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Question date: 2024/03/25 05:40

I have already left the club, but I still maintain relationships with people I met while I was a member.

Recently, I wanted to graduate from being a dad, and I told my dad that I wanted to end it because people around me would find out that I was a dad, but he said it would be okay if I explained that our relationship wasn't about being a dad. I have been told.

It's true that we didn't have an adult relationship, and I think we had a healthy relationship as he supported my goals, gave me advice, and went shopping with me, but we met at a dating club, so I was a father. We met as part of our lives.

(My dad even told me to forget that we met at a dating club in the beginning.)


Isn't this a father's life?
No matter how nice it is, the moment you met at a dating club and started exchanging money, you were probably trying to become a dad.

Is there something wrong with me?

For my dad, he's invested hundreds of thousands of dollars in advance investment, so I don't want to lose out on it, so maybe he's just saying that so that we don't lose out on the relationship?


I wonder what I can say to make this dad understand.

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Kazu

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First of all, I think that "dadakatsu" refers to activities to search for a father.
Job hunting is an activity to get a job, marriage hunting is an activity to get married, pregnancy hunting is an activity to get pregnant, and all of them are activities to achieve something.
So, in my definition, being in a relationship with allowances is not a daddy activity.

Also, the man says that your relationship is not about being a dad.
You think you are a dad, but the man doesn't think so.As you can see, the word ``dad-katsu'' has different meanings for each person.
In order to communicate, it is important to first share definitions of terms and what they mean, rather than focusing on what others think.

What's the point of someone else's answer saying something is strange or not?
For example, if I say that I'm strange, do you think that will convince a man?
If 5 respondents said that something was wrong, would men be convinced?

No one can tell whether the stranger, a stranger, thinks of it as an upfront investment or not.
Even if you don't know, there's no way someone who doesn't know the man would know how he feels.
And if the man was thinking of it as something like an upfront investment, what would you do?
Do you return the money with a profit for the man so that he can get a return on his investment so that he doesn't lose out?

No one, including you, knows what the man should say to convince you.
I think the shortcut to solving the problem is to face the man instead of running away and playing around with the question box.

  • Answer date: 2024/03/25 08:50
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flag maker

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Persuasion from an old man who can only think of things that are convenient for him. Probably difficult. It takes a lot of energy.

It is better to ``leave'' such a person.

  • Answer date: 2024/03/25 16:39
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Joe Rubicon

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As you may know, old men tend to be dreamers.
That's why he says things that don't make sense in an attempt to continue the relationship (I'm not making fun of your father, I understand his feelings).
In my opinion, there is only one basic way to deal with this.

It's about running away with all your might. The first step is to cut off all communication with Ichisai and never have anything to do with him again.
The other person may try to contact you in any way possible. If that happens, you have a chance.
Let's talk to the police.
In short, what the questioner needs is decisiveness. And I am prepared to become the bad guy.
Doing so will also benefit the adults.
Good luck with.

  • Answer date: 2024/03/25 18:10
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Seattle

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Even if it's just a meal, it's a dad's life when he's with an old man.

If you want to meet up, it's not illegal, so you can continue meeting even if you're married.

If you don't want to meet him or don't have enough money, just leave him alone.

  • Answer date: 2024/03/25 20:42
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Katase (female)

Why don't you try talking to your partner about why he keeps holding you back even though he wants to break up with you?
If you are satisfied with that, you may continue, but if you are not satisfied, I think it would be better to have your father decide.

Katase female

  • Answer date: 2024/03/25 20:50
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Fuu

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If you don't reveal your personal information
Don't make another promise
in line block
I won't see you again
I think that is good.

In the end, please break up
Please understand
Even if I say that, it's cruel to the other person as well.

block it quickly
That daddy will find another woman
The sooner the better, the happier the other person will be.
I feel like

  • Answer date: 2024/03/25 23:50
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Paper

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>As soon as we met at a dating club and exchanged money, I became a father.

That's right, if you feel like it's an exchange of money, it's a daddy activity. If you don't feel that way, it might just be because you met at a club...


>I said I wanted to end it because I thought he would find out, but our relationship is not about being a dad.

That dad feels a little abnormal.
It doesn't matter where we met...
It doesn't seem wise to say that line unless your family and friends have introduced you to it.


I can even ignore it if I've already read it...

  • Answer date: 2024/03/26 01:30