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40Separation from marriage, social experience10My name is Nike and I am a full-time housewife who is over XNUMX years old.

In writing this column from now on, I would like to introduce myself, why I, who was a very ordinary housewife, decided to start working as a dad, and how I met my current regular. I think.

In conclusion, I jumped into the world of Papa Katsu and met Regular-san, which made my life very colorful (not just financially, of course).

I would be happy if I could be a reference for women who are around XNUMX housewives like me and think that they might be interested in dad activities.

Chapter XNUMX: Encountering the story of “papa katsu” as a writer

Originally, I was mainly writing blog articles as a web writer.

The contents are pregnancy life, beauty system, etc.

It's all about themes that I can write as it is, the real image of myself as a housewife.

At that time, my client at the time was launching a new papa-katsu site, so I was asked to write an article, and that was how I came across "papa-katsu."

But at that time, I didn't have any knowledge about papa activities, and of course I didn't have that experience either.

So what happened was that I did a lot of research on the internet.

Papa-katsu accountSocial MediaI followed up on it, and I packed my head with activities, real situations, so-called "market prices" and special jargon.

At that time, I never thought that the day would come when I would become a daddy, so I had no choice but to supplement my experience with knowledge.

That said, for a very ordinary full-time housewife, the activity of "meeting with a man you don't know well and getting some help with tea, dinner, or something else" wasn't easy to understand.

To be honest, when the client first asked me to write about dad activities, I refused.

I thought I couldn't write because I couldn't empathize with myself.

I will never forget what the client said to me at that time.

"You can definitely write, please sell your soul to the devil."

That's why I decided to sell my soul to the devil.

Researching and writing, researching and writing, and so on, the work continued for about a year.

Chapter XNUMX: Trying to actually work to improve the dad activity site

The turning point wasGoogleA large-scale crustal movement occurred in

Until then, the daddy activity site that had been displayed at the top of the search was easily skipped.

As a result of consulting with the client, it was decided that there was a limit to how many people could be attracted to an article written solely through research.

Strangely enough, I didn't feel guilty at the time.

During the more than a year of writing articles on dad activities, I think that my feelings have assimilated to women who are active as dads.

My curiosity overcame my curiosity that I wanted to try and see if it would actually work after I had some knowledge about papa activities.

The registration was completed quickly, and at first it was fun just replying to messages from men who could be dads.

I felt like I was checking my answers to see if what I had thought was the correct answer for dad life, such as the timing of negotiating terms, how to expand the conversation according to the other party, and the use of words, etc. hey.

Also, at that time, I think I was starving for conversation with people.

It was about two years ago that I moved to my current house, and right after that, the coronavirus pandemic hit, and I only talked to my family.

There were many times when I was frustrated with my husband in a situation where I felt a sense of blockage (I think this is true for any couple at any time lol), and the interaction with my dads is very good for me. I changed my mind.

I personally think that "talking to people", especially "talking to people of the opposite sex who are not husbands", is a very precious thing for women of my age.

Chapter XNUMX: Surprise at the world line where you can get medical treatment with a small hour of tea...

Shortly after registering on the site, I met my first potential dad.

The partner's man is also the first time to do dad life48Despite my age, I was able to easily agree to a relationship based on allowances, so we decided to meet face-to-face.

We met at a cafe in the station, and the man who appeared was very serious (= not playing around).

Before we met, we communicated for about a week, so after briefly introducing myself, we started talking about work.

Then show me your real business card.

Eeeee!You can't reveal your real name right away, you'll be deceived! !I pushed back without thinking lol

then just1After talking quietly, he said, "It's almost time," and handed me a bill that was folded in half.

Of course, I knew in my head that this was the kind of activity I was doing, but I remember being a bit stunned by the surprise that this kind of world really existed.

ISocial MediaI felt like my thoughts couldn't keep up with what was in front of me now, which I had only seen in the articles I was writing.

So, what happened with this person after that...

I ended up fading out.

This is also a dad life.

Even though it's a relationship that doesn't rot after you draw the line with money, in my case, I'm full of emotions to some extent, and I want to be close to the other person, and I want to be close to him. It is difficult to go.

On the other hand, if you are a dad man who fulfills that, you can have a good relationship without feeling any guilt or disgust.

I can say "good morning" and "good night" to each other every day.

For me, a regular person is such an existence.

Chapter XNUMX: Destined Encounter with Mr. Regular

My first contact with Mr. Toki was right after I registered on the site.

"I'm hoping for a loose relationship where I can enjoy meals and tea.

I am not looking for a sexual relationship.

I just want to have a good time with women. ”

... is the first message.

Gradually "meal2, and more3So what do you think~? I was starting to get fed up with messages like, "It looked very gentlemanly and classy."

And as we interacted more and more, I was completely overwhelmed by the amount of knowledge, the richness of vocabulary, and the kind messages that conveyed concern.

"Wait a minute, you're an older man, aren't you?", crossed my mind a few times, but I don't think there's anyone else out there who can have fun and never get tired of exchanging words like this every day. , I still think.

There were many twists and turns, including the corona crisis, until I became a "regular" properly with Mr. Regular, but I will write about that on another occasion.

now about the moon2~3When we meet each other, rather than every time, I'm doing a loose papa activity where I feel like ``I'll pay you from the other day'' or ``This month's transportation expenses'' all at once.

Whether I'm seeing him or not, I'm satisfied with him, and I'm happier than before I started working as a dad.

Chapter XNUMX: Why I Need Daddy Activities as a Housewife

Sometimes I wonder why I, who was a full-time housewife without any inconvenience, is still a daddy?I think.

But on the other hand, what was I doing when I wasn't working as a dad?I also think.

Wake up in the morning, make lunch, prepare breakfast for the family, do the laundry, send the family off, and then what?

No one to talk to, no TV to watch at that time, no need to go shopping every day.

Was there anything you did that you thought was "fun" from the bottom of your heart?and.

But now, in between housework, I email Teiji-san and think about what to eat on our next date. I have a lot of things I want to do and think about.

I think that's what makes my life so rich.

Of course, being a dad has risks.

Especially for a married person like me, the time I can move alone is quite limited, and I need to make sure that my family doesn't find out.20TeenagerpjThere is another risk from Mr. Papa Katsu.

But even if I take that risk, I'm glad I started dad activities, and I'm glad I met Mr. Regular.

summary:

A year ago, I never imagined where I would be a year from now.

However, compared to myself a year ago, I think I am more happy than I was a year ago, enjoying every day carefully, being kind to my family, and more than anything else, feeling calm and satisfied.

I'm sure it's thanks to Papa Katsu and Mr. Regular, who I met there.

If there are women who are hesitant about taking a step toward becoming a dad because of their age or position, I think it would be a good idea to put aside the actual meeting with a man and start by just interacting first.

From conversations with men who are not husbands, you may find hints to enjoy your days or discover charms of yourself that you didn't realize.

I hope that as many women as possible will have wonderful encounters and a calm and enjoyable life as a dad.