Tips to succeed in conversation and appearance with the other woman

I basically exchanged conversations with women in a "feeling close to Tame".

Of course, there are things like "minimum courtesy", so the other party also fully understood that.

I would appreciate it if you could recognize it as "a word close to Tame".

And most of the conversations were about "everyday happenings", "advice to help the other woman get closer to her dreams" and "to convey my knowledge" as much as possible.

First of all, the biggest reason is "mental aspect", and the woman I happened to be introduced to by the "dating club" was "a girl who is at a dead end about her dreams".

In addition, since "I'm considerably older than you", as far as I know, I think there were quite a lot of "I'm going to give you advice."

So, I was often asked, "What should I do?"
(In my daily life, I was happy to be able to ask questions about things I didn't understand. I now think that one of the reasons is that at my age, I've been asked less often.)

In my mind, even in conversations with women, it was necessary to firmly maintain the relationship of "relying on and being relied on" no matter how far the relationship went.

My reason is that I felt that it was "simple" from the father's point of view, "when you reconsider your relationship."

However, instead of saying, "I am proud of my knowledge" just because I am "older", I conveyed to the other person with the feeling of "There are ways to approach this, so why don't you try it?"

After that, I thought that if I spoke normally, the other woman would get an "old man's sermon" or a "kindness push" and "shut up", so I tried to be very careful about that.
(It's hard to give an example, but for example, try to talk in a friendly manner, or add it after the other woman has finished talking about her worries.)

It wasn't just the conversation that caught my attention.

It's a matter of course, but I also paid attention to my appearance.

Basically, I tried not to wear suits.

Of course, when it came to "a fancy dinner" or "a meal at a very good hotel," I wore at least a jacket.

However, the opponent is a child much younger than me.

If this side puts out too much "stiff formality", I would be worried about "the eyes of others" and "I'm sorry if I can't eat deliciously", so I tried not to forget "attentiveness".
(After all, if there is an age difference, it will stand out anywhere)

Then, instead of "formal", when I was asked "What kind of clothes did you wear when we met?", I was conscious of basic "casual".

What you shouldn't make a mistake here is that when you say "casual", it's not "Uniqlo", but "Ferragamo" or "Leon in magazines". increase.

At first it was "full of formality".

Also, I myself feel too hot in a suit in the summer, and I felt that "Isn't it good for the other party to be stiff?"

After that, it's my gesture that's important.
(Surprisingly, recent girls are sensitive)

Whenever possible, I tried to meet with "a stance like meeting friends and family" instead of the usual office attitude (stiff office worker style).

That's why I tried to create a "natural feeling" such as "laughing out loud" without worrying about each other.


When I think about it now, I could see that this "natural feeling" really made a "very good impression" on the other woman.
(The reason is that it was easy, really natural, and they laughed a lot and enjoyed it.)

Not only that.

What made me a little happy was that even from the eyes of the people around me, it seemed that the image was reflected as a “real father and son”.
(Actually, I was told that by the other woman)

After all, even if he himself has a "clean image" and says that he is "purely doing daddy activities", he doesn't want other girls to know.

I felt so.

If so, I simply felt that it would be better to be ``natural'' rather than ``pretend to be natural'' and ``become less distracted by other people''.

If I'm in the position of a woman, I don't want to be known as a "clean image" or even a "part-time job to chase my dreams".

The reason is that I have a philosophy inside me that says, "It's a good thing if only you know it", not "Effort is something you show to others".

Besides, there are some people who write a bad image on the Internet, etc., and the image of being a dad is easily misunderstood.

It's actually really clean.

It seems that there are more than a few men who meet women for other purposes (prostitution, etc.), so maybe that kind of information stands out.

I did some searching on the net as well.

To be honest, I saw something different from the truth.

Now that I'm a dad, I think I need a little more "adult consideration".Did you feel


By doing so, women will be able to "focus only on chasing their dreams" more than now.I honestly thought.


And isn't that the "only attempt" that an adult can give to a young child?

Recently, I've been talking about it with my friends who are also dads.