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Question date: 2023/12/06 08:39

I am considering joining.
This is a question about relationship type.

Assuming that you receive an offer, you both like the other person, and you decide to start dating,

① If you want to start an adult relationship after having multiple dinner dates, is B1 ok?
(We cannot guarantee that your relationship will become an adult from the second time.)


② We had a dinner date for the first time, and we got along well, so we made a promise for the next date, but during the conversation on the second dinner date, my impression of the other person changed and I started dating. If I want to stop doing something, is it okay to refuse to go out with him?


③I would like to properly thank you for taking your precious time for me and treating me to a meal, and I would like to decline your request in a way that does not hurt the other person as much as possible.

“Thank you for offering me the opportunity to serve you.The meal was delicious, and I appreciate you taking the time to spend your valuable time with me.I would like to consider a future relationship.” I'm thinking about it. Could you please give me some time?", and after a while he said, "I've considered various things, but I don't think it would be possible to continue our relationship in the future. Is it okay to send an email that says something like, "I'm really sorry for this."


④Will I face harassment or any kind of retaliation if I refuse?


⑤After that, should I wait for the next offer?


We apologize for the inconvenience, and thank you for your understanding.

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I will answer below.

① If you want to start an adult relationship after having multiple dinner dates, is B1 ok?
(We cannot guarantee that your relationship will become an adult from the second time.)

 →If it is multiple times, the relationship type is B1 and they recognize each other.


② We had a dinner date for the first time, and we got along well, so we made a promise for the next date, but during the conversation on the second dinner date, my impression of the other person changed and I started dating. If I want to stop doing something, is it okay to refuse to go out with him?

 →B1 has been done multiple times, so I think there will naturally be decisions that the feeling doesn't match during the process, so there is no problem.


③I would like to properly thank you for taking your precious time for me and treating me to a meal, and I would like to decline your request in a way that does not hurt the other person as much as possible.

 →In my case, I guess from the questioner's sentence and give up.I think most people will be fine.


④Will I face harassment or any kind of retaliation if I refuse?

 →In general, I think it's rare for people to consider retaliation unless something extremely malicious happens, but I can't say it's absolutely okay.


⑤After that, should I wait for the next offer?

 →It's nice to be approached by female members.I think it's because they update their messages and profiles.

  • Answer date: 2023/12/06 09:01
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I think the response you have in mind is fine.
As for the content, it's perfect (lol)

I don't think it's harassment or anything.
Sometimes,
I have heard that people have been harassed, but I think you can minimize the damage by limiting your personal information until you get along well.

The good thing about dating clubs is that you can decline the relationship after seeing the other person, and you can decide the terms of the relationship yourself.
It would be nice if you could enjoy your meal while looking at the man who appeared in front of you (lol)
The man in front of me is thinking the same thing while eating, so it's fun (lol)

  • Answer date: 2023/12/06 09:06