How to feel
When you're a dad, one thing you always worry about is how to make a long-term contract with your dad.In order to do that, you have to get your dad to like it, or you won't even be able to get your first contract.
There may be many people in this world who seem to be making easy money by being a dad.
Surprisingly, we must not forget that this is a job that requires a lot of sifting, and if you don't know what it means to be a dad, please keep this in mind. (If you try it, it will be quite difficult.)
So, this time I would like to share with you an example of someone who has become a little familiar with the life of a father.
As you get used to being a dad for a little bit (even then, it's aimed at people who have been dads for more than 4 to 6 months), I think you'll gradually understand how to make a contract with dads and how to communicate with them.
And I think most women would like to have one or two more fathers.
This is because many people say that if there is only one father, the allowance is not enough. (Of course, there are many people who say there is no problem with being a single father.)
So, once you get used to being a dad a little bit, I guess you could say it becomes automatic.There are many people who speak and act in a blatantly unfeeling way towards their new fathers.
Perhaps, he feels that he is not satisfied with the idea that ``dad life = money''.
I agree with the idea of treating fatherhood as work, and I think it's only natural to be able to control your emotions.
However, being a dad is a service industry.
That's why you don't want the other person to realize your cold feelings.
I wonder if people who haven't had much experience as fathers behave in such a cold manner that it's easy to understand?I think.
Certainly, if you master to some extent how to make a contract with your father and how to communicate with him, you will be able to do this and do that in an instant.
However, it might work in normal business. (For example, a factory worker who does the same work every day.)
However, in dad-hunting, we are dealing with humans, not machines.
Also, he was an older man with much more life experience than us.
Your actions and thoughts will be read immediately.
A man who has a very generous heart will sign a contract after understanding the feelings of a cold woman who says, ``I'm not interested in your humanity. I'm dating you because I'm only interested in your money.'' In some cases, it may be given to you.
Despite her father reading her mind, she continues to act coldly.
If you ask me, I think that's insane.
Especially in the service industry, I think this is a fatal blow.
It's true that daddy activities are a gateway to ``paying attention to women,'' and men are probably signing up for dating clubs. (This can be described as gentlemanly behavior by a man.)
Moreover, I recognize that this is what it means to free and help women.
But is it okay to be complacent and make our services sloppy?If you ask me, I think that's completely different.
Dad activities should be based on the premise that I firmly say, ``I will do my best for my dad.''
So, no matter how much you understand how to make a contract, how to communicate, and even if you think things will be easy, you must make sure to make the right choice and go back to the basics, or you will have a long-term relationship with your father. I can't.
Being a beginner means always facing your father with a fresh feeling.
For example, when signing a contract, we state our requests and listen to the father's requests.
In that case, instead of responding in a casual way, listen carefully and try to make the time more meaningful.
Just because it's easy to communicate with a dad under contract doesn't mean the same way of communicating will apply to the next dad.
This also means that we need to work hard to meet each father individually and change the way we communicate each time.
Recently, a friend of mine gave me a very clear example.
The child has only been a father for three months.
From my point of view, I'm still a newbie.
However, I immediately signed a contract with a single father, and for the first month or so, he consulted me quite a bit.
For example, how often do you meet?At what point did you have a physical relationship?Or how much allowance do you receive?And.
To be honest, the amount of allowance each person receives from their father is a top secret to me. (The reason is that the services will be different for each person, and I think it would be rude to mention this to my dad.However, sometimes I don't get asked if I get a small allowance on special days such as Golden Week.) I try to tell them when they get paid. To me, it's like a bonus. But I don't tell anyone about the fixed monthly allowance.)
However, I was able to answer other questions, so I told them each time.
However, from about the second month onwards, I stopped receiving consultations at all. (No, we even lost contact.)
Then, when I called him about 3 months later, his character had changed somehow. (From my point of view, it's for the worse)
I started talking about my dad, complaining about how he never buys me presents and doesn't give me a raise, and he started talking to my friends about money too. . (By the way, from what I've heard from her, her father seems like a really nice guy. He often signs contracts with her, right?)
Then, I tried to sign a contract with my new dad, but he was too stingy and told me that he canceled the contract two weeks after signing.
I told her this.
"Aren't you misunderstanding something? Listening to what you say, there's nothing wrong with Dad. Has your personality changed a bit? You're going too far. You should think about it as a person, right? You'll even lose your friends. ?”
Then, perhaps unable to ignore her friend's words, she apologized to her father and hung up.
In the end, it seems that the relationship with that father could not be repaired, but in his next new father, he seems to have learned from that mistake and is doing better as a father.
Once you lose your dad's trust, it's difficult to restore it.
Therefore, you must never treat your father wrongly.
Treating your dad well will also help him continue receiving his allowance.
