Things I think about while being a dad

I think everyone has their own things to think about when they're working as dads.

For example, what should I use the allowance I receive?Or, how much money can I earn this month?Or how should I live from now on?Such.

Each woman who is active as a father has a different reason for doing so.

Therefore, because the reasons are different, the purposes are completely different, and the money earned from daddy activities can be used in various ways.

But is money really the only thing you get from being a dad?Have you ever thought about saying this?I've been thinking a lot lately.

The longer you've been a father, the more likely there are to be people who have hit a wall or made many failures.

So, is money really all you get?If someone asked me that question, I would immediately answer, "No."

After all, if money is the only thing I earned from being a dad, then where have I improved over the past few years?It was hard for me to understand, and more than anything, I felt like I had to reconsider the meaning of being a dad.

Of course, when I think about it now, I realize that when I first started working as a dad, I was a really dirty person.

For example, the way he looks at his father.

Being a dad = having fun and earning money was what I had in mind.

So, rather than saying that I was doing my best for my dad, I felt that it was natural for him to do his best for me.

Therefore, all men who ask for something in return have their contracts terminated.

At its worst, there was a time when I refused to even hold my dad's hand.

The reason is the eyes of those around me.

I was so concerned about what others thought of me that I couldn't approve of my fatherhood.

It's a contradiction that I'm denying daddy activities, but I'm actually doing daddy activities myself.

I can now give you a clear answer that my thought process was because I started without understanding the essence of being a dad.

That is not all.

She always extorts something, thinking that if she meets her father, he will buy her something.

Then, they got into this habit, and no matter where they were, it became normal for men to pay the bills, and in the past they carried this into the private lives of their peers.

Naturally, you'll lose friends.

There is no appreciation or respect for him as a person.

Everything is normal.

But not everything is normal.

It was Dad-katsu that made me realize that.

At that time, I was talking to my dad.

You might say things like, "Why do all my friends leave? Are my feelings really that weird?"

Then my dad told me this.

``Perhaps my senses become numb when I'm active as a father, but aren't the things I'm doing to XX-chan normal?In my life as a father, we both have the same interests. So, it's a relationship that exists because we have a contract, and if you ask someone of the same generation who doesn't have a contract to understand that, there's no way they'll understand.Wouldn't it be better to separate them?" Ta.

At that time, I always had a one-sided feeling, saying, ``I like people who accept me for who I am.''

But that's when I first realized that it was different.

Isn't this what I gained from being a dad?The so-called ``separation of work and private life'' part.

That is not all.

The same goes for imposing one's values ​​on others.

At the time, I was very self-centered when it came to my interactions with my dad.

I'm in a situation where I almost never pick up the phone calls from my dad and can only talk to him on the phone after he calls me back.

Even if it's at the promised time.

Even though we have specified that time period.

That's strange as a person.

But I thought it was OK if I was a dad, and I thought that's what they said.

But that's a huge misunderstanding, and something you should never do even if you're a dad.

After all, it's simply an act that destroys trust with your father, right?In the first place, dad-katsu is a business that is built on trust with dads.

If I ignore that, there's no way I can make a contract with my dad.

Naturally, the contract was canceled within three months.

But at that time, I didn't really try to understand why.

But the next dad I signed a contract with told me this.

"You have to keep the promises you make, right? If you don't, no matter how much you keep your promises, it won't hold true."

At that time, I thought, ``Oh, I must have been rude!!!'', and for the first time, I was able to think about what happened with my ex-dad again and face it as a point of correction.

I don't think I would have noticed this if I wasn't working as a dad, and I think I probably did something similar in my private life as well.

The promises you make for yourself are extremely important in life, and I feel like I've been able to get a lot of time to reevaluate myself through Papakatsu.

For example, when I was working during the day, I didn't have the time to reevaluate myself.

I was in an environment where I was only thinking about trying to fit in with those around me, and not having them fit in with me.

Of course, it also depends on your position at work.

Inevitably, since I was employed by someone else, I was more focused on the other person than myself.

But being a dad is different, isn't it?It's a female-dominated environment, and the father is very accommodating, and it's different from being employed by someone else.

That's why I feel like I have so much more time to reevaluate myself than a daytime job like an office lady. (This is just based on my experience)

In this sense of ``knowing who I am now'', do you get the time to reconsider because you're a dad?I thought simply.

If you think about it that way, you can get a lot of things through being a dad that money can't buy.

Perhaps women who have been fathers for a long time can relate to this.This is especially true for women who believe that being a father means business.

I don't think anyone can handle being a dad perfectly from the beginning.

Being a dad = what do you get?Now I think that's really important when starting out as a father.

At that time, I wasn't thinking about anything but money.

I think people who are about to start working as fathers will not make the same mistakes I did if they keep this in mind.

And what you get will change from what you get to your purpose.