[JP ONLY] Sugar Dating Anonymous Question Box

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First of all, make sure you go on the date without canceling at the last minute.

Having said that, it is up to you to decide not to continue the relationship in the future.

But there's no such thing as a perfect dad.

The daddy also had little experience in the industry and may have simply been trying to choose a shop that would please women.

There are plenty of other sugar daddies out there who do nasty things, such as those who offer low allowances or pay poorly, those who do unpleasant things in adult relationships, and those who try to tie you down and demand that all your activities be limited to them.

If you have many offers and are in a position to choose, you should turn down this sugar daddy.

However, if you are receiving few offers, it may be a good idea to wait and see for a while.

If the dad simply has little experience in activities, you may be able to make changes to suit your preferences.

• Answer date: 2025/04/13 07:49

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I don't think it's common to use a restaurant that would be used for a girls' night out to set up a first date.
That's all a matter of feeling, so if you meet the person and feel a strong sense of discomfort, it's probably okay to decline.

• Answer date: 2025/04/13 06:43

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It's tough to feel uncomfortable at first.
It's okay to decline if you feel something is wrong.

If you feel even the slightest bit of discomfort, it will likely continue to increase and become a major source of stress.

The same thing
If you want to have a fun sugar daddy relationship, it's best to decline if you feel even the slightest bit of discomfort.
If you think of it as a casual sugar daddy relationship, you can also think of it as a kind of job, where you have to be a little patient until time passes (and it would be a waste to turn it down).


I think you should judge it based on how you perceive it.



Added after reading Mac's answer.

It is more likely that the person asking the question is the one who feels uncomfortable.
As Mac wrote, I think that safe places for sugar dating can be too boring.
The beautiful women who joined the club also complained that they were being shown the power of money by the luxury hotel parking lot, Ferraris and hotel restaurants.

Women tend to go to places like afternoon tea and strawberry fairs, and there are a lot of female customers in good restaurants, not just high-end ones. If you don't go to a restaurant like that, you won't be able to enjoy the food, the atmosphere, or the conversation.
I don't feel like going to high-end restaurants where you're always accompanied by someone.

• Answer date: 2025/04/13 02:47

• iine

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I don't feel comfortable in "restaurants suitable for sugar dating." I feel uncomfortable when there are couples with a similar age difference around me, and the conversation doesn't flow and the woman drinks tea with a nervous look on her face, or when the man is old but tries hard to talk while dressing strangely young.

I can't really imagine what a "cute place for girls to hang out" is, but couples go there too, right? I feel like the questioner could easily make it look nice with their clothes, makeup, and attitude, and the fact that they can't even accommodate men there in the first place makes me feel like they're not prepared for the risks. By risk, I mean being seen by someone they know. It doesn't matter what strangers think.

Even if you are seen by an acquaintance, you were simply eating and drinking at a restaurant with a man of a different age, so if you are clearly trying to please a woman and your clothes and makeup are not what women would instinctively think "this girl is looking for a sugar daddy," then you can say whatever you want. And as I've said before, your attitude at the restaurant is important. Don't be nervous.

It's possible that the man is a beginner or half-insensitive and believes that women will like that kind of place, but if that's the case, he probably wants to please women, and it's men like that who are worth training. Another possibility is that the man wants to experience the atmosphere of a real lovey-dovey date at such a place, and going to that place itself may be his main purpose. Either way, you should prepare yourself and approach the man first to determine his true intentions.

If I were PJ, I would start by saying, "This is a great restaurant! I love places like this♡." The next time he invites me out on a date, I would say, "I was seen by someone I know the other day, so I'd like a restaurant where not many friends come. I'd like a relaxing space where it's just the two of us♡."
When someone says "I want to change stores," I feel like I'm being criticized, especially if it's the first time we've met. Right from the start, I thought she was a bothersome woman.

• Answer date: 2025/04/13 15:47

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>Is this a common occurrence?

We met without having decided on a restaurant, and then I had to drag her around wandering around, which was a pain.
I get a lot of feedback like this, so I don't think it's a common occurrence.

When you think about it that way, he seems like the kind of gentleman who would choose the restaurant first.
I think they chose this restaurant after researching stylish places.
The fact that he didn't choose a restaurant with a private room makes me think that he is still a beginner when it comes to sugar dating.

I am a bit worried that if I point this out, the date will be cancelled.
If you go on a date while still worried, it's more likely to not go well.
I think it would be a good idea to have the staff convey this to the man.

"I understand that the man made a reservation at a restaurant for women out of kindness, but I'm worried about what others will think and whether I'll be able to enjoy myself on the day."
I think it would be good to have them tell you about it.

If the restaurant had stayed the same after I told them, I think it would have been a date that couldn't be canceled.
I think they will be a little considerate.

Still, this is a difficult area.

• Answer date: 2025/04/13 11:39

• iine

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I thought that an offer would be made if it included not only the date and time, but also the details of the date and the meeting place.
In fact, there have been cases where the woman was the one to specify what to do on a date.
For example, if you are suggested to go on a drive date on the first date, it would be okay to turn down the offer.
If you're feeling uneasy, it's best to contact the club and ask about making changes.

• Answer date: 2025/04/13 09:51

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Maybe Fuu lol
It says in his profile that he has a small appetite.
I usually have a private room for meals.
I went to a cafe right next to the station.
When I looked it up online, I found that 9% of the respondents were women.
It was a shop
Be careful, be careful.
Changed to hotel lobby lounge
Even if it wasn't, I'm glad I had this question.

• Answer date: 2025/04/14 08:09

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