If you've been a dad for a long time, you'll have troubles from time to time.

This time, I would like to introduce a fight with my dad that left an impression on me.
 

 Daddy life...it's not always fun

Looking back on my life so far, I realized that my career as a dad has been surprisingly long.

Thinking about it now, I was lucky that I was able to have a date with a naturally rich man with an allowance.


…However, dad life is not always fun.

What I remembered while writing the column was that I had a crush on a certain dad.


As a word that I frequently write in my column "Be considerate to your dad" There is a word.

As for whether I was able to do it in the beginning... I'm not confident.

Looking back, I would have been a pretty self-centered daddy.

I think that I was able to reach this point as a result of accumulating my experience as a dad.


What about the fight with my dad that happened when I started to change my mind about dad life...!?

Please look.
 

 Papa I Met at a Dating Cafe

The dad I'm going to introduce this time is a man I met at a meeting cafe that is common in downtown areas.

He was an office worker in his early 50s with a wife and a high school daughter.

We went out at a cafe to meet only for meals, exchanged contact information, and met a few times.


The allowance is 2 yen for 5000 hours.

They paid for the entire meal.

We don't usually interact much, just go out to eat when the time is right for each other.

At first, it was a lively conversation, and I had the impression that he was a "comfortable daddy."


It's not expensive, but you can get an allowance, and there are no strange restrictions!

A relationship like friends.

I didn't look very good, but I didn't feel uncomfortable, so I wanted to continue a long, thin relationship.


However, an incident occurred that shattered such hopes.


Actually, I had surgery a few years ago due to a gynecological disease.

When I told my dad about it,Ah, you've become a defective product as a woman.I was told.

The operation did not impair any function.

On the contrary, I feel much better and am able to live a healthier life.

At this point, I began to feel frustrated.


And as if to add another blow, Papa said, "To be honest, I don't want to marry such a woman.If it were me, I'd break off the engagement.I said.

I didn't commit a crime or suffer from an incurable disease.

I still don't understand why I had to say such negative things.


At first I was very sad, but gradually I got irritated and started fighting with my dad.

"How would you feel if your daughter got the same disease and your engagement was annulled?"When.

Then Papa said,My daughter is fine because she's not a daddy or anything and she's not sick right now.’ said he.


I'm not such a weak person myself, so I retorted a lot.

I don't remember much about the content, but I think I attacked the last line.

Papa also said that he would not be defeated, and he said that it would be rude to hurt people.


To be honest, I was surprised because I couldn't imagine the atmosphere until now.

I don't know if there was something I didn't like or if this is true...

It's obvious, but the atmosphere of eating with daddy at this time is the worst!

I ate delicious grilled meat and went home with Sassa.

Of course I got an allowance (laughs)


There was a part of my pride that I felt frustrated asking for an allowance after arguing, but I thought I would regret it if I didn't get it, so I decided to get it.

After that, LINE is blocked!Delete it and say goodbye!

I still get irritated when I remember it, and it makes me feel uneasy.


At this time, I thought, "It's not all about having fun as a dad."
 

Caring for each other is important

I'm sure this dad was a dad with the feeling of "casual cabaret club feeling" and "giving money to women".


It seems that there are a certain number of men who say sarcasm and make them cry against women who work hard in the bar business.

Perhaps deep down in your heart you think, "I'm better than you because I'm giving you money."

Some people like to create hierarchies that are hard to understand when in reality they shouldn't be.


As for me, I think that papa activities are based on the premise that we can enjoy each other.

If there are only dads like the ones introduced this time, dad life will be painful, and it will be painful to feel like you are being denied.

In order to build a happy relationship, it is important to treat the other person with consideration.


When the other person is feeling down, it is important to provide support such as understanding their feelings and encouraging them!

It is not good to impose your own opinions and values ​​and hurt the other person more.

This time, I (the girl's side) received it from my dad, but it's not zero that the girl's side hurts my dad, so be careful!

"Will my dad get hurt if I say this?""What would your dad think if he heard this statement?” and so on, you can deepen your communication with your dad.


As the saying goes, “The mouth is the source of disaster”, each word has a weight.

Please keep this in mind and try to enjoy communication with your dad.