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Letter date, have men ever offered this method?
And have you ladies ever received a letter date offer?
This method has a [risk of not being able to meet] compared to a normal offer.What is the actual situation?Also, I used real numbers to analyze what points to keep in mind when making an offer on a letter date, so if you are interested, please see the following.

What is letter date

What exactly is letter dating?This service seems to have started in December 2020. 【Detail isplease use this form.】
As a brief overview (quoted from the Universe Club website below)

• From LINE/email/SMS (short mail), send a message from the female member to the male member to the contact address of your choice.
• There is no compensation for female members at the stage of connecting contacts.
• Travel expenses and allowances will be incurred only when you actually meet for meals, so you can avoid women who do not actually plan to meet.
• The security range in this setting is up to the first contact (first message).Even if you do not receive a reply after the first contact, we will not be able to refund.
• The setting fee for the letter date is half the list price.
• Our staff will coordinate so that you can exchange contact information smoothly.
• Applicable to all male members.

... and that.As an advantage from the female side, with a normal offer, you don't know what kind of person is coming, what age, what you are doing, etc. until you meet in person, but you can get a little more information about the male partner by exchanging e-mails in advance. Wouldn't it be nice to know?
With that in mind, let's look at the data.

Percentage of letter dating use

The ratio of letter dates to the offers I received was exactly one in four.As for the occupation of those who use it, there was no particular bias in terms of occupation, from managers to office workers.
When I asked the man why he actually used letter dating,
・Because the amount of the offer is cheaper than the regular offer
・I'm currently living far away, so I'm not sure when I can go on a date, so I'd like to arrange it myself.
・I don't want to make a mistake by actually meeting, so I want to know the character of a woman by exchanging e-mails etc.
・I want a partner just to exchange emails, I want to meet if I can meet
There was a lot of content.

In this way, letter dating seems to have only advantages for men.
However, unlike a regular offer, a letter date is said to have the possibility of not meeting in the worst case.
What is the actual situation?

Disadvantages of letter dating

The graph above is a graph of the ratio of those who did not reach the point of meeting those who dated after that, among those who had a letter date.
The graph shows that 23% of men did not meet.This is also about 4 in 1 people.
Although it is my personal story, why did I not meet the 23% of men?
・I couldn't communicate well.
・The other man was looking for an email friend, so I felt that my purpose was different.
・I was hated by a man before I met him
There were many such reasons.I could dig into these reasons, but I don't think people are interested in my personal story, so I'll leave it here.

How to make the most of letter dating

So, based on these things, I would like to write about what kind of [interactions] are preferred by women in order to make good use of letter dates and lead to smooth relationships.

Notes on letter dating

Men who use letter dating know most of the information about women.It contains rough information such as age, appearance, occupation, etc., and sends an e-mail to that person.
But she doesn't know anything about you.Sending e-mails, etc. without knowing who, where, or what kind of person they are doing.
I would recommend that men first introduce themselves briefly.As an aside, I almost never meet men who send me their self-introduction by writing [I'm married].

What do you think is the reason why men declare themselves [married]?

Since I have a legal wife, do you draw a line that I don't want you to be serious?Is it because of the tacit agreement that I don't want you to contact me at night or on weekends because I have a family?
Or, when something happens, ``I've been saying that I'm married like this from the beginning.Is it for the excuse of avoiding responsibility that it is the woman who knows and is dating a married person who is at fault?Or are you just sending it without thinking?

For whatever reason, I feel a little nasty about it, so I try not to get involved.I would like men to keep in a corner of their minds that if it is not necessary, [married declaration] on a letter date will not give a very good impression to women.And I want women to know that = responsibility arises there, put a little in the corner of her head and act.

Communicating with people you've never met is much more difficult than you might imagine.
If it is a business email, it is easy because there is a fixed form, but it is not so for the exchange of letter dates.There are men who have a hard impression and a cold impression if there are only honorifics and not many pictograms.
On the other hand, some men don't like it because it feels informal from the start, or that the emoji-heavy text feels like they're chattering.
If you have met someone once and know what type of person they are, you may be able to tolerate it, but there are also cases where you would disgust the other person in a way that you would never have imagined if you were just exchanging words with a stranger.
In order not to make a mistake in meeting, if you bombard the other woman with questions and keep exchanging emails endlessly, the woman may get tired of the exchange.

Effective letter dating usage

If you want to meet a woman for sure, I usually recommend an offer.But if for some reason you choose to go on a letter date, I'd recommend skipping the introductions and arranging a date right away.
If you have a budget for your relationship, it might be a good idea to let the woman know in advance.I think the biggest advantage of letter dating is being able to exchange things like this.
I want to meet about ○ times a month.I'm thinking about the location around ○○. … and so on, if you tell the other person in advance about your ideal relationship, it will be easier for both of you to have a relationship after that.For men who don't want to make mistakes, depending on the reaction, it can be used as a means of screening.

A Final Word

Whether it's a casual relationship or a relationship club relationship, the most important thing in a person-to-person relationship is consideration for the other person.
Exchanging only letters is more difficult than I thought to convey my true intentions to the other party.Until you understand each other, you need to be very careful about how you choose your words and how you communicate.
I would be happy if you could make the most of the letter date by inviting her out on a smart date so as not to make the other person feel uncomfortable or uneasy.

…By the way, in my case, none of my relationships since the letter date lasted…

I hope you have a wonderful encounter 🌟