A dating club that's not just sweet and sour (XNUMX)

Hello.I'm Ren.Until last time"Sense of distance" in the course of dating after the first dateI wrote the theme.

This time, the content is similar to the sense of distance,I would like to touch on the movement of the heart involved there.

Not everyone is the same,I would like to write it as an inexperienced story of my experience.
 

table of contents

• Motivation and Background of Joining Dating Club: Limitation of Information Collection
• First Dates: Utilizing Staff and “Second Dates”What I did to avoid wasting
• Continuity: On Relationships and Sense of Distance
• Controlling your emotions: dating multiple people in parallel←Coco this time!
• Happenings are inevitable: various things happen (^^;; 
• Finally: the risks and rewards of using dating clubs

Precisely because it's "pretend play", will your partner enjoy it?is important

I think it's largely because I'm not used to playing.For some reasonWhen you start dating, your feelings will enter somewhat,That's the reality.

Therefore "sweet and sour something"That's something I definitely enjoy.

While becoming a year called "Ossan" in the world,If you feel a little thrilled when you meet a woman who is one year younger than youOr a little pounding when you put your skin on top of each other,It is an indescribable joy when you receive a favorable reaction from your partner. ..Wait

It's funny when you think about it calmly,I definitely enjoy that kind of fun.smile

 

Of course, such "sweet and sour something"to taste theI think you need to be considerate of your partner.

If you say it in a way that has no body or lid, you will say "This "pretend play" is precisely because you are looking for a little bit of heart-to-heart sex ≒ pretend loveIt doesn't work if you don't get your opponent to go out with you.smile

Therefore, if you think that it is physiologically useless,You will have to put up with the other party, so it will not last long.It will be a "fun time" for the other partyPositioning the date to beI think that is an important factor.

Cleanliness,Appearance is an important factor when standing on the starting line,The importance of that is also in the Universe Club blog, soI also use it as a reference.

Based on the entrance,Dates between working people account for a large part of the mealSo, while adding sharpness, it's a "reasonable place"I like to go to

Spend some special time...I'm not good at it, but I end up eating.smile
 

If you stand in the other person's eyes, you usually (probably)Meal in a place you wouldn't go yourself + get a thank you, andIf you know that you will not feel bad, there is no negative point, soI wonder if the possibility of going out with "love play" will increase,And so on.

That's why the first timeI think it's important to create a sense of distance on the second date.

If the relationship is locked "at a distance",Pretend play"I think it happens that you can't get into the world of.

If this is the only way to proceed with a relationship, then "It's the best dating!"However, in reality, it is not so,You will be swayed by your emotions. . . orz

 

Do Emotions Determine Actions?Actions create emotions!

In this way, the more you work on "playing love",Moreover, the more seriously you tackle it, the more strange things start to happen.smile

As a matter of course, I have a "discreet relationship"is premised onThat's how I see relationships in my head,enjoy with your partnerIf you continue to act with a focus onLittle by little, I feel stronger.

Instead of acting favorably because you like it,I like you because I act favorably,A rotation is born.This messes things up a bit.

The feeling that comes out is not only positive,Including negative things like a little frustrationIt's going to besmile

And, as previously mentioned,I want to increase the frequency of interaction between dates,I'm curious about the existence of other people who are dating, etc.love playYou will begin to have expectations that deviate from the degree of
 

Of course, basically, "relationship on the spot"Because it is "pretend play",Exceeding that area is against the rules.This is also true vice versa,I don't want to be jealous of my partner,That's what it means.

in this way,Humans tend to get addicted to selfish thought circuits.I feel "something that can only be done with a wry smile".

 

In an actual case, the other party was also initially (Did you think you didn't hate me?)In response to it, I came to create a good relationship,At a certain point in time, the priority of my relationship with you has obviously dropped.I felt that
 

Replies to clerical correspondence related to dating also clearly deteriorated,After spending about a month of frustrating days, on a date one day,Because I found a private and proper partner from that person, I want to liquidate all encounters at the club,Sometimes the relationship is over.
 

Now I don't know what the truth wasA relationship has come to an end,In that sense, I think the truth was a good thing.

However, by the end of this relationship, "pretending"I also tasted a strong heartbreak that exceeds the level of.

at the same time"I feel that this is not the case", and the failure to build a relationship with this person is "Failure to control my emotionsI have come to the conclusion that it was.

No matter how far you go, "love play"is not love itself,Since the movement of emotions moves close to love,It's the same mistake if you don't learn how to control your emotionsI'm going to reflect on repeating.smile
 

Re-recognize yourself as "Karette-chan":To meet with multiple people

While saying "love play", not only on the spot,I want to accumulate small daily interactions, in other words, "For some reason, I want you to do something small with me.”That's what I'm talking about.

In short, I am "an extremely troublesome carer",Looking for a partner who can endure it at the dating club,We are facing an impossible problem.

In short, "papa life"Plus alpha, if I dare to say, I'm looking for someone close to a "lover",I think that's what it means, but I'm still in the middle of trial and error here.

What is the ideal?is not defined, soI have no choice but to search and search. . .That's what I'm thinking.

 

At this point, we have arrived atBy dating multiple people in parallel,is to take

If you are alone,I get involved in dealing with just a troublesome guy,

By distributing this to multipleWhile maintaining a convenient pace for the other party,

This can be exchanged with a certain frequency in total...Although it is a shallow and bare correspondence,

I have come to realize that this is surprisingly effective.smile

 

Effects you feel

• Feeling less irritated
• The frequency of interactions that can be seen by the other party is reduced
• I can see my stupidity objectively
• You can feel "play"
• don't get into a rut

However, this is not a real solution,There will be shades in your relationship with your partner,While thinkingThe relationship building with the other party is currently ongoing and trial and error,That's the reality.

next time,About coping with minor incidents that occur in a relationshipI would like to write it down.

Len