2020/12/18
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blind spot! What is the difference between "favorite dad" and "good dad"?

What kind of man is your ideal dad?
A rich and kind daddy?
A handsome and successful dad?
Papa who will bounce the amount of allowance?

In fact, “preferred dad” and “good dad” are often different.
If you want to continue being a dad for a long time, you want to get to know a man who suits you even a little.

For you who can't meet your "ideal daddy"

The detailed requirements for a father will vary from person to person.
Also, as long as you are a daddy, it is natural to ask for "financial assistance".
However, judging a dad just by the amount of his allowance is an idea.

When you're working with men, you can't help but see men as "money."
However, the opponent is human.
Especially men who pay high allowances have certain demands.

What I noticed when I was working with men was that if I pushed myself too hard, I would become distorted.
Once it happens, it will increase the number of mental fluctuations.
In addition, the quality of the men who come to me gradually declines.
So what can be done to prevent this from happening?

"What you like" and "what suits you" are different

Let's change the perspective a little and talk about it.
What kind of clothes do you usually wear?
When I meet my dad, I think most of them wear pretty fashion like a female announcer.
However, even if you say "pretty fashion", there are various styles.

Dress in pastel colors or in muted tones.
One piece with A-line and switching.
Unfortunately, the clothes you like and the clothes that look good on you don't always match.
As evidence of this, “personal color diagnosis” and “skeletal diagnosis” are gaining popularity these days.

Of course, I think it's wonderful to say, "I wear the clothes I want to wear!"
Taking care of your “likes” is very important for living.

But there are times when you want to make yourself look better.
What kind of ingenuity do you do in such a case?

In the end, how well do you combine your own “likes” and the “likes” seen by others in a well-balanced manner?I think it's all about it.

So are hairstyles.
Even women who are particular about long hair will change their hairstyles to semi-long, bob, short cuts, etc. as they get older.
At least, I have never seen a "grandma" who maintains beautiful long hair.

It goes without saying, but it is very important to know “what suits you” and “what is compatible with you”.

The same goes for choosing a dad.
The ideal dad you envision may not be a good match for you.
If you don't make a big change or find a compatible daddy, you'll be exhausted.

Here's a question.
What and how much can you push yourself to continue the relationship with your “favorite daddy”?

Isn't the ideal dad you envision a man whose relationship won't last long if you don't force yourself to make it up?

At some point, I started to see the phrase “be yourself as you are”.
You should take care of yourself as you are, but don't over-appeal.
It is out of the question to impose it on others.
Having said that, it's very hard to keep playing the role of the "ideal woman" so that dad doesn't hate her.

If you want to continue being a dad for a long time, you should show your “true self” in a well-balanced manner.
What are your strengths and what are your weaknesses?
If you look at yourself objectively from a male perspective, you will notice many things.
You might be surprised, but sometimes people love us for our flaws.

How to find a compatible dad

Humans are creatures of habit, for better or worse.
Even if you think you know it in your head, it's hard to resist a habit once ingrained.

If you choose a dad only by the amount of allowance and push yourself, it will become natural.
How long do you think you can continue working with men that way?
Do you have a plan to stop working as a dad someday?
By when do you think it will be possible?

A woman's "sex" is something that will inevitably be lost as she ages.
You could say that your current appearance is a lost asset.
You should try to find a daddy who suits you even a little now.
Instead of just waiting for an offer, train yourself to find a man who is compatible with you.

Recently, the word “papa-katsu” has been attracting attention, and it may be that we have seen more voices denying papa-katsu.
But there is absolutely no need to be ashamed of yourself.

Papa-katsu is a kind of culture.
The interpretation of culture is up to the individual, but most of the people who deny papa-katsu are women who don't want men to spend money, or men who can't afford to spend it.
There is no need to go out of your way to communicate with other cultures.

The purpose of dad activity is different for each person, but no one can deny the effort to be a woman that men want to spend money on.
It's your life, so it'd be nice if you could live your life in a way that doesn't distort your mind as much as possible.

Writers: 
Experienced as a receptionist, hostess, and chat lady.Based on my experiences, I write articles about men and women from various angles.

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