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Kazu

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When a relationship lasts for more than a year, it is usually because something has changed in the woman's life, or because the relationship has become stale and repetitive.
If the relationship was shorter than that, he might start to worry about the compromises he was making, or he might have met a better woman and no longer want to continue the relationship.

The phrase "as much as possible" bothered me, and from what you said about not taking baths or getting out of bed, I got the impression that in his eyes you were boring and lacking in initiative.
However, since these preferences vary from person to person, I don't think there is a single right answer that applies to everyone.
To explain it in more detail, some men want a more proactive partner in bed, while others prefer a more passive partner.
For example, when it comes to taking off clothes, some men like their partner to take them off, while others like their partner to quickly take off their pants and suck their penis.
In that sense, "as much as possible" means waiting for instructions, and then following them if instructions are given and you think it's okay, which I think is a passive attitude.

It's a matter of matching.
If you want to continue your relationship in a way that suits the man, I think it would be better to make an effort to understand his preferences rather than asking a third party for theirs.

• Answer date: 2025/03/07 19:03

• iine

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Judging from the wording, it seems like this is quite a mandatory thing to do. Unfortunately...

Of course, a big part of the problem may be that the man you are dating is bad at sex, so the same thing is likely to happen even if the man you are dating is a woman other than the one asking the question.


If the man is reasonably skilled and the compatibility between the two is above a certain level, it is not impossible for the woman's satisfaction to continue to be high due to the support effect.
From the perspective of the person asking the question, it seems that there are few factors that would lead to this happening, regardless of the man you are with.


Because it is not a sex industry establishment, rather than men seeking it, I think men are excited and pleased by the women's satisfaction, their desires and desires, and the way women react, feel, and become excited and aroused.


There are a certain number of men who find it boring when a woman says she did something or agreed to their request.
When a man asks you to do something, it depends on the situation and the man's preferences whether you feel you have to say it, whether you want to say it, and whether the atmosphere is right.

> I think I responded as much as I could. We took baths together, and even after the act, I never got out of bed on my own.

These do not need to be separate.
The social club is all about being natural and doing what you want.
If the compatibility is good, there is no need for the man to ask for anything if it is a normal sexual preference, and I don't think the woman should be conscious of it. On the contrary, I think that if the woman does what she wants, it will increase the satisfaction of not only the woman but also the man.




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Do women really exist who make sounds like those in adult videos when they're feeling it?

There were a few women in the club who were loud enough to make that noise, but at that point I lost interest and never wanted to see them again. (What's this all of a sudden, when nothing's happened yet?)
When I feel it, I stop breathing, I can't breathe, I can't even speak...

Once, I heard a different couple making loud, howling noises at a couples' cafe, but I don't know what that was, whether it was play or the sound of pleasure.



> Ayase-san

I'm sorry for the inconvenience.
A normal voice is fine, but I'm talking about strange voices like those in adult videos.

Can you make a voice like that in adult videos?

I've only ever heard prostitutes (soapland girls) make sounds like those in adult videos. (I know they can't possibly be feeling anything, but I think they should at least try to create a bit more of a mood, because that's their job.) It's really boring...

Also, if a woman goes and has a convulsion (which is almost like an epileptic convulsion), it doesn't seem like she has the strength to even speak...
I'd rather have my back and whole body drenched in sweat and the sheets soaking wet than hear my voice. (Sweating from movement is no good...)





What do you think is great about the club?

By the time I joined the club, I thought that even if I could have sex with an adult, it would never be as good as loving sex with a girlfriend or wife, so I thought that there was no way it would happen (although I had no shortage of sex partners when I joined, so maybe I was just curious and didn't have high expectations).


That, that, has been covered up...


Eh? Why? No way...

It's not just that the woman has an orgasm, but that she goes on and on, and then goes on and on, building a relationship of trust, and then they reach a convulsive orgasm, and then the waves of convulsive orgasm continue, and they both get so absorbed in this amazing world. Now that I think about it, I've been sucked into this frightening place (dimension)...



