2023/6/14
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The cost of losing from working at night and working as a dad is big

Nice to meet you, I'm Bell♪(*´▽`*)

It's been XNUMX years and XNUMX months since I started working as a dad.

I've met a lot of people until now.A total of about XNUMX people.

Dating club, Daddy activity app, I've come all the way.

I would like to share my experiences and impressions in it and help you even a little.

 

Before I started working as a dad, I worked as a hostess in Ginza for about XNUMX years.

I have been working as a hostess and dad for about XNUMX years.

Today I would like to write about the points that I think are different from people who do these two things and who do not work as a dad or work at night ('ω') ノ

 

I am proud that my sense of values ​​is not out of alignment even though I work at night shifts for a long time.

I feel happy just by adding one curry ingredient.

Just by topping the tsukemen with an egg, you can think, “I did my best today!”

 

When I was in junior high school, my mother left and I had trouble eating.

You can eat rice only at lunchtime.

I still remember being hungry every day because I was too young to work part-time.

I know how important money is, so I've been saving money without spending too much when I was a hostess.

Even for me, there are some points where I think my values ​​and sensibilities are different than those of my friends who don't work night shifts.

And I lost some because I worked night shifts.I think the price I lost was still big.I think it's now.

Let's talk about that first.

 

Big compensation lost in the night job dad life

In a nutshell, it is "believing in the opposite sex".

When I was a hostess, it was a daily occurrence for a man who had a guest to come to my house and talk to his wife even though she was on good terms with her (XNUMX).

Some are newlyweds or new dads.

When I see and feel that kind of scene every day, I think this is the result.

No matter how close you are after getting married, as you get older, you will no longer be seen as the opposite sex and you will be sought after by someone else.

Of course, there are those who say, "It's not just people like that."

How many out of XNUMX people are there who are "not all like that"?

I don't think it's even XNUMX%.I don't think my boyfriend or husband will hit that XNUMX%.

Not everyone gets married with the intention of cheating or having an affair.

You dream of a happy future and get married.

Instead of becoming a team called "family", they become important partners beyond "the opposite sex".

I think that's a wonderful thing, but it's a betrayal to ask someone of the opposite sex.

In a relationship, trust is the number one priority for me.

If you don't care about trust, you don't have to go out with someone even if you like them, and you just need to share fun things.

I don't even think it's necessary to be bothered to step into a relationship.

 

The reason why I can't get married even if I want to is because of the fear of being betrayed.

I've seen too many things, so I have nothing but bad preconceptions.

I want a child, but I can't do it without a partner, so every year when my birthday comes around, I sigh (゚Д゚)

I was doing my best as the No. 1 hostess, so I got baptized (;・∀・)

I gained a lot of money, but the price I lost was great.

Before I knew it, I had developed a distrust of men.

 

"Ignorance is Buddha" is a common saying, and it's true.

I never thought I would be so worried because I know too much.

If I hadn't worked at night, I might have been blessed with a child by now.

Being alone is fine, but it's also lonely.

I can't help but think of a life where I didn't work at night.

Now that I have experienced it, I think that money is not the number one thing in life.

There are many things that money can replace.

There was a time when I was in junior high school when I was hungry every day because I didn't have any money.

"If I had money at that time, I wouldn't have had to think like this."

I thought so every day back then.That's why I was so obsessed with money.

What I thought when I got a lot of money is that money can't make up for loneliness

Making money is not just hard work, there are costs and losses.

As a result of various experiences, I thought that the result was normal (*´ω`)

 

If I wasn't working night shifts, I would just dream of making a lot of money.

It may have been a life where I blamed myself for not being able to become anything.

Even on the roads I didn't choose, I think I was troubled and conflicted about different things.

I don't know for the rest of my life which one was happier, but there is definitely a price to pay.

 

People who are currently working at night or working as a dad,

People who are going to work at night or work as a dad,

Please keep this story in mind.

There is no such thing as "I'm fine!!"

Before you know it, your head is dominated by "distrust of men."

Please do not get swamped.

And please don't make me sullen like me (;・∀・)www

 

I hope you can meet a wonderful dad (^_−)−☆

Writers: 
2nd year as a dad, late 30s. In my twenties, I was No. 20 hostess in Ginza. At the age of 1, he left Ginza and had a lot of things to do, such as breaking off his engagement, and since then he has been working as a dad only for rice.

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