Etude Love Studies Conversation

Hello, this is Mitsui.
This time, I learned from the past and received sympathy from women in the same period who have a lot of love.
I would like you to write about the study of romance.

*This is based on personal impressions, so it is not applicable to all human beings.

★What is Etude in the first place?

Speaking cool about improvisational theater“Etude”Is called.

For etudes,

An actor appears and begins acting in a situation where the setting is not prepared at all,

A certain amount of settings and themes are prepared at the beginning,
Freely acting according to the theme, etc.

In short, it's like ad-lib training.

* It feels like a certain late-night program by Mr. Tsurube.

* Yes and method

The important thing about etudes isbe aware of the otherWhat is it?
If you just put out settings that are self-righteous, the other party will also have a self-righteous conversation.

For example ...

A: "It's tough!This was Mars!'

B: "That's not true!This is the Sahara Desert and we are soldiers!I'm lost! "

A "Remember!I'm from Earth, you're from MartianRight! "

B"You say you're a soldier!I don't know why! ”

It's no longer a conversation and the conversation doesn't progress.

The important thing is to draw out the story from the other party

There is no way you can enjoy such a messy conversation.
This is the so-called “KY = Unable to read the atmosphere”.
A strong person is an example of not continuing a conversation.

Mr. A in the example“What Earthlings Brought to Mars Want to Do”
On the other hand, Mr. B“I want to play a soldier lost in the desert”

each otherThere is something I want to do, so I insist and desperately try to take the initiative.
For that reason, it became a completely uninteresting state from the point of view of the grouper.
*I can laugh in a way, but...

The remedy for this situation is“Yes and”.

Affirm your partner.It's a common way of speaking
You can't have a conversation with just Jesus.

And“Have a conversation”That is important.

For example, the ridiculous conversation just nowSuppose Mr. A is a user of yes and.

 

A: "It's tough!This was Mars!'

B: "That's not true!This is the Sahara Desert and we are soldiers!I'm lost! "

A "No... thenthis headacheteeth…"

B "A while agohad been beatenHere we go!”

A: "Uh...I can't remember.who are you'

 

★Wouldn't this be an exciting development?

Earthlings brought to Marsamnesiac soldierIt changed to.
Perhaps they couldn't imagine it in their headsA new story was born.

By affirming the other party and giving the topic to the other party with an and
There may be new discoveries!

★Differences in conversation between men and women! ?

this art of conversation.Actually, it's not just for doing theaterTechniques that can be used in everyday conversation!
I am nowEvolved from “unbelievable KY” to “understandable KY” Was.

First,What I kept in mind when conversing with women was “sympathy”.
Receiving a conversation with YES, and getting into the topic with AND.
This seriesfemale empathyIt may be made up of

This is common in conversations between women.

 

Ami "SeriouslyI want to break up with my boyfriendbut"

Yumiseriously!Isn't it dangerous?are you OK? ”

ARMY: "I think it's okay...Caused by my cheatingWhat is it?"

Yumi: "Extremely dangerous!!!"

 

This.* Although there is some prejudice
The girls are talking with yes and.

on the other handWhen Yumi turns into a normal manwhat will happen

 

Ami "SeriouslyI want to break up with my boyfriendbut"

Man: "Huh?What happened?'

Ami: "No, what is it?I don't know'

male"I'll take it if it's about consultationbut"

ARMY "None"

 

Lack of empathy and inability to hear the truth in order to prioritize problem solvingThere are cases.
* Although there is some prejudice

★Then what should I do!?

Importantly,

Empathize with women's conversations.

This is all I can say.
no matter how funny you sayempathy first.

"I understand"
"Oh, there is such a thing"
"Really! That's a great story!!"

By doing so, the opponent
(Ah, this person will listen to me)I think.
When you get there...

It's a beacon of counterattack.

"I understand very well, butIsn't it like this?Isn't it?'
"It was difficult...Let's try this next time!'

While sympathizing, I will AND a completely different opinion.

This is an application of yes and

“No and”Is called.

While getting on the opponent's ring, hit your own opinion!
The other person who has not been able to make his opinion effective until now,
I'm going to listen to the story seriously while I'm in the middle of the day.

yes and no and
If you make full use of this, there is no doubt that the conversation will be lively! !

★Finally...

How was it?
It's been a long column, and I'm reflecting on it.

the story here isIt's just an unpopular Mitsui way.
perhapsI think everyone has a gentlemanly technique.
However, I would be happy if you could refer to it just a little!