Well, in the end, I feel that where you meet someone doesn't really matter, when you get down to it.

These days I feel that no matter where you are, if you talk to someone for five minutes and feel attracted to them, even if it's just for a moment, there's a chance that you could become lifelong partners.


Is it wrong to think that only soapland girls make voices like those in adult videos?

I remembered how exciting it was having sex with my wife, trying to keep our voices down so she wouldn't hear us when we temporarily evacuated to her parents' house during the earthquake.

• Answer date: 2025/03/07 19:53

• iine

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> Later, when we were having sex at the hotel, I somehow felt like she didn't like it.

At what point do you think this is up to each individual.

① Poor reaction during sex, no sound
In such cases, even if the woman herself thinks it feels good, does that mean the man doesn't feel good?
Does the lack of reaction mean she doesn't like sex?
I think there are times when I feel like this.

If that's the case, it might be a good idea to practice by watching adult videos, even if it's just acting (although that's not really a good idea).
I think it's easy to see through the faking at first.
I think before long no one will realise it's acting.
What's better, I think it's best to be so good that even you can't tell if you're acting or not.

② It is a passive attitude.
I think it's okay to be passive, but I think most men would be happy if women were somewhat proactive.
However, this is somewhat difficult.
If you are too aggressive, people will think you have a lot of experience with men, or maybe you worked in the sex industry, and that will be a negative thing.
I think it's best to include some indication that you enjoy the act, without giving that impression.

3. Dislikes kissing
I understand that there are many reasons why you may not like kissing someone (such as their mouth smelling bad).
If you make a displeased face when a man tries to kiss you, it will be a negative point even if you don't refuse the kiss.
If you refuse, it will be a big negative.
If you really don't like it, it's best to explain why.
(Although not being able to kiss is still a minus.)

I think there are others as well.
This is a very difficult point, so
I think it's ok to just look for a new guy if you think you're not compatible.


>Do women really exist who make sounds like those in adult videos when they're feeling it?

that?
Maybe the AV you're expecting is different.
So there are AVs with people making weird voices...

• Answer date: 2025/03/07 20:07

• iine

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If it was the second or third time you'd met, that might be one thing, but after being together for a long time, I don't think "I just had this feeling that I didn't like it" is a real reason.
So I feel like there's no point in regretting it.
(Maybe she found someone with whom she was more compatible)

This isn't just limited to relationships; just like when your current fad comes to an end, there are times when things can come to an end.
How about being a bit more proactive next time?

• Answer date: 2025/03/07 20:20

• iine

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In my case, it was when I felt that the women's attitude had become rough, partly because they had become accustomed to the situation.

After reading the questioner's answer, I felt that perhaps I was acting out of obligation, even if it did feel a little obligatory, but as long as I believe that both parties are acting with the other person in mind, I wouldn't break up with the person myself.
This time I thought it would be best to just consider that as a feeling and move on to the next thing.

• Answer date: 2025/03/07 21:25

• iine

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Nana Ayase

I think the man she was dating simply got bored, so she made a new offer and found a suitable partner.
Don't get stressed out over this and wait for new offers.
What made you decide to break up?
I think that since he registered with a dating club, he is the type of person who easily gets bored, so if I can't get in touch with him, I assume that he has gotten bored.


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Do women really exist who make sounds like those in adult videos when they're feeling it?

There were a few women at the club who were loud enough to make that noise, but at that point I lost interest and had no intention of meeting them again.
When I feel it, I stop breathing, I can't breathe, I can't even speak...

My breath stops. I can't breathe... Is that all?
Isn't it normal to make a sound? I'd be very shocked if people think that making a sound is acting.

☆I'm not sure if I want to be like an AV actress or like a soapland girl, but next time I do it I think I'll try to go for a more casual look ( ˙-˙).

• Answer date: 2025/03/07 22:37

• iine

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