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Things you lose while being a dad without realizing it①

Nice to meet you, I'm Bell♪(*´▽`*)

It's been 3 years and 6 months since I started working as a father.

I've never been married, I've broken off engagements, I don't have a boyfriend, but I do have someone I like. I'm around XNUMX.

To be precise, I will be 38 years old this year (°▽°)

I've met a lot of people through Papakatsu.There are about XNUMX people in total.

We've covered dating clubs, dad-hunting apps, and drinking money.

I would like to share my experiences and impressions in it and help you even a little.

I will write about what I feel and think about being a dad.

Before I started working as a dad, I worked at night as a hostess in Ginza for about seven years in total.

I worked as a hostess in Ginza from the age of 2 to XNUMX (there was a time when I wasn't in Japan for about two years as a backpacker or on a working holiday).

And I have been working as a father since I was around 34 years old until I am currently 37 years old (*´▽`*)

The reason I started working as a father was that my mental health suffered and I fell ill.

I started having panic attacks on crowded trains in the morning and couldn't go to work, so I started doing this to earn a living (´-`)

I'm sure there are many reasons why people become fathers, such as people like me who do it for a living, to earn money for school fees, to pay off debts, to pay for a relative's medical treatment, etc.

I got the impression that there were many people who said they would be in trouble if they didn't have money to live.

I'm currently living overseas, so I'm meeting up with the dads who took care of me when I returned to Japan.

We only meet once every 3 to 6 months, so it's not like I'm fully devoted to being a dad right now, but I've come into contact with a lot of men due to my job, so

I would like to write with that in mind (*'▽'*)

My dream was to live abroad.

In fact, the reason I was able to live my dream overseas was because a gentleman I met through Dad-Katsu gave me a job that I could complete online.

Thanks to that, I can now work from anywhere in the world (o^^o)

It's thanks to Dad-katsu that I was able to live the life of my dreams! ! (*^^)v

Dad's activities are various ♪

 

Well, today's theme is ``Things you lose without realizing it when you're a dad.''

I will write about things that have happened to me and things that have actually happened to my friends and those around me.

First··

1. Difference in financial sense

Most people think, ``I'm fine, I haven't changed,'' but they don't realize it.

Actually, so did I.

I've been a hostess since I was 20 years old, and as I watched my seniors and colleagues, I quickly realized that the way they spend money and how they feel about it is different from those who only work day jobs.

I thought, ``It won't turn out like this. I want to continue to feel like an ordinary person.''

My mother stopped coming home when I was in junior high school, and in junior high school, I couldn't work part-time and didn't have anything to eat or money to buy food.

There was a time when I was in a lot of trouble, and I was acutely aware of the importance of money.

That's why I was confident that things would never change, and I thought there was no way they would change.

 

However, when I looked at myself and compared myself to a friend who had never worked in the water business or as a father, it was clear that I was out of line.

I realized this nine years after I started working as a hostess.

At first, my job required me to take care of my appearance, so I couldn't go out to dinner with customers or my dad in casual clothes, so I wanted to look feminine.

Feminine and beautiful clothes, branded accessories,

Use cosmetics that are good for your skin

Since I use a curling iron, I used something expensive to prevent damage to my hair.

For me, I thought I was just trying to make myself look beautiful so that people would like me and have fun.

However, I didn't notice that it was already out of alignment. I realized this after I retired from being a hostess.

 

2. I want to keep drinking sweet honey, but I can't return to society or return to a normal life.

My friend's father was kind to his child and not only gave him an allowance.

I lived a life where my dad bought me super high-end watches and everything I wanted.

Being such an active father, there were several other women and mistresses in the same position as her, and the women called and harassed me, which made me depressed.

But I couldn't forget the sweet nectar and wanted to keep sucking it forever, so I couldn't let go of that daddy.

 

What would be the problem if that happened?

Before you know it, you're at an age where it's difficult to get a job again...

Compared to dad-hunting, I can't help but feel that the pay is low considering the length of time I work, and the conditions are so bad that I can't return to work...

I want to quit being a dad because I got a boyfriend, but I can't, and as a result, my boyfriend finds out and I miss out on my marriage...

There are times when.

 

Daddy life is not just about sweet stories, but also a lot of things that happen that you wouldn't normally think of.

You may get hurt, and you may feel betrayed...

After overcoming various things, the day will come when you will be able to appreciate the father you are about to meet ♡

 

I hope you all meet wonderful fathers (^_−)−☆

Writers: 
2nd year as a dad, late 30s. In my twenties, I was No. 20 hostess in Ginza. At the age of 1, he left Ginza and had a lot of things to do, such as breaking off his engagement, and since then he has been working as a dad only for rice.

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