XNUMX things you need to know when you have trouble speaking

Thank you very much for always watching.
This is Toritani from the Universe Club Kyoto Branch.

Anyone have any memories of this?
・ Conversation with the first meeting is not lively
・Even though I had a lively conversation with the person I met for the first time, I can't connect to the next one.
・There is a lot of silence in conversations with people you meet for the first time
etc
I think the most difficult part of conversation is meeting people for the first time.
I don't know how to talk to someone who doesn't know each other at all, and I don't know how to talk
I feel really hopeless when I even know each other's names on that day.
Toritani is also not good at conversation when meeting for the first time...
I don't really know what to do.
So I would like to tell you three things that Toritani learned from that and is careful about.

XNUMX. Ask a simple question that the other person can answer with YES or NO

I think that the most exciting conversation is to proceed with the conversation with the other party.
But that would only make the other person tired...
So, ask yourself the question and let the other person answer.
But this is a trick to avoid silence!
It is NG to use more than necessary.
As an application, ask the other person a question that can be answered with YES or NO.
From there, if the other person answers the question, I think that if you connect it to your own story from there and develop the conversation, you can create an atmosphere that makes it a little easier for the other person to talk.
For example, "That's right! Actually, it's the same for me. ●● is ○○, isn't it? How is it when you meet someone for the first time?"
I think that if you mix yourself into the content of the question you asked the other person, you can close the distance between you and the other person.

Develop conversations with awareness of XNUMX, XNUMXwXNUMXh

This means
·who
·what
·when
·where
·why
·how
It is a way of conversation that is used with that in mind.
I think that the other person will be more interested in the story if you take care of these things and develop the story while including yourself in the story that you have answered with YES or NO.
For example, "It's like that for first-timers. I was doing ●● yesterday, and I was surprised to see something like this at a place called ○○! I was convinced that there was (lol)
You said that you like to travel, but have you ever been to ○○? ”
I think that if the other party is a little interested in talking about it, we can develop the story.

XNUMX. Listen to the situation of the other party

This is a question about your situation.
·work
·hobby
·season
·friend
·family
Let's dig up to a little private part such as.
But be careful here.
Some people are pretty naive about these things and don't want you to ask.
So, when asking questions, I think it's best to ask questions if there are parts that connect from a trivial story.
Conversations are built on connections.
So, if you ask unconnected questions, the other person may get defensive, so please be careful.

A Final Word

Conversation starts because you care about the other person.
Therefore, I look closely at the other party and throw questions and questions from there to the other party, and the other party responds to them.
First of all, be interested in the other person.
From there, the conversation begins.

What did you think?
Thank you for reading.
Thank you in the future.