What are women doing as fathers?
When working as a father, one thing that almost always comes down to is the means of transportation.
For example, when going on a date with their dad, some children call a taxi directly from home, while others take a bus or train.
This surprisingly comes up as a topic of discussion even among the people around me who are actively working as dads.
Indeed, I always think that women have a variety of values even when it comes to transportation, right?That's what I feel.
So, from my personal perspective, I would like to share my thoughts on the pros and cons of going on a date with my dad, because sometimes I enjoy it and sometimes I have a hard time going on it.
Anyway, girls in Minato Ward don't use trains.
This is true, including those around me, but I don't see many girls in Minato Ward who primarily travel by train. (Only as far as I know)
This includes my friends.
That's why I use taxis even to go shopping.
Normally, wouldn't it be cheaper for some girls to get a driver on a monthly contract?There are some children who use taxis.
I certainly use taxis sometimes.
However, in my case, I usually use it when walking is difficult, such as when it's raining heavily, I didn't bring an umbrella, or there's a gust of wind.
Other than that, most of the time I go there on foot and then change trains and buses.
First of all, why don't I use taxis as my main means of transportation?
My dad says I can take a taxi.
But in the first place, isn't it extremely rude to my father to take a taxi every time I visit him?Because I thought so.
After all, I think being a dad is work.
And it's not like I'm doing it for my dad's benefit.
If my company told me I could use a taxi, I would have no hesitation in using it, and it might be more efficient in terms of travel time.
Above all, I am able to give back to the company through my work.
However, I feel like I am receiving support from my dad when I am a dad.
In other words, Dad is not benefiting in the form of money.
Of course, you can also view the fact that spending time with your dad as ``making you happy'' as a benefit.
However, to be honest, I cannot think like that.
That's a too one-sided way of thinking, and even though fatherhood has recently been given a clean image through the media, is it okay for the important aspects of that to be out of sync with those of daytime occupations?Because that's what I think.
I want you to think about it.
A woman who is in a position where she is receiving ``allowance = money'' from the other party, ignoring her emotions.
In contrast, the women who are not able to return the ``allowance = money'' usually take luxurious taxis.
If the average woman were to focus on that part, she would probably think, ``Women who are trying to become fathers are wrong after all.''Admittedly, this is a generalization, and there are some aspects of fatherhood that cannot be measured in general terms.
However, from a business perspective, expenses continue to rise even though the other party is not making any profit.
I've thought about it a lot, but no matter how you look at it, I still think it's insane.
When I first started working as a dad, I used taxis for several months just like my dad said.
It was really easy and I didn't think about anything.
However, one day my other father told me that I could take a taxi.
"Isn't it easy to take a taxi?"
At that time, I realized something that made me think, "Hah!"
That's because daddying is a business, and he was in a position where he received support from his dad.
In the first place, I started working as a dad because I had something I wanted to do and didn't have enough living expenses.
And my dad was there to support me.
In the initial setting, I started working as a father because I didn't have any money.
However, while everyone else uses trains and buses in their daily lives, I prefer to travel by taxi.
Don't you think it's a contradiction?Honestly, I thought, ``This is terrible for me as a person.''
I think there are many women who say that's what it means to be a dad.
However, I always want to have some common sense, and I thought that if I threw that away, I would only be able to talk to other women who are working as fathers.
To be honest, I even felt a sense of crisis.
I realized that by using a taxi only when I'm really in trouble, I can continue to be grateful to my father and feel grateful for him.
Also, don't forget to be humble.
To be honest, from the father's side, it must feel like he is helping the other person by paying a high allowance each time.
However, what would the woman think if she came to the spot by taxi every time? I feel like it can't be helped if people think, "Yeah? Do you really need my help?"
So, even if you say that you want your allowance to be increased because your life is so difficult that you can't pursue your dreams, it will have zero persuasive power.
Instead, if you go to the place by train, even if it's far away, the men will think that you're having a hard time, and there's a chance that they'll increase your allowance and say, ``Have fun once in a while.'' Because there is.
When it comes to being a dad, humility on the part of women is really important.
Also, I think a lot of people go directly to the date place by taxi, but if you use the train, you can buy a souvenir for your dad, so it's surprisingly convenient.Besides, I guess the most important thing is that I can't let go of my common sense.
Dad really appreciates what women say. (I think women who have been fathers for a long time will probably understand.)
People who think that being a dad means having fun and making money are really wrong.
It is true that there are many different types of jobs, so which one should you compare them with?It depends on the situation, but if you're a woman who thinks of being a dad as a business, I don't think she'll feel like she's having fun making money.
After all, there are many kids around me who are having fun and actually don't have long-term contracts with their dads. (So-called not stable.)
That's why I often see children whose lives are surprisingly difficult.
I want you to remember that even just one means of transportation has its advantages and disadvantages.