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What is the dignity of a father?

Nice to meet you, I'm Bell♪(*´▽`*)

It's been 3 years and 6 months since I started working as a father.

I've never been married, I've broken off engagements, I don't have a boyfriend, but I do have someone I like. I'm around XNUMX.

To be precise, I will be 38 years old this year (°▽°)

I've met a lot of people through Papakatsu.There are about XNUMX people in total.

We've covered dating clubs, dad-hunting apps, and drinking money.

I would like to share my experiences and impressions in it and help you even a little.

I will write about what I feel and think about being a dad.

Before I started working as a dad, I worked at night as a hostess in Ginza for about seven years in total.

I worked as a hostess in Ginza from the age of 2 to XNUMX (there was a time when I wasn't in Japan for about two years as a backpacker or on a working holiday).

And I have been working as a father since I was around 34 years old until I am currently 37 years old (*´▽`*)

The reason I started working as a father was that my mental health suffered and I fell ill.

I started having panic attacks on crowded trains in the morning and couldn't go to work, so I started doing this to earn a living (´-`)

I'm sure there are many reasons why people become fathers, such as people like me who do it for a living, to earn money for school fees, to pay off debts, to pay for a relative's medical treatment, etc.

I got the impression that there were many people who said they would be in trouble if they didn't have money to live.

I'm currently living overseas, so I'm meeting up with the dads who took care of me when I returned to Japan.

We only meet once every 3 to 6 months, so it's not like I'm fully devoted to being a dad right now, but I've come into contact with a lot of men due to my job, so

I would like to write with that in mind (*'▽'*)

My dream was to live abroad.

In fact, the reason I was able to live my dream overseas was because a gentleman I met through Dad-Katsu gave me a job that I could complete online.

Thanks to that, I can now work from anywhere in the world (o^^o)

It's thanks to Dad-katsu that I was able to live the life of my dreams! ! (*^^)v

Dad's activities are various ♪

 

Well, today's theme is "What is the dignity of a father?"

The reason I decided to write about this topic was because I had an image of what "dad life" was until I actually tried it myself.

I thought that my uncle, a gentleman who had the money and the heart to spare, would support (financially support) the women he liked.

However, when I actually met him, there was a man who was far different from me.

People who make unreasonable demands, ask for too much, have no privacy, fathers who haggle...

There were many times when I thought about ``the dignity of a father'' or ``the dignity of a person''.

 

Dad asks for semi-cohabitation

I thought the only people who could say this were those who weren't married.

This man was very married (+_+) and he still loves his wife and says he is very grateful to her, so it's not like they're on bad terms.

It's okay if you're completely cold, but it's the end of the world...

Since he is married, he asked for ``semi-cohabitation'' rather than cohabitation.

I would like to live with them semi-in exchange for renting an apartment with them and paying off my rent. Dad is free to come and go.

I couldn't live without my privacy.

Living together is something you do with someone you like, right?

Isn't the advantage of being a dad that the relationship between two people is based on money, and there is a certain amount of distance, so there is no need to be tied down?

I'd understand if you were to offer a reasonable allowance for restricting your private time, but they're not a couple if they just pay the rent and live together half the time...

To be honest, I feel that they have taken into consideration allowances to restrict my private life.

I think we were able to think positively and talk about what to do with the rules, etc.

It was too late for Dad's convenience, and he didn't feel like negotiating.

 

Dad always wants to sign a contract cheaply

The place we were chosen to meet for the first time was a small Western restaurant with about 8 seats, and the seats next to each other were as close as Starbucks.

After seeing the atmosphere of the shop, I guess I'll just enjoy talking with them face-to-face today. I thought.

Since the meeting time was early at 18pm, my dad and I were the only customers in the store.

Rather than say that the father will deepen their relationship,

From the beginning to the end, we only talked about being a dad, and the conversation skipped a lot from the beginning.

At first I didn't pay much attention to it since it was just the two of us (the staff could definitely hear it).

Customers other than us started entering the store, even though there were people on both sides.

Without lowering the volume of my voice, I started talking about terms and negotiations.

``I like students, and so far I've only worked as a father with students for 20,000 yen each.Everyone agrees to 20,000 yen, so I'll give you 20,000 yen as well.

 I have no intention of spending more than 20,000 yen.”

How many times do you say 20,000? (My heart's voice)

Now, I'm talking about my dad's life in such a loud voice...not just next door, but in a voice that could be heard inside the store...

I was embarrassed and could feel the eyes on both sides of me, and if there was a hole, I wanted to go in.

And I'm 37 years old. No matter how I looked at it, I was far from being a student, and I felt like I wanted to run away.

This kind of humiliation is rare.

Moreover, am I a bargain sale item? I felt like I was treated that way.

 

It's not just sweet stories, but many things that you wouldn't normally think of happen.

You may feel hurt or betrayed.

The day will come when you will be able to admire the father you met after going through so many things ♡

 

I hope you all meet a wonderful father (^(+_+)

Writers: 
2nd year as a dad, late 30s. In my twenties, I was No. 20 hostess in Ginza. At the age of 1, he left Ginza and had a lot of things to do, such as breaking off his engagement, and since then he has been working as a dad only for rice.

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