at the station (laughs)

Christmas, just don't go home.

My tenacity and grudge?overtook her guard.

It must have been scary (laughs).
'Cause I was clearly running away. .
I was completely backwards, and my upper body was also arched backwards. .

Anyway, I forcibly kissed him as a gift for Christmas.
And I made my way home with some satisfaction.

My face abruptly approaches me while making small talk.
That must have been scary. .

Dessert Buffet "Women's Association"

Later that day, I went to the hotel's dessert buffet.This is another serious "girls' party" lol

I missed the dessert buffet at the hotel last year, so I was finally able to go there after a year.

I ate it all the time (laughs).

No ~ I'm full.

I was about to leave the hotel after paying the bill.

Hotel employee (hereinafter referred to as subordinate)
"Excuse me. We are currently running a special campaign for couples only, and there is also a preferential treatment for overseas travel, so why not apply?"

She said, "I want to apply!"

(If you win, you can use it for her honeymoon and let her do what she likes.)

I said, "Okay."

Second: “Thank you very much!

She said, "(Looking at me) I'm going with you."

(Heh, why is that? No, you're just playing a married couple.)

I said, "Okay, let's go together."

Sub: “By the way, you two are already married, aren’t you?”

(My girlfriend and I are not married, but we are. How should I respond?)

She said, "Yes. I do."

(Don't hesitate lol)

I said, "Yes. I do."

Sub: “First of all, please answer the questionnaire.”

　...

Sub: Lastly, please fill in your name and address on this form.

(Mmm! What should I do!)

She writes fluently.

(Why can you write smoothly!? Lol)

(Hey! No more. Let's go with the flow.)

I will write too.

Then the employee looks at each form and looks suspicious.

Because the couple in front of me.Even though we are married, we have different names and addresses.(laughs)

Sub: "Huh? Um... what's your name?"


(Obviously lol, I just answered the questionnaire and got to the end of the application process. And she said she applied. I want to push through.)

I said, "Oh, we're not a married couple (laughs)."

Follow "Eh, then it's no good (laughs)"

She said, "Eh..."

(This is bad. I want to push through somehow. If this happens, the lie I told will be exposed, but it can't be helped.)

I said, "(Looking at her) Shouldn't ○○ go with her husband instead of me? You're applying now on behalf of the couple. (Looking at the employee) That's no good. money?"

Sub: “Hmm.

She said, "It's okay. I'll get in touch with my husband now."

(It's a situation I don't really understand, but what exactly is my existence? lol)

Anyway, the campaign application is over.

Armpit sweat erupted (laughs)

· · ·

Me: “I didn’t really understand your intentions, so I was sweating strangely, but from the beginning, I thought that I could use it on your honeymoon?”

She said, "No, I thought I should go with you."

I said, "No, let's go on a honeymoon with my husband!"

I try to avoid kissing, but we can go on trips together.

What are you doing? (laughs)

Heavy "girls' association"

"There is something I want to discuss with you."
I got a message like that, so I rushed to the "girls' party" that day.

She said, "I thought I wasn't feeling well recently, but I was pregnant. What should I do? I'm worried."

(Didn't you say sexless!)

Me: "How many weeks is it now?"

“I think it’s about XNUMX weeks,” she said.

(Hmm? It's been about a month since you said you were sexless, so if you count backwards, XNUMX weeks before that. So you haven't had sex since you said you were sexless, right?)

I mean, I don't care about that kind of thing (laughs)

I found out about my husband's cheating problem, but I didn't divorce because I was still young and thought I could get a divorce and go to the next one before I had a child.

However, since I am pregnant, in the worst case, if I get divorced and have an abortion, I have to decide quickly whether to divorce because of the problem of the pregnancy cycle.I can't say anything too long.What should I do?
That's what it means.It certainly bothers me.

After listening to her troubles, when I asked her about her recent husband, she seemed to be reflecting on cheating.To put it bluntly, I think he's a normal, not bad guy like me.There is also a sense of future growth prospects.

Besides, for some reason, I feel a sense of closeness to my husband, who has been holding back my money and receiving GPS control after having an affair.

In the first place, there is no way you can say, "Let's divorce such a husband and marry me."

In the end, the husband's "preparedness" will be the conclusion.
Unfortunately, it doesn't seem like a problem for which I can give any advice.

