2023/11/15
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Choosing a dad who sometimes fails Vol.4

 

Kansai dialect man

Maybe this is something I feel because I'm a Tokyo person.

When I don't see my dad, I usually communicate with him over the phone.

Some dads use LINE to organize their schedules, but I still prefer to communicate over the phone rather than LINE.

There is a reason why we mainly communicate by phone.

First of all, in my experience, I can leave a better impression on my father by communicating over the phone, and I also want him to feel as close to me as possible.

That's why we mainly communicate over the phone.

However, if that happens, I will have to talk to my dad a lot.

There are many different types of men who can become fathers, and as women who are trying to become fathers will understand, there are times when there are fathers in places other than where you live.

The same goes for me.

Basically, I mainly live as a dad in Tokyo, but there are actually dads in Kansai and Kyushu, although I don't get to meet them face-to-face.

So, what I'm going to talk about this time is about my father, who is from a rural area.

Personally, I feel intimidated by men who lack grace in conversation.

That's not the part where you say honorific language or anything like that.

It would be easier to understand if it was simply expressed as coercion.

Especially if you are from Tokyo, I think you can relate to this.

Tokyo is the so-called standard language.

So, for someone like me who is accustomed to speaking in standard Japanese, when someone suddenly says something to me in my broken Kansai dialect, I sometimes feel scared, to the point where I think, ``Are you angry?'' .

Of course, this does not mean that all Kansai dialects are rejected.

There is also a Kansai dialect that has a gentle feel to it.

However, all the dads I've ever met from the Kansai region have always been intimidating.

For example, when talking on the phone, if you're from the Kansai region, you might be called ``tsukkomi,'' but to me, it just feels like I'm being ``coerced,'' and I can't help but laugh.

Also, even if we were to discuss something, I honestly wouldn't be able to say anything if someone spoke in a raspy Kansai dialect.

But, that's not the case when we meet for the first time.

So it's difficult to distinguish.

As the relationship becomes more forgiving, it feels like the exchange of words gradually escalates.

Right now, I'm focusing on the Kansai dialect, but the Kyushu dialect is also scary sometimes.

A woman who is originally from a rural area and lives in Tokyo may be able to date without any hesitation, but if you were born and raised in Tokyo, there are many women who have felt the same way as me. I wonder if there is.

Even now, I have a father in a rural area, but I try not to sign up for as many contracts as possible.

In Tokyo, men who use the Kansai dialect are avoided at all costs.

The other day, I met a man who spoke Kansai dialect when we met for the first time.

The other man said that he would be my father, but his Kansai dialect was quite harsh, so I thought it would be selfish to make a judgment based on that, but in my heart, I knew that it wouldn't last long. I thought it would be rude to accept the contract even though I knew that, so I declined.

Why do people find Kansai dialect so scary?

I started thinking about it a lot, especially when it comes to standard Japanese, but I couldn't come up with an answer.

The reason for this is that, just like dignity, the way it is conveyed to you differs depending on the man you speak with.

Besides, it's wrong to actually deny all Kansai dialects, and I'm currently under contract with a father who uses a loose Kansai dialect.

However, if possible, when working as a father in Tokyo, I would like to avoid feeling intimidated at work as much as possible, so my own way of working as a father and focusing on standard Japanese is the way to go.

It was difficult for me to say goodbye to the Kansai dialect dad I had previously contracted with.

It was about two months.

When I told him about farewell, he felt quite intimidated.

However, there was a difference in dialect here.

The other person didn't mean to be intimidating, and it seemed like he was trying to be kind.

However, regardless of that concern, I was still crying out of fear.

At that time, I seriously thought, ``I shouldn't have signed the contract.''

I didn't expect him to feel like that during a calm conversation.

However, this is just my experience, and it may not apply to all men who speak the Kansai dialect, so please do not misunderstand.

insensitive dad

An insensitive dad sometimes.

For example, when you meet someone for the first time, you think he's a really nice person and sign a contract with him.

However, have you ever experienced a man who starts to show his insensitivity while actually meeting you?I have quite a few.

To give you an example, I happen to be wearing new clothes when I meet my dad.

Of course, I bought new clothes to meet my dad.

Of course, I want my dad to understand that part.

However, when we actually met and went on a date, he said things like, ``〇〇-chan, your legs look a little thicker when you wear this dress.'' She even got new nails for the date with her dad.

Then, when I actually meet them and show them to them, there are some dads who say things that are hurtful to us in front of a lot of people without hesitation, such as, ``You can't cook like that. How much did it cost?''

Being a dad is a business, so I have to put up with it to some extent and work hard to please my dad.

However, when someone says something that embarrasses me in front of a large group of people, it takes a toll on even me mentally.

I understand that you are open to me.

But there are some types who don't understand what's good and what's bad, right?I guess you could say that he was insensitive and couldn't read the atmosphere.

And above all, the type of man who said that can never apologize.

So when I point it out, they get annoyed and start making excuses.

I have contracted with this type of man many times in the past, but it was a complete waste of time.

Will it be improved?I was a fool to expect that.

It will never improve. (Based on my past experience)

It is better to avoid a father who has an insensitive personality.

I still wonder why I signed the contract at that time.I have nothing but regrets.

If you say that we are where we are today because of that failure, it would be true.

Writers: 
The shock when I first learned about the dating club was amazing.Since then, I've been hooked.We will continue to transmit reality from a female perspective.

Articles by Kumiko Mine

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