Hello.
I'm Jealousy Kurumi, a nightlife entertainer who graduated from the University of Tokyo (YouTube channel name is "Mental Health Room").

I was told that I could freely write about the reality of dad activities that I have seen so far and my own opinions (prejudices), so I will continue to write without hesitation as I did last time.

The question is what to talk to an uncle who is 20 years older

Whether it's a papa katsu or a drinking party with an uncle in Minato Ward, there are quite a few girls who are troubled by the topic of talking to an uncle who is older than them, and worrying about "what to talk about."
I often hear people say that it's not easy while shopping, but it's painful to stay silent while eating.

On the other hand, there are girls who enjoy chatting positively while making their uncle feel good about themselves.

where is the difference between the two?

Straight out, girls who have a "problem about what to say" are too serious.
I buy too much just because I'm an uncle.
Ultimately, it's all about communication between people.

This time, I would like to introduce two very important points: communication with uncles, basic kata, and so on.

Consultation disturbance type

When I talk to "daddy's side" people who have mistresses, or uncles who are trying to seduce young children, I often
“From your point of view, what part of you do you think got stabbed by the other girl~?”と
Sometimes I ask stupid questions.

I often hear there
"I wonder if it's because I'm on various consultations as a senior in life..."Answer like a counselor.
It's true that people who live nearly twice as long as I do, have a decent job... No, I'm pretty good at it, and can afford to treat young children and give them pocket money... As long as it doesn't appear in everyday life.If you talk to him, you'll probably get different advice than those around you.

On the father side, you can get a sense of fulfillment that you are "relied on" and "helpful."
It's a happy moment when every human being can reconfirm their own value when they are needed by someone and can influence someone.It seems like I'm saying something very obvious, but this sense of fulfillment is something that everyone can have regardless of age or gender.

Therefore, the recommended conversation technique ① is to honestly talk about yourself.
It's not like I'm trying to openly talk about my serious worries.
"I'm not very confident"
"I want to do something like this in the future, but I don't know where to start."
"I get nervous when I'm in front of people at school or work."
Anything is fine as long as it becomes a conversation starter.
"I've been sleeping too much lately, do you have any tips for waking up early every day?"
"I'm not good at spicy food, is there a way to overcome it?"
It's already a great profit.Question Ogiri.

Looking back, don't you think that friendships often develop from trivial consultations and questions?

Question Ogiri, I recommend it.

Listen-only type

This is the type that I am most good at, or that I tend to do when communicating with people.
"Listen" instead of "listen".
It feels like I'm listening and pulling out more and more and closing the distance.
It's not just about dad life, but...

All men who want things like dad activities and mistress contracts are lonely after all.
Because my status and position get in the way and I can't be spoiled by people,
He goes to cabaret clubs and surrounds young girls in search of a spoiled partner and healing.

If you understand the needs well and become a "listener",
Conversation with the other person will flow smoothly and you will become good friends.

The only thing that matters is the choice of theme.
Don't take it lightly, saying, "It's okay to just let him talk and listen to what he's saying. It's easy."

If you mention work worries that are beyond your understanding, or family worries that the other person doesn't want you to (now) get involved in, each other will keep their mouths shut, creating a bad atmosphere.
Therefore, the recommended topic to talk about the other person's worries and want to talk about is "busy".

First of all, I will enter from lifestyle and routine.
"What time do you usually go to bed?"
"Is there anything you do every day?"

Instead of rushing into work and family situations,
I feel like I'm touching my whole life.

All you have to do is find out the stress points that the other person is likely to have and say thank you.
Short sleep time, busy work, frequent business trips, living separately from family, lack of stimulation...
Etc. Pull out the complaints that the other party wants to spit out.
*When nothing seems to come out, the magic word "I'm busy" is recommended.Unless the person listening is someone who spends their days playing with cats on the couch, lol

The next important point is to keep asking questions while staying close to the other person's story without parroting.
(Ex)
"Recently, I've been having a lot of dinners, so I'm a little tired."in return for
"I'm tired~ Thank you for your hard work (Uru Uru)"is △.
"That's right... is your body okay? It seems that alcohol and lack of sleep overlap...
Don't force yourself to drink today!I'll go out with you even if it's non-alcoholic (smiling)"
And try to expand the story to the opponent's physical condition and today's pace.

'Cause when my friend confides in me, ``I haven't slept much because I've been busy with work lately,''
Instead of saying, "Oh, you're having a hard time," you'll say, "Seriously, are you okay? When are you going to settle down?"

Casual chat type

This is probably the most difficult one.
Talking about your hobbies with your partner, things that made you happy or disappointed recently,
Episodes of people around me (my friend had something like this).
Being able to continue this effortlessly can be tough when both you and your partner are relaxed and not in a natural state.

Or maybe you have common hobbies (golf or movies).
③ seems to be the easiest, but it is difficult if it is a relationship between generations like Papa Katsu. . .

Two things that are more important than topics

I've been arranging the entrustments so far, but before the topic of choice and the development of the conversation
Two things are important.

(1) Self-disclosure is a relationship that has only been around for a short time.
If you go into deep stories such as what was difficult in life, what you worked hard, and when you had fun
You can listen to interesting stories, and by observing the way they speak, you can get closer to the person's personality.
But to do that, first you have to show yourself the attitude of self-disclosure.
If you suddenly listen to it, the other person will be wary, and you can't close the distance with the other person unless you give yourself first.

And finally, the most important point of communication...

(2) showing that I'm interested in you
Because of the extremely impure relationship called Papa Katsu, there should be a feeling of inferiority somewhere in the heart while dreaming of a sweet relationship.
Soften that part of your hardened heart.

People who are not so interested in the first place and do not want to talk deeply,
You probably won't last long with your current partner, so find someone else.

Being with people you don't enjoy at all is exhausting.
Selling time and youth by the piece won't get you excited.