2023/12/18
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How to make a difference in dad life Vol.1

 

Being a father is an important job for me

No matter what kind of work I do, I believe that unless I compete with others and make a difference in some way, I won't be able to live a better life than those around me, and above all else, I can't maintain a sense of tension towards my work.

I think this is the same for dad life.

Even if all the women trying to become fathers were doing the same thing, the men would gradually get tired of them, and even if they met a good father, there would be no point unless the contract lasted for a long time.

That's why I would like to share with you my own way of being a dad.

How can I make my father look good?

Every woman must be concerned about this part of her life as a father.

Will the main focus be on a polished appearance? Or will she use her good communication skills to get her dad to take care of her? I think it really varies.

In my case, when I meet a man for the first time, I usually wear light makeup or no makeup and glasses.

To begin with, my business had already started when we first met.

So why didn't she meet her father for the first time with such enthusiasm? There's a solid reason for this.

This has quite a lot of psychological elements from my own experiences with men.

In the first place, I'm the kind of person who wants to have a long-term relationship with a man I like during my daddy activities.

Because that way, your life will be more stable, and above all, you will have peace of mind.

That's exactly why I don't want to make a fuss about my life being in trouble if my dad suddenly disappears, and even if I suddenly look for a good dad, it won't be easy to find one.

No matter how many people are introduced to you at a dating club, in the end it's just a relationship between people.

It's a relationship that can't exist without a relationship.

I'm sure most women who are looking to become fathers get excited when they meet their partner on the first day.

All my friends around me said the same thing.

However, please think carefully.

If you get tired of your dad, that's the end of your relationship with him.

So, first of all, how do you present yourself in a way that doesn't get boring? I guess you could call it an issue for me, or maybe I should say it's how I deal with men. (Can also be called a strategy)

If you apply your make-up from the beginning and make everything perfect from the start, what kind of appearance will you appear in front of men in the future? Can you imagine it to some extent? If I were a man, would I feel that way?

Instead, I think it's more enjoyable for men if you try not to show everything at first and then gradually open up to them.

Well, that's what I think.

After all, I'm a woman, so no matter how far I go, I can't understand a man's inner feelings.

However, when I see someone of the opposite sex, I wonder if both men and women feel the same way, ``If there's some kind of surprise, I won't get bored.''

Certainly, if you can't sign a contract on the first day, you won't have a second time with that man after that.

That's why you have to get people interested in you when you first meet them.

 

Therefore, she gathers herself and heads towards the man fully equipped.

I think this is also the correct answer, and I had the same idea when I first started working as a dad.

But maybe it's just me, but with this approach, relationships with men only lasted about six months on average.

It's good that I was so excited to sign the contract on the first day.

However, after about 3 months, a man started saying certain words to me.

Things like, ``○○-chan, why don't you dress more easily once in a while?'' or ``Why don't you change your hairstyle?''

As you can see from this alone, you should be able to understand in words that I am getting tired of my appearance. (I'm sure he's conveying this to me in a rather oblique way...)

To be honest, I'm not even a model, and I don't have the specs to change into various characters.

That's why when a man says something like this to me, I can't respond right away.

Especially if my job is to be a dad, it might be natural for me to do something for my dad, but I still don't have the capacity or skills to do it.

So, is there any way to deal with it? I explored it myself.

The result is what we do now.

First of all, on the first day, I dress plainly and ask, ``Who is this woman?''

However, it is important to remember that we are talking about taking proper care of your skin and mouth (cleaning, etc.), so please don't get the wrong idea. (Assuming zero sense of cleanliness)

What I want men to feel is, ``This woman is plain, but there's something different about her from other women.''

And if we can make them think, ``I want to raise this child,'' the first day will be a great success. (Based on my experience so far, this starting point is quite important in daddy life.)

From the second time onwards, the atmosphere will change slightly.

For example, take off your glasses and put on sunglasses.

From a woman's perspective, glasses are now replaced by sunglasses, so hasn't it changed at all? Many people may think so.

However, for men who don't know anything about this, it looks completely different, and the impact it has is quite large.

Rather than wasting your time at the hair salon and changing your hairstyle to a level that only you can understand, you will be able to give your partner a much different impression.

If you give the man a modest impression from the beginning, it will be much easier later on.

In my case, even just changing my outfit from sneakers to mules made people think, ``You look feminine today.''

It's like that, adding this thing and taking that thing away, and if I repeat that, it may be just in my case, but it's less likely that men will get bored of me.

This is just a matter of appearance, though.

Moreover, this method is honestly cost-effective for women.

After all, no matter how you look at it, it doesn't cost any money, right? This is especially recommended for women who don't have much money and are just starting out as a father.

I still use this method often.

Most people around me say that this method requires courage, so they don't do it.

But I think that because other people don't do it, I do it.

Because that way you will stand out from other women, and there will be a difference regardless of whether it is positive or negative. (If you fail, that's it. In my experience, I've never been hated so much.)

If you are a woman in a similar situation to me and are struggling, please give it a try.

Writers: 
The shock when I first learned about the dating club was amazing.Since then, I've been hooked.We will continue to transmit reality from a female perspective.

Articles by Kumiko Mine

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