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Choosing a dad who sometimes fails Vol.1


There will always be failures

When you're working as a dad, you'll be introduced to wonderful dads at dating clubs.

I think it's the same for all women up to this point, and the level of expectations when meeting for the first time may vary depending on the individual, but I always look forward to it.

After all, aren't you looking forward to seeing what kind of father will come?Besides, I believe that if you say it when you first meet, everything will be decided.

So, I'm motivated, and how much allowance will you give me?If you think about it in terms of enjoyment, it's pretty impressive. (Maybe I'm a little too stubborn.)

However, that level of enjoyment can sometimes become a liability.

How should I tell you?


For example, it would feel like a plane that flew beautifully into the sky and then falls cleanly down.

Even though I was able to sign a good contract with a wonderful father, the moment I took off, what?I guess it's something like that.

If you're a woman who is a father and has seen a lot of different kinds of fathers, you're bound to think, ``I get that!!!''

It's like signing a contract and failing.

Let me tell you about my actual experience.

What will Dad do if he feels that the atmosphere is different when they meet for the second time?

When I first met my dad, he seemed very friendly and I thought he would take good care of me.

However, when you actually sign the contract and go on your first date, have you ever thought, ``Huh? Is this what my dad is like?''Surprisingly, I am.

For example, when you first meet someone, they look at you and talk to you, but when you actually sign a contract and go on your first date, they don't look at you at all.

If I were to go into more detail, he seemed a little grumpy and didn't seem to be enjoying being with me at all.

Then, I tried to get rid of the strange atmosphere by talking a lot, but it had no effect.

In such a state, I enter a restaurant.

Naturally, the atmosphere was the worst, and when we were seated face-to-face, I didn't even know where to look and have a conversation.

Therefore, there is no conversation, and all that comes to my mind are negative thoughts like, ``Isn't Dad having fun?''

To be honest, I really don't like that atmosphere.

How do you think I would react if I said that?In the past, I would think things like, ``Are you nervous?'' or ``What's going on? Maybe you're thinking about something important?'' or ``Maybe I just happen to be in a bad mood today?'' I was acting like I wasn't reading.

However, in my experience, most dads who say that don't improve.

Or rather, it's better to think that when we first met, he was a little too careful and was paying attention to me.

If it were me at this stage, I'd definitely try to take the initiative and say, ``Dad, is it boring?Didn't you like me?If that's the case, you can cancel the contract at all, right?''

When you're working as a dad, it's really important to create an atmosphere with your dad, and I think there are many women who say, ``I don't have any complaints as long as I get an allowance.''

But I'm different.

Since I believe that working as a father is a business, as long as I receive an allowance, of course I have nothing to say as long as I enjoy it as well, but I believe that the most important thing is to please my father first.

The reason is that this is a story that directly leads to allowances.

Don't you feel a little nervous about receiving an allowance from a father who obviously has a boring face?Besides, even if we continue our relationship and receive the full allowance at the end of the month, I won't be happy at all, and I'm worried that our relationship will end there.I'm thinking of someone like that.

In the end, I have the impression that dad-hunting doesn't earn you much money on short-term contracts.

Normally, you can earn more money than working part-time or as a temporary worker, but in the case of dad-hunting, it's not always possible to meet a wonderful dad.

In part-time jobs, dispatch jobs, and OL jobs, you can always get a fixed amount of pay if you go to the workplace every month, but that's not the case when you're working as a dad.

If you have a contract, you can receive the promised allowance, but it won't work if you don't have a father.

Therefore, aren't most women a little worried about short-term contracts?That's what I think.

For some reason, I can't start unless my dad chooses me.

Well, that's about the difference between being employed and being an independent contractor.

So, in my case, I don't think I'll be with my dad for long.I think it's best to end it early and move on to the next thing.

Strangely, even if I was stuck and talked to my dad, if the temperature difference between my side and my dad's was different, in my experience, it would be difficult for the fever to rise again.

Even more so if he sensed this on the second date.

What if you want to continue your relationship with the father in such a situation?

There were times when I chose to continue as is.

The reason for this was that I had just started working as a dad, and he was the only dad I had a contract with.

Moreover, rather than the atmosphere with my father, I had a completely different way of approaching life as a father, saying, ``If I put up with this cold atmosphere now, I'll get an allowance.''

The simple story is that I didn't really see dad-hunting as a service industry, and I didn't understand the essence of dad-hunting (it's about pleasing your dad more than yourself), so I said, ``It's a little bit difficult.'' I think he was also half-forced to continue the contract with his cold father.

Also, since he didn't have much experience as a father, he didn't have enough time for himself.

Now, I don't think about signing a contract with just one dad.

It is always better to have a contract with 2-3 people.

It may be a bit of a bad idea to call it insurance for yourself, but in the end, when it comes to daddy life, it all boils down to ``How wonderful a daddy can be and be a good fit for you?''

Also, I think it's wrong to impose all your ideals on a single father.

This also applies to dads.

I think mutual love is the ideal in love, but what we're doing is daddy activities, not private love.

I learned a lot from working as a dad.

So, it's different on the first date after signing the contract, right?If you think so, it might be a good idea to just ask your dad, ``Wouldn't it be better if it wasn't me?''

With that one word, maybe things will improve, and even if the contract ends up blank, it will happen sooner or later.

In that case, the sooner the better, and in that case, in my experience, it would be more advantageous to immediately seek out new encounters at a dating club.

The shock when I first learned about the dating club was amazing.Since then, I've been hooked.We will continue to transmit reality from a female perspective.

Articles by Kumiko Mine

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