I recommended that I talk to my husband often and promised to consult anything if there was anything.

After that, she had a big fight with her husband and went back to her parent's house.However, she reported that her husband came to her parents' house to apologize and she managed to come to the conclusion that she would give birth without divorce.

My husband did a great job, too.Great.

What'll we do.
That's right, it's important to grow up together as a couple, instead of being an easy-going guy like me from the beginning.

"Women's party" with pregnant women

I thought I wouldn't be able to meet her because she's pregnant and has the coronavirus, but apparently she has a great appetite after entering the stable period, and she won't be able to move around freely for a while after giving birth, so she wants to eat a lot of delicious food while she's still there.

When that happens, it's my turn to buy something delicious.

She is the youngest child and the first grandchild for her parents.I don't have any friends who have children.In other words, I am the only one who knows the latest child-rearing information.

When that happens, it's my turn to talk about child-related matters.

On that day, I received a request for a restaurant she wanted to go to, and we decided to eat there.

She is busy preparing for childbirth.
How to choose a baby seat, which manufacturer is easy to use for baby bottles, and which manufacturer is good for powdered milk?I am consulted by various people.

Now, I'm no longer a 'girl friend' but a 'mama friend'.

The consultation and the delicious meal are over.When I finished paying, I was spoken to by an elderly female clerk.

Woman at the shop (hereafter referred to as the shop)
"Oh, my stomach is already big. About next month?"

I said, "That's right."

She said, “Yes.

Shop: “Master, you have to take care of yourself.”

(You are mistaken for a married couple. Naturally lol)

Me: “Yes!

She said, “Thank you (laughs).”

It's not good to bring a pregnant woman around so late, so I'll say goodbye early that day and head home.

On the way back

When I was listening to music on my earphones on the way home, I suddenly felt sentimental.

She will return to her parents' home far away for a while to give birth.
And, in fact, there was also a report earlier that 'my husband was transferred to a rural area'.When the child calms down, she will naturally go there.

From next month, it will be difficult to see each other for a while (forever?).
Somehow, there was an air of not bringing it up as a topic.No, no.Maybe he wanted me to be more upset and upset.

I was so upset, but for some reason I suppressed my upset feelings.

Perhaps in reaction to that, I began to feel sentimental.

She is overwhelmingly calmer than his wife.
If I were to live with her, I think I would probably be able to lead a normal, calm life.I don't think there's anything to complain about.

Marry her and have a child.I wonder if there was such a way.And suddenly such a thought crosses my head.

However, I have a "prioritization of important things" that I have decided, including the parts that are not emotions, and I can't break it.My actions and kindness will be consumed in order of priority.

I can't be XNUMX% kind to everyone anymore.

And my kindness also has a "capacity limit".As I get older, I'm getting better at energy-saving kindness, but I feel that the "capacity" itself is decreasing.

I tend to be kind, and if I don't put limits on myself, I'll soon reach the limit of kindness and self-destruct.

So I can only be kind to people I choose.There is also a limit to the "amount" of kindness that can be used.

I'm quite misunderstood, but I'm never a kind person.In some cases, it takes a cold response.Because my kindness is already over capacity even if you expect it.In such a case, you have no choice but to take a cold response.

Our family goes to bed early, and when we return to our already asleep home, we turn on the light at the entrance.

Since I am treated as a germ after returning from outside, I am not allowed to press the button with my finger.Press the electric button with your elbow.
By the way, it's from before corona.

Washing your hands at least twice is mandatory.
It's from before corona.

If you don't take a bath and clean your body, you won't be able to enter the living room.
It's from before corona.

After taking a bath, I enter the living room quietly and drink water.

and go to the bedroom.

In the bedroom, my wife and daughter are sleeping.

I lie down on the edge of it so as not to wake them up.

I'm kind of hungry.

However, it is forbidden to eat the contents of the refrigerator without permission, so I have no choice but to endure it.

what's for breakfast tomorrow
Probably rice, natto and instant miso soup.Well, I like natto, so it doesn't matter.

My daughter rolls over and I get a strong kick in my stomach.

(Whoa!!)

Ita tata. .

My daughter's leg is still on my belly.

A little heavy. .

Somehow, I didn't feel like moving that leg,

I decided to go to sleep.

good night.

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