This time, before my memory fades

I would like to leave a memory of my first date here.

For the sake of the column, I would like to write it so as not to turn it into a diary.

As a collateral effect, I have a date like this!I'm doing it!There is an offer like this!

What did you discover?I would be happy if it became an article.

Finally, I tried to summarize the letter date in a "potashiumu" way,

Hope this helps!

Meeting Papa at Universe Club

First offer and meeting with dad "Letter date"

From a woman's point of view, the Universe Club offer

I have an image that dad activity starts with either "offer" or "letter date".

The start with my current dad is "letter date".

What is letter date?For those who sayhereClick (Jump to Universe Club HP)

And the first offer (letter date) is the current dad.

I started a letter date with about 3 to XNUMX letters a day. (certainly)

Um. . . . After about five days, I

"Oh, this feels right! If you meet a man who is clean and doesn't mind what he says and does, you might be in a relationship!"

That's why when I first met him, I contacted him with a hint that he was considering an adult relationship (laughs).

* When I told my dad about this later, he seemed to have the same feeling.It seems that he has already thought about the details of the hotel arrangements and allowances for the day.I miss those days when we were looking for each other!

Here we go!See you! ! "People's impressions are the laws of Mehrabian"

during a letter date

"Shop location" "Reservation" "Meeting place" "Flow*" "Appearance on the day" "Allowance (amount)"

because you taught me

Somehow my anxiety was reduced and I was able to meet.

When I was getting off the escalator at a certain station, I wonder if it was my dad.find someone who thought

"It's definitely more than you can imagine!Cleanliness is amazing!Rather, why are you living as a dad? "and

I wondered in my heart.

Potentially,

I don't think I'm going to have a relationship beyond that because I can't do it physiologically.

If you think it's impossible from the beginning, it's impossible!

　Meal date partner ≠ sexual partner

* The flow that was guided by the letter date

It is an explanation from the meeting place (station) to a light tea and heading to the shop together.

[Meet at the station! ?Those who thought

I didn't feel particularly suspicious here.I just realized it while writing this column.

Isn't it usually a hotel lounge?You may think that, but I think that the worry and distrust disappeared after the letter date.

So what happened that day?What are you talking about?

In conclusion

After meeting at the station, we headed to the lounge of a nearby hotel together for a light tea, lunch, hotel, and dissolution.

[Conversation over light tea]

During the letter date, we gave each other a little bit of material to talk about on the day, so we mainly got excited about each other and matching the answers.

[Conversation at lunch time and treatment]

It was a sushi restaurant with a counter type (corner space).After being seated, a sushi chef? ?When Mr. left the counter, I received an envelope under the counter.

How much is inside in the small talk,

We also explained the breakdown.

The conversation during the meal is a continuation of the conversation at the time of light tea.

[Hotel / How to invite to a hotel and treatment]

In the hallway near the exit of the store, where there are few people (people), after this, I was asked, "I would like to ask you to join the hotel!"

Daddy at that time seemed a little nervous and was cute (laughs)

Since the topic of allowance for adult dating has already been mentioned in the letter date, I am also planning to have an adult dating (go to a hotel).

"Yes, thank you very much."

I was able to reply with that.

After entering the hotel, I talked to my father at the desk that he would like to have a continuous relationship in the future.

Today's adult dating allowance and wanting to pay monthly (scheduled for up to XNUMX times a month)

Papa will receive the allowance (money) in the envelope by himself.　

He took out the money from the envelope and confirmed the amount.

Here, I personally thought that he was a very well-prepared person,

All negotiable contents in case I decline?Each amount was divided and put in an envelope.

Without asking me to be an adult,

I think it was a smooth flow without confirming the amount.

It's my personal policy to not check the amount on the envelope, so I don't really care about the amount!Like,

If anything, is this concern? ?and

The correspondence of the letter date, the date on the day, the explanation of the allowance (money) was smooth,

He was the first club member I met, so I didn't have any complaints.

Even when the woman refuses, the amount is not reduced in front of my eyes.

Rather, I thought, "Is it okay to propose a monthly contract even though I haven't had sex?"

It's not all about it, it's because the feeling was messed up

It made me a little happy too.

[Regarding subsequent correspondence]

I did a thank you line on the train on the way home, and my dad also sent a thank you line.

And we are still dating.

Letter (message) dating

From here on, I will look back on the stories I heard from my dad and write about letter dating based on my dad's opinions.

I think there are pros and cons because it's a theory of Potashiumu + Potapapa, so please take a look at it for reference.

