It's simple, but it's a judgment that comes from experience

I think everyone makes the decision to become a dad pretty simple.

In the first place, before meeting a woman who is a dad for the first time, most men have already decided to become a dad and appear on the spot.

The so-called "first meeting = final confirmation" may be the most fitting.

But from my point of view, this is an expert's method.

With this, there are quite a few people who have been dating the same woman for a long time without making mistakes, looking at my friends.

Most people say goodbye unexpectedly early.

I think some men want to speed up their rotation and meet as many women as possible, so the man who said so is an exception.

In the end, if you want to make a long-term contract with one woman and become a father, it may be a pity to say goodbye too early.

After all, I always say it with a sour mouth, but for dad life, it's better to have a long relationship with one woman, and it's more cost-effective. I recommend it because it works. (Although this is my personal theory, I think there is always something beyond sexual relations.)

However, I have a surprisingly long history of being a dad, so I wonder why.

The points to look at when meeting a woman for the first time are quite narrowed down. (Surely, I think that daddy who is more of an expert has acquired this naturally.)

Beware of soft-spoken children

This is limited to "women who work as dads I've met so far", and about 7% of women are soft-spoken anyway.

Where do you find that?When I say that, the glimpses of it appear and disappear when I first meet him.

``My previous dad was like this,'' or ``My dad was like this, and I want to keep it that way.''

Isn't there surprisingly a lot of kids who talk fluently about so-called past dads?I am very wary of those who say this.

To be honest, it may be just me, but aren't there many men who don't want to be told by others about a contract with a woman who works as a daddy?I don't want others to tell me, and if possible, I want to keep it a secret with a woman.

In my experience, the type of people who talk fluently about past dads to dads who are about to sign a new contract are generally the type who don't have much weight in their words.

I see him as a so-called type that disrespects the other party and advances anything.

I don't think much about the other person's position, and how can I cause trouble to the other party by saying it?A woman who can't judge instantly.

So, even if you make a contract, there is a possibility that you will not be able to keep your promises because you are self-centered.

I have signed a contract with this type in the past, but she was a woman who could not keep her promises.

In the end, I couldn't even keep six dates a month.

I was the type who told me about my past daddy information, so I'm sure he'll be talking to people he doesn't know about me after the contract is canceled.

Of course, there is also the point that the relationship of trust cannot be maintained.

So you should be very careful with this type.

I don't sign a contract with a soft-spoken woman.

As an exception in the past, if you didn't see that behavior when you first met, you could see it after signing the contract.

To be honest, there was nothing I could do about this case, and even if I asked for improvements, there was no sign of recovery, so I canceled the contract after about two months. (If it were me now, I might have been able to guide you in a better direction, but at that time I didn't have that kind of skill, and it took a lot of effort, but now I think it was a good experience. ing.)

A woman who can't immediately apologize when she makes a mistake

This may be difficult to judge when meeting for the first time.

However, if you pay attention to it, this is the part that comes to the fore.

For example, let's say that you met in a lounge or the like when you met for the first time.

And, when talking face-to-face, when the other person's smartphone rings, she instantly apologizes, saying, "Oh, I'm sorry at this time."

This made a surprisingly good impression on me.

However, isn't there a type of woman who ignores the ringing of her smartphone and continues talking, or immediately turns off the power?I'm a little wary of those types who said that.

In the first place, from here, it doesn't matter if the smartphone is ringing.

On the spot, I think that it is important for the child to ask, "How can you use your mind?" And this should be the same in the business world.

I think it's important to say "I'm sorry" as soon as possible if you've stopped the air on the spot, and I think this is common sense in society.

To be honest, if you just apologize, you can answer the phone.

If you instantly sign a contract with a type who can't apologize on the spot, you'll have to apologize for everything when something goes wrong.

By the way, I'm not saying that it's bad for men to apologize.

However, if there is a flow of apologies for everything, including the fact that it is not our fault, the man will inevitably be at a disadvantage, and it is easy to end up with a situation that is completely different from the contract we signed at the beginning.

Actually, I have been in the past too.

Initially, he signed a contract with a woman who was chasing her dream of becoming a model.

Being busy is good and I was positively cheering for her.

And when I briefly talked about the contract with her, it was supposed to be "Let's meet at least four times a month."

In fact, when I signed the contract and started dating, the promise was kept for the first month, but after that it became 2-3 times a month, and finally it was time to pay allowances, shopping, and the birth of my girlfriend. Unexpectedly, I was told, "I'm busy with work," and I couldn't meet him.

Of course, because of his personality, he doesn't apologize, so he sticks to one point: "I'm chasing my dreams."

And for some reason, this is the end of apologizing, "I'm sorry for being unreasonable."

why are you apologizing?I just pay the allowance without understanding.

After all, I had already foreseen that this would happen.

It leads to the part where you don't admit your fault.

When I think about it now, I wonder why she was doing dad activities, and I think she needed money. (What did Papa-katsu say? Maybe he didn't understand.)

However, if I had said, "I'm really sorry that it's all about my convenience," I might have looked at her in a different way.

Even in the business world, there are people who make excuses like "because it's work", right?But that's an excuse, and I think it's a relationship of trust between people.

I think that it is a prerequisite to apologize firmly first, and I think that it is very important even in papa katsu.

If you want to build a relationship of trust with a woman, that is.

That is also the criterion for my decision to become a dad.