2023/9/28
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Reasons why long-distance dad life is possible Overseas↔︎Japan

Nice to meet you, I'm Bell♪(*´▽`*)

I am 1 years old and have been a father for 37 years and XNUMX months.

I've never been married, I've broken off engagements, and I don't have a boyfriend, but I do have someone I like.

I've met a lot of people until now.A total of about XNUMX people.

Dating club, Daddy activity app, I've come all the way.

I would like to share my experiences and impressions in it and help you even a little.

Before I started working as a dad, I worked as a hostess in Ginza for about XNUMX years.

I have been working as a hostess and a dad for about XNUMX years.

I write what I feel and think.

 

I recently celebrated my birthday and turned 37 years old.

I'm steadily approaching 40 years old.

Currently, I am living a nomadic life overseas, which was my dream.

Actually, it was through my fatherhood activities that I was able to make that dream come true (*´꒳`*)

When I told a gentleman I met on the Dadkatsu app that I wanted to live overseas, he told me that he was looking for someone who could do office work, and when I told him about my background, he told me that he wanted to live overseas.

I was hired on the spot! ! !

It was an event like falling off a shelf.

I am proud that this is a chance that I have earned ( ̄+ー ̄)

I realized that this is what people often say about telling people about your dreams (*^ω^*)

 

It's been about three months since I came overseas.

Before coming here, I was working and being a father.

Even though it was work, I had panic attacks that would occur on crowded trains, so I was working completely from home as an office worker three days a week.

My salary is about 8 to 9 yen.

I lived alone, so I worked as a dad to make ends meet.

I'm sure there are people who are working as dads who are struggling for various reasons.

 

There are rules that require me to leave the country to obtain a new VISA, so I sometimes have to go back to Japan.

I'm going back to Japan to extend my visa this time, so I'll be working as a dad when I return (・∇・)

Everyone supports what I want to do

When I returned to Japan, I was given a lot of delicious Japanese food, and I was given transportation expenses, which I am grateful for (ノ_<)

I don't do adult daddy activities, so we only go out for meals and dates.They took me to see movies, kabuki, musicals, etc. (о´∀`о)

Now that I think about it, I was completely disappointed o(^_-)O

 

When I go back to Japan, I usually stay in Japan for about 5 days to a week, and if I'm lucky, I go out to eat with some dads every night, and if I'm lucky, it's about the same as the round trip airfare (*゚∀゚*)

I thought it would be impossible to become a father if I went overseas, but somehow it turned out to be a success (*^ω^*)

Due to the time difference, I couldn't make phone calls, and I would only reply to messages in the middle of the night (Japan time), so we hardly communicated with each other (>人<;)

Still

Don't forget even now that we only meet a few times a year

I feel very honored that you took the time to meet me when you returned to Japan ( ´ ▽ ` )

I don't think I'm going to start working as a new dad, but I'm trying to take care of the dad I have now.

While joking around about airfare (lol)

While eating delicious food that you can't eat overseas (lol)

While receiving proper transportation expenses (lol)

Feeling the happiness of Japan

When I return to Japan, I will continue to enjoy spending time with my current dad in Japan (*^o^*)

 

This is what I felt when I was a father.

I think each person's image of what it means to be a dad is a little different.

The hourly wage is relatively good, you have to pay tuition fees, you have trouble making ends meet, you have debt, you can earn money from a side job when it's convenient, etc.

This is a woman's reason; a man's side has a different reason.

Men who pay the money think that the service is worth the price, and that it is meaningless unless there is added value.

What I often hear from men is

I felt cold because of the administrative nature, I felt cold because people talked about money before we got to know each other, I felt cold because the price was determined based on hourly wages (I was asked for the total price for two meals and an adult, and I was forced to spend a limited amount of time on a date with food) Because it was longer, I was asked to pay 2 to 2,3 times the price of rice), etc.

I understand both arguments; women choose to be dads because they can earn money more efficiently than working normally, otherwise they would be better off if they just took part-time jobs on the side.

From a man's point of view, he wants what he wants more than paying money, and if it's just a physical relationship, he can just go to an adult playground.

The reality is that if you make it work, there will be no second time.

Even when I'm overseas, I'm still connected to my dad.

I think this is because we have been able to communicate well and have built a relationship of trust.

I was able to do that because I didn't push myself too hard.

Because I have always made choices that make me feel better.

I refuse to meet people who I don't want to be an adult, and I refuse to meet people who are disrespectful or disrespectful.

This is also to avoid trouble.

He's not my boyfriend, so of course I'll swallow what I have to swallow.

If you force yourself to be a dad and put a lid on your heart, you'll end up becoming too businesslike, and you won't be able to express your emotions.

If the fathers are with them, they can get an idea of ​​the woman's state and feelings.

I've only met people I'd enjoy having dinner with, and I've chosen my partners myself.

I think those who are tired of being a dad are doing it too hard.

You can choose it yourself!It is wrong to say that you have to be patient because you get paid.

In dad life, everyone can choose their partner!

If you are feeling tired right now, don't force yourself, please choose the right partner for yourself!

 

I pray that you all meet wonderful fathers (^_−)−☆

 

Writers: 
2nd year as a dad, late 30s. In my twenties, I was No. 20 hostess in Ginza. At the age of 1, he left Ginza and had a lot of things to do, such as breaking off his engagement, and since then he has been working as a dad only for rice.

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