Hello, this is Nike, a housewife in her 40s.

Continuing from the last time, this is the second part of the 10 items that I, who is married and working as a dad, should be careful not to find out from my husband.

Last time, I talked about exchanging money and gifts that won't be found out, but in the second part, I would like to talk about the demons and smartphones that my husband finds out.

In fact, there was a time when I was writing a column for a so-called "sales wife" in my job as a writer (I myself am not a sale wife...maybe...).

In order to write this column, I intend to study to some extent the behavioral patterns and techniques of those who "discover" cheating.

In the second part, I will use the knowledge I gained from the sale wife column to show how I protect the contents of my smartphone from my husband.

Conversely, you might be able to expose your husband's cheating!smile

Please try it for reference.

⑥ Do not suddenly lock your smartphone (or do not change the lock)

I have my phone locked (a 6-digit PIN), but my husband and kids know the number.

Children sometimes use smartphone game apps, so it's basically a fully open state.

If you originally left your smartphone open to your husband, never suddenly change your PIN or lock it.

Although men are less sensitive to changes in their partners than women, it is these "minor discomforts" and "minor changes" that cause them to find out.

Of course, the SMS app that I use to communicate with regulars is hidden from view on the top screen.

In terms of location, it's about the top screen → left swipe → a folder you don't usually use → the end of the left swipe twice in the folder.

But if my husband asks me to use my smartphone, I will give it to him and we will watch videos together.

The most important thing for me is not "how to hide" but "how to avoid suspicion".

If you openly say, "I won't lock you in anything," you won't be suspected in the first place, so it's surprisingly easy.

⑦ Make full use of multiple types of SMS apps

The question that arises here is, "If you can't lock your phone, how do you communicate with your dad without telling your husband?"

In my case, when it was face-to-face meeting MAX, I used four tools at the same time.

Site SMS, LINE open chat, Gmail, Telegram.

I didn't download the app for the first dad activity site.

It was a little troublesome, but I used to access the website and log in every time.

It's too dangerous to see the Papa Katsu site icon on your smartphone screen, so downloading is strictly prohibited!

The second line, LINE, allows you to communicate with nicknames and is highly anonymous, so I used an open chat.

If you set it to "hide" or "not notify", it will not be reflected on the basic smartphone screen, so the risk will be somewhat reduced.

As for the third Gmail, I created a new Google account for my dad, separate from my real name account.

It depends on the site, but it's convenient because it doesn't repel "inappropriate expressions" (sexual words or specific words associated with them), and it also provides anonymity.

Don't forget to log out of your Google account at the end of the day, which is also a bit annoying.

And the fourth good point of Telegram is that if you create a secret chat room, the chat will automatically disappear after the set time limit (1 hour or 1 day can be freely set).

You can also lock the Telegram app itself.

We introduced four types, but you can also use it by changing the SMS application you use depending on the dad, or you can use it to secure multiple contact methods as insurance so that you don't cut off with your favorite dad.

In my case, I know all 4 types of each other, but the main one I use now is Telegram.

I would like to write more about how to operate and set up the SMS app in Dadakatsu, so please look forward to it.

⑧ Always search for activities in private mode

For example, you should never use a family-shared computer to search the web for things related to dad activities, such as a shop to go on your next date with your dad, or transfer information to the meeting station.

Of course, even if it's a smartphone, I think about the risk of being seen, so I'm doing it in private mode.

There are two advantages to using private mode.

One is that the search history does not remain.

If you search the web with a normal smartphone, for example, if you tap the book mark on an iPhone, the past search history will come out quite far back.

It would be pretty bad if Shizuo saw my smartphone and found a city hotel, a nice Italian restaurant, or a transfer guide to a station I hadn't gotten off in my search history.

You can also delete the history, but it's troublesome and it looks suspicious that the history is zero.

The other is that you can see it on a screen different from the normal search screen.

I'm looking at the menu of the restaurant I'm going to on my next date, and I want to hide it because my husband is going to be passing by!In such a case, it is OK if you switch the screen from private mode to normal mode.

Never turn off your smartphone as soon as your husband comes near.Too suspicious.

⑨ Never take pictures, do not post them on SNS

When I was writing the Sallet Wife column, I researched samples like "How can cheating be found out?" A lot of it was SNS history.

A married woman (or husband) first looks at the other person's smartphone when she thinks, "Huh? It's suspicious?"

If it's locked and I can't see it, or if I can't find any evidence by looking at LINE, I look at the other person's Twitter or Instagram.

It is the sale people who thoroughly investigate the cheating partner from the history of DM there and the relationship between followers/followers.

There is a photo taken at a cafe on the day you said you were working → There is an account among your followers that has recently posted a photo at the same place that seems to be the same cafe → A friend of yours on Facebook has the same icon as that account →It is almost decided that the cheating partner will be.

Are you going to investigate such things?You may think that, but the people on the sale side will check it...

So if you have a dark side, you should never do SNS lol

Delicious meals, luxurious rooms, afternoon tea and branded bags...

I can understand the feeling of wanting to take a picture and upload it to SNS to satisfy the desire for approval.

But SNS is really high risk.

Leaving data like photos is very dangerous, so don't do it.

Of course, I don't do Twitter or Instagram in private.

⑩ Do not break the time frame of 10:14 to XNUMX:XNUMX on weekdays

The time I can spend as a dad is only about 10 hours from 14:4 to XNUMX:XNUMX on weekdays when my husband and children are not around.

If you use temporary custody, you can extend it, and you can go out on weekends by saying, "I'm going to have lunch with a friend."

But at the moment, I have no intention of breaking this "4 hours on weekdays" time frame.

As I wrote in the previous chapter, the trigger for being caught is when you realize even the slightest discomfort or change.

If you are already working and have many opportunities to go out, or if you often go out with your family on your days off, there is no need to worry about it.

However, if you are a full-time housewife like me, I recommend that you take covert action without letting your family know that you are going out for a limited time when you can move alone as much as possible.

"Don't change anything" is the strongest way to prevent your husband from finding out

1. Create your own online bank account
2. Fundamentally cash-based + electronic money is also used
3. Brand accessories, watches, or cosmetics are recommended for gift requests
4. Don't buy too many personal items even if you have enough money
5. Don't change how you treat your husband
6. Don't suddenly lock your phone
7. Use multiple SMS apps
8. Web search in private mode
9. Photos and SNS are prohibited
10. Activity time is when there is no family as much as possible

It feels like I've listed 10 things I usually take care of to prevent my husband from finding out, but there are many more things I'm careful about, including small things.

But I think the best way to do this is different for each person, depending on their family structure, lifestyle, and economic situation.

The most important thing in a housewife's dad life is not to "do something so that it won't be found out", but to "do nothing different from when you weren't working as a dad".

It sounds easy, but it's actually very difficult to say "no change".

On the other hand, as long as you don't lose your sense of equanimity, even housewives can manage both dad life and family life.

I hope that all the housewives who want to live as dads can find the right style for dads and meet wonderful dads. .