This is Shingo Lee, a column writer.

 

"Yo! Nee-chan, are you free!?"

"Let's play with us!"

"No, please stop~!"

 

Pick-up men in dramas and manga pick up like this, so it is easy to think that pick-up men are bad people, but in reality, pick-up teachers who call out like this are now. plug.

 

Actually, how do you invite a woman you meet on the street to a hotel?There are a lot of psychological techniques that are passed down to pick-up masters.

 

By the way, the psychological technique is not a hypnotic technique that makes a woman who is not interested at all want to go to a hotel, but a collection of "minor psychological techniques" that gradually lead to such a mood. or

 

It's just a matter of 'smoothing' comfortable communication, but I hope you can put it to good use.

 

Constraint method

 

Just imagine.

The office is 30 minutes away from the scheduled closing time.

 

For bosses who aren't very good at it“Are you free after working hours today?”What do you think when suddenly asked?

 

Assuming the worst case, "Are you inviting me to a drinking party!? If you go to a drinking party until the second party, and you can go home at 2:12?" But if it's a job offer that could lead to your next career, it's bad if you refuse...!"I think it's going to be full of anxiety, confusion, and stress.

 

Even in street pick-ups, there are quite a few girls who will talk to you and listen to you, but it can be difficult to invite them out for a drink or move from there.

 

Suddenly, the girl was told by a man she had never met before, "Let's go out for a drink now."Full of anxiety, confusion, and stressIt becomes.

 

This "constraint method" is used by pick-up men in such cases.

 

"I'm meeting my friend in 20 minutes,only about 10 minutesBut from now on, at that HUBonly one cupLet's have a quick drink."

 

In other words, no matter how painful it is, by presenting conditions that lower the hurdle, such as "loss of about 20 minutes" or "one drink and you can go home", it becomes easier to keep up.

　In this way, the "constraint method" is to lower the hurdle by limiting the "time" and "number of times / number" to a small amount.

 

　This can also be used for the exchanges between bosses and subordinates.

　

　When you ask your subordinates about their schedule after work today, you can have a smooth conversation by talking to them using the Constraint Method.

 

　When I asked, "It's after work today, but I'd like to hear your opinion on future projects, so could you spare 10 minutes?" You can.
 

　Everyone, please use it when you want to extend the time until you say goodbye to a P-active girl.

　If you use it like, "It takes 1 minutes to go straight to the station, but let's take a 10-minute walk and then go home," it will be easier for the other person to agree.

 

double bind beginners

 

I think many people know this word itself, but it is also a method that you don't notice when you see it used unexpectedly.

 

A closed question (A or B?, which one of the three? ?) is easier to answerThat's it.

 

In advance, it is easier to proceed with things by lining up only the options that are convenient for you and letting you choose from them.

 

Even when asking someone out on a date, they seem to be concerned about the other person's convenience, asking, "What day is the next date convenient?" Thing.

In fact, it's easier and smoother to narrow it down to "Which would you prefer next Wednesday or Thursday?"

 

This is often used by Nampa before inviting them to have sex.

It will be much easier to have sex if you invite her with two choices, "If you're going to spend time together, which is better, that hotel or my house?"

 

No, no, girls won't follow you just by making those two choices! ?I think it seems.
Of course, it's not hypnosis or brainwashing, so if you think, "This guy will never exist!"

But,It works for someone who's ready to be hugged tonight or shaken.

 

If it seems familiar with dad life, it's dinner and gifts.

Rather than asking "What do you want?" with an open question, it would be more eco-friendly to list products that fit your budget and make a "closed question" yourself.

 

Application of double bind

 

Actually, the essence of the double bind is not just to make it a "closed question".

There are more advanced techniques, but you may not be aware of them even if you use them.

 

It is a "bind that manipulates the premise".

This is a two-choice double bind advanced technique.

 

For example, when I was looking at a jacket at a clothing store and was worried about it, a store clerk came and said, "I think that jacket will suit you.
If you are worried about the price, how about this jacket in the same color? ', and before I knew it, it was a comparison between 'the first jacket I saw' and the 'proposed jacket'. Instead, they are guided to buy either jacket no matter which way they fall.

 

look at this,“Was that a double bind!?”There must be some people who thought.

 

A double bind is often thought of as a method of proposing two choices, "A" or "B", and restricting the choices.There is a place to replace the prerequisites.

 

By putting the message you want to convey in the premise of the question, and then entering the question, the premise that you "assumed" is imprinted in your brain as a "natural thing".

 

It's a technique used in pick-ups, and it's a technique to crush in advance the guda (rejection) that "I'm not a light woman" by imprinting sex before going out as a matter of course.

 

"A guy who tells you to break up with him because you weren't sexually compatible after you started dating, do you think he's an ant or not?"

This takes the form of ``ant, no'', but the main conversation is imprinting the premise that ``it's a tragic situation that sex is not compatible after dating'' as a prerequisite. has become

 

If you answer "no", you can say "That's why it's important to check sexual compatibility before dating," and you can talk while answering "alli". It's important to be with someone, so it's okay to check compatibility before or after dating."

　As a result, it has become a "double bind" that will unfold as expected no matter which way it falls.

*In the first place, the former "pear" group is overwhelming.

 

If you're going to use it in your daily life, it's good to use it with something like "Is it because we like the same movie that we're good friends?"

When you say, "We're on good terms, aren't we?", the feeling of "Really?" It comes with a premise, so I recommend it.

 

That's it for this time.

[Misuse strictly prohibited] So please keep your promise.

 

If the number of views in this article is good, I would like to introduce more techniques.With that in mind, I named it "Psychology of Nampa Men ①".

 

If there doesn't seem to be much response, I'm going to resign gracefully, so I want to know more!I would be happy if you could spread this type on SNS such as Twitter.