【Questions】

I'm a college student and I'm in love with a professor in his XNUMXs.I'm trying to deepen my relationship with her by visiting her laboratory frequently, but she probably doesn't see me as a woman.

The other day, I gently asked him if he had a wife, but he answered that it was a secret.

When men or women of the same generation ask you if you have a spouse, do you ever answer that it is a secret?

And if so, when?

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【Answer】

Thank you very much for your question.

When asked about marital status, the professor had three options.

・Answer truthfully

・Answer a lie

・Dodge

This time, the professor chose the third option, evasion, but why did he choose this option?

Single professor

Consider first the case where the professor is single.

In this case, the most natural response is to honestly answer "no".If the professor sees you as "just a student", this is how you would respond.

Then, what is the intention of the professor when he lied that he was there?

If the professor lied that he was there, it is highly likely that he was aware of the questioner's favor and said it in order to reject it.

This is just a generalization, but I wouldn't recommend a romantic relationship between a professor and a student.Therefore, if the professor intended to prevent the risk in advance, there is a possibility that he would answer "yes" even if he lied.

Lastly, there is the word "dodge", but this is probably due to vanity.

It's entirely possible that your professor feels embarrassed about being single in your 40s.And if you don't want to be honest about being single, but also don't want to lie, you may choose to evade.However, the chances of this happening are fairly low and should not be taken into consideration.

Also, even in this case, I think that I want to show off to the questioner, so I can say that I am conscious of being a woman.

If the professor is married

Now consider the case where the professor is married.

Even in this case, the most natural answer is to honestly answer "yes."Rather than saying that, if you choose any other option, it would be natural to think that you have a pretty strong will.

Then, what is the professor's intention when he lied, "No?"

I can't think of anything other than "seeing the questioner as a woman".She thinks that the questioner may give up if it is known that she has a spouse, so she lies that she does not have a spouse.

And the biggest problem is "dodging"

If the professor chose to "dodge" while being married, it would be convenient for the person asking the question, and it would be extremely malicious.

bad guys don't lie

What would happen if the professor lied about being single and fell in love with the questioner?

When the fact is discovered, the questioner will be angry.And that anger may turn into action in the form of accusations.

But what if the professor evades them and falls in love?

I'm not lying.Of course, this is still a big problem, but blaming the professor for not lying will create a little resistance.

And the professor says to those who ask such a question.

"You didn't say you were single, did you?"

Bad guys don't lie.He doesn't lie, he evades and has an escape route in case of emergency.

This professor is likely to follow this pattern.