I think many of the girls who work at night and the girls who live as dads are stuck with various worries, financially and mentally.I want to change myselfAlso, I want to change the environment to step up. 

I've been worried too.​
The situation I am in now is the result of my actions, and if I change my ways, the other person will also change. 
Today, I am writing this column in hopes that it will help people who have troubles. 

What I've been thinking about for a long time is that there's only one thing I need if I want to change something.​
It is subjectivity. 

Ownership also means, as a human being, taking responsibility for your own life.​
Our actions are the result of our own decisions and choices, not our circumstances. 

Papa-katsu and registering for a dating club are the result of your own decisions and choices.Of course, if you act as you are told by those around you, your family, and your friends, you will never be able to create a life that suits you.​
You should be conscious of choosing yourself, no matter how trivial. 

For the first time in dad activities, whether you can meet a big dad or whether you can stay with a big dad for a long time, of course there is luck, but it is the result of your own decisions and choices.
In my case, I spent too much time worrying about it, and it took me a long time to get it right.As a result, after I stopped being an adult ant's daddy, I had more good encounters and things started to go well.It is also the result of my decisions and choices. 

It is your responsibility to take action. 

Do you take responsibility and take action yourself, or are you driven by those around you?​
Depending on which path you choose, your opportunities for growth and success will vary greatly.​
In order to grow, you need to actively work around yourself. 
I have a friend who started an amazing business at a young age with the support of a man she met while working as a dad.The greatest potential inherent in humans is the freedom of choice that exists between stimulus and response. 

Many people see things as they see fit and judge what is good and what is bad.​Such people always blame others or the environment for the reason why they couldn't do it.It is up to you whether or not your father's life goes well.​
We do not see the world as it is, we see the world as we are, as we are conditioned ourselves.​
If you disagree with the other person, you will momentarily think that the other person is wrong.If I don't have a second date with my dad, I think I can't see him. 

If you change your ways, your partner will change too.​
Have you ever been criticized for saying things like "I'm not good with people like you" or "I don't like it"?If you understand it properly, you will understand, but it does not show your true appearance or potential.It's just the dad's values, and the dad's view.Because they are just words from the distorted perspective of the person who said them.It may be unavoidable to be offended by being criticized by others.But don't repeat the reaction as a matter of course.​
Human beings have an excellent ability to "know".If you are aware that you have responded to a stimulus, you can choose your own behavior in response to the stimulus.​
If you can be conscious of being aware, you will also realize that you can stimulate the outside.That is "leadership."Initiative is the ability to act on one's own responsibility, rather than waiting for others to act.Under the influence of initiative, the opponent will also change. 

Instead of reacting reflexively to every word Dad says, he chooses to act consciously.​
Regarding "results", different reactions will appear between the swept action and the subjective action.The result of the flowed action is "mere event", and the subjective action, which is the self-selected conscious action, is the result of the choice. 

So what exactly should we do? 

In the case of swept behavior, a vicious cycle of blaming the environment for the causes of personality and behavior occurs.​
Regarding the failure of the face-to-face meeting, I react that my dad was bad and my luck was bad.​
They react to their shortcomings by saying that they had a bad home environment.​
They respond that they care about their appearance because of their family history or genetics. 

It is a subjective action to be aware of your character and action and choose it.​
Regarding failure, I think I will try to act like this next time.​
I'm thinking about fixing the shortcomings little by little.​
Try to hide your concerns with make-up, and think about what other people are doing. 

Start small.​
A person cannot withstand change in the world and around him unless he has an unchanging central axis within him.​
Only when you have a clear awareness of who you are, what you are aiming for, and what you believe in, that you remain unchanging inside, can you withstand any change. 

Would you like to have independence and turn your life in a good direction? 
I hope that this column will serve as a catalyst for that.