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As a birthday present, I want you to repair the cracked smartphone screen (4XNUMX yen), but it's not strange...?

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*This question was sent to the dating club "Universe".Therefore, although there is no description in the question text, I am answering assuming that it is a gift from my dad who is a dad.

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Thank you very much for your question.

As a major premise, gifts should be given as "something that pleases the recipient".For example, I'm allergic to shrimp, so I would be embarrassed if someone gave me a spiny lobster as a gift.In order to avoid such a situation, you should follow the basic principle of choosing what the other party will be pleased with.

Based on these basic principles, I would like to introduce the ranking of "gifts that the other party will really appreciate".

1place cash

2Various cash vouchers

3Marketable securities

4real estate

5Highly convertible precious metal

What do you think.Perhaps there are some presents that the questioner really wants.By the way, I am happy with everything from XNUMXst to XNUMXth place, so if you have the opportunity to give me a present, I would appreciate it if you could refer to it.

Compromise is important

If you create a ranking that is convenient for the receiving side, there is no doubt that it will be something like the previous one.

Then, is it okay if all the presents in this world are only those listed in the previous ranking?

to this questionYesIf you answer yes, you probably think somewhere in your heart that you are the recipient.There is no doubt that the gift I mentioned earlier is convenient for the "receiving side", but we must not forget that there is a person on the "giving side" of the present.

Just as there are "presents that make you happy to receive", there are also "gifts that make you happy to give".

For example, grandparents celebrate their grandchild's entry into elementary school10Let's say you have a $XNUMX budget.From the perspective of the child's parents,10To receive XNUMX yen in cash1It is without a doubt the happiest.

But from the point of view of grandparents10I think you can also understand the desire to give XNUMX yen as something like a school bag or a desk instead of giving it in cash.If you give cash, the grandparents have no idea how the money was spent.Even if you do know, it is a gift that parents bought for their child, and you can understand that it is difficult to feel that you have given it as a gift.

Of course, just because there is a "gift I want to give", I think it's wrong to give a gift that completely ignores the other person's wishes, but the person receiving the gift also wants to give the other person "desire to give" as much as possible. There is no doubt that choosing a gift that satisfies will increase the happiness of the world.

If you ask for this, everything will be settled

I understand that the questioner wants to fix the smartphone.However, this gift will be a gift that is close to cash.As expected, the questioner will not go to the repair shop with his father, so I think that the questioner will receive the repair fee and repair it at a later date.

I don't know your daddy's personality or preferences, so I can't generalize, but I don't think this gift is a gift that satisfies "the desire to give".If you ask for it, I think that request will probably go through, but Papa-sama's inner feelings are not very good.

By the way, what kind of smartphone are you using now?

About a month before I wrote this answeriPhone13was released and just the other daypixel6is now on sale.Perhaps the smartphone of the questioner is at least older than these two models.

In that case, why don't you ask for a new smartphone as a gift without saying anything stingy about repairs?

Both10Although it costs around XNUMX yen, which is higher than the repair fee, there is a big difference in the "desire to give".

For example, Papa sets a gift budget10Let's say you have XNUMX yen.However, when I asked for a present in cash, Papa became extremely uncomfortable.5They only give me about XNUMX yen.On the other hand, if you ask for something, daddy will be satisfied with the "desire to give", so10You may even receive something worth XNUMX yen.

The questioner is happy to have the latest model.

Papa is happy that his "desire to give" is satisfied.

Even if the budget is the same, the feeling of reluctance to give a present varies greatly depending on the item.Papa-katsu doesn't give me an allowance so easily, but it's surprisingly easy to ask me to take him to an expensive store because of this reluctance.