①People who think Potashiumu letter dating is suitable

As far as letter dating (message dating) is looking at the question box, after all, it is difficult for men to make allowances (money), and depending on the woman, there seems to be many people who avoid it. There is

Those who want to meet after chatting and knowing what type the other person isTo I recommend!

Since there are parts where you can grasp the contact frequency at this stage,

It is perfect for determining whether you can have a long-term relationship in the future or whether it will be a burden.

Letter dating (message dating) is like a pre-investment (not money) of time for a long-term relationship?Maybe!

② About the example sentence of the first message

This bothered me a lot too.

In conclusion, if the content does not make the other person uncomfortable, even if it is according to the template

I think you'll be fine with the original.

I heard the impression of the letter date from my dad (who often offers mainly letter dates)

It seems that the contents of the first letter did not make much difference for any girl!

I thought the first impression was important, so I did my best. . . .Sad Sith~

However, according to Papa, after repeated letter dates,

Because you can see right away that you are being presented with an example sentence,

After rereading my writing, I heard that he felt that he was different from other children (laughs).

Papa says good things! !

So if you don't have confidence in the first message, follow the template,

If you want to bring out a little color, I feel that you should go with the original.

whichever message

I think it's better to include words of gratitude and appreciation, or something that shows concern for the other person!

③ Contact frequency

Of course, I think that there are "I haven't received a reply", "I'm worried that there is no reply", and "It's troublesome to reply",

This is up to you and your opponent.So I don't think I can tell you how good it is.

There are various people who have met online until now,

Do you match the pace of the other party regardless of dad activity,

Respect each other's pace without matching the other's pace

I think is the safest solution.

In the former case, there will always be distortions later, and there will be disputes, so the latter is the best for me!

That's why I say it clearly when I have a dispute with my dad on line.I mean, it's quite a mess (laughs).

④ Contact means　

You can choose from XNUMX contact methods at Universe Club.

I used SMS (Short Mail) for the first time, and Line after meeting.

I make decisions when I can.

When instructed by the other party,

We will contact you by the method specified by the other party. (Because I don't want to reduce the offer with this)

In the case of Line, it is also true that there is a risk that the real name will be exposed or identified.

According to what I heard from my dad, the name of the line is a stamp or a nickname

It seems that they are still wary because they are landmine girls or senior dads (laughs)

In my case, I use only my real name and last name, but there are people who only use their first name,

You probably have real friends and family on Line, so don't be suspicious that you're doing daddy activities.

I think either first name or last name is the safest choice.

There is a method called Line @,

I don't use it because it's definitely prohibited in the club.

Depending on the Papa-katsu app/site, there are ways to use Line@ like that.

Or bring two phones!

Here's my personal opinion on personal information

You must tell us your date of birth and full name in kanji

I think that it is quite difficult for ordinary people to identify.

*Except for people with unusual names or surnames, who work for companies, who are on wikis, or who post a lot of identifying information on the internet.

Considering the above personal information, you should pay more attention to Line icons than names!

It's better not to upload it to your local icon or Voom too much (laughs),

It is also important to pay attention to the photos of yourself and your friends that you uploaded to Line in the past.

Summary

Letter dating is sometimes good to see compatibility!

The first impression is the law of Mehrabian, the double-edged sword is a letter date!

* Of course, if you go with the cool character that was selected in the letter date, it will catch up with the gap later.

Dad and I are happy! (smile)

By the way, there is a certain possibility that you may not meet a good dad, but

However, "I decided to meet" and "I am continuing" are all my responsibility.

I don't want to be sympathized even if I meet an unusually dangerous dad.

Because people who feel sympathy pretend to understand it from a third party, but in a sense, they look down on him and say, "It's a pity."

Because you are making a decision.

I think it's a very miserable thing to be sympathized with the decisions you've made.

Rather than begging for sympathy, I want to talk about what I have learned and have a good time.

Compassion looks gentle, but it's actually the strongest mounting!I think so.

that's why.Maybe Look at my dad life life and don't you have any negatives?Liar!the one that seems to be

You may be here, but I feel that my decisions and actions are my own responsibility.

I can't come up with content that makes me feel sympathetic.Even if something is frustrating, there is a kind of compromise that "consults with each other and solves"

I think it's the most important thing to have a relationship with people, regardless of dad activities.

Well, if he refuses, I will withdraw, but I don't date people who don't intend to compromise (laughs).

Since the question box is a place to give information and opinions by all means, if you say that it is difficult to read, I will try to improve it. .

This time, I will talk about meeting my dad and letter dating (message dating)

I wrote it in a jiffy, so it's like this!There is no glue that feels like

You always get tired of this glue!

Love you!So forgive me!

[Next time] Dating with Papa for the second day!Revealing the raw and acting skills in the game ~

　　　or something