Reconsider common sense

As any woman who is already a father knows, the majority of fathers are much older.

To be honest, I have never met a man younger than 10 years my age.

Therefore, to be honest, I feel that there is a ``considerable gap in our values,'' and I often feel that this is what people call ``the generation gap.''

However, do you only notice the bad parts? If you ask me, I don't think so.

Honestly, I have almost never been able to use what I learned from them in a different setting, and to be honest, when I go to a place where I can be compared to people of my generation, I get compliments. It's more likely that this has happened.

Now, in such a situation, there are some things that you tend to forget when you are working as a father.

It's about dealing with dad.

Inevitably, the better your father is, the easier it will be for you to reveal your true self.

As a result, there are times when I end up talking to my dad in ``evil language,'' and even in situations where I should be paying attention to myself, I end up making my dad pay more attention to me.

When you're a father, you're bound to come across situations where you think to yourself, ``This is not right,'' and I'm sure there are many women who say they regret it and say, ``I'll have to reflect on it later.'' Is it?

I think that's probably because I haven't set firm rules for myself.

I have experienced the same thing as mentioned above, and even had my contract canceled due to it.

Of course, Dad didn't explicitly say so.

However, when I heard the reason for canceling the contract from my dad and interpreted it myself, the points I reflected on included the above. (If this had been improved, although not everything, it is possible that the result would have been different.)

So, what common sense is necessary when working as a father?

Values ​​differ depending on the environment in which women were born and raised in each family.

People who think this way should be careful.

In a sense, this is an escape for me, as I consider all women who are active as dads to be adults, and their dads are supposed to be dating each other.

In the past, I also confronted my father, citing ``their own family circumstances'' as the reason.

However, I realized that this idea itself was wrong in the first place.

After all, from the point of view of the contracted father, the individual woman's family environment doesn't matter, right? Women have not learned this in their lives.

No, I've been avoiding important common sense.

That's just it.

I think that's really how it's worded.

Although it may not have been taught in individual families, it is a club activity at school.

There is a relationship between seniors and juniors, and there is a hierarchy.

No, it's the same even when you become a member of society.

The same thing can be said for parents.

It's a problem that can be solved if you face it, set rules, learn well, and develop habits, but on the other hand, it's a problem that no one but yourself can solve.

In particular, like dad-katsu, you sign a contract with a superior man, receive an allowance, and take care of various things in your important life.

He easily treats such a father with "insane language."

There's no way this would work in any place, and there are some women who say, "It's okay in a dad-hunting business, right?" But this is clearly wrong, and what's more, Thoughtful women certainly exist among my friends.

However, I have never heard of anyone who was able to have a long-term relationship with their father because they received a stable allowance.

Something went wrong and the contract was canceled.

When I ask her the reason for the cancellation each time, she tells me various things from her own perspective, but when I judge it overall, it's clearly her fault in most cases.

In the first place, being a dad is a business, but we must never forget the feeling of being taken care of = respect.

However, there are some patterns like this.

When I first met my dad, we spoke in honorific terms and we got along well with each other as if we were superior to each other.

However, at some point, that "rule" was broken.

In most of these moments, women are overwhelmingly more likely to have "sex with daddy."

I think many women can relate to this. Honestly, I can understand this, and when I think back, I have a lot of experience with it.

When it comes to being a dad, if you set too strict rules for yourself, your conversations with your dad may become a little awkward. (Isn't this also true?)

However, no matter how awkward it may be, even when it comes to wording, ``if you set a rule, you should stick to it.''

In the end, even if there is a strange atmosphere or a strange exchange, in my experience the other man will not treat you in a strange way. (Just from my experience)

Instead, it is more likely to become a big problem if the other man starts to have doubts about you because you no longer care about him. (I have experienced this as well.)

This time, I mainly talked about language, but it's not just about language.

There is always a way to be considerate towards men in any given situation.

This is something that each woman has to learn individually, and there is a way to be considerate that suits each man.

However, when it comes to language, it is uniformly effective for all men.

That's why I decided to mainly talk about that part this time.

In fact, lately, I've been feeling a bit relaxed about being a dad.

As a result, when I talk to my dad on the phone, sometimes I end up saying "yeah, yeah, that's right" instead of "yes," and I feel like this situation is becoming more common.

For this reason, I once again thought to myself that I would like to reconsider "common sense" including wording when it comes to "dad activities in 2024."

Especially, there is no man who would think of canceling my contract now just because of a few words.

However, when considering a new contract with a new man in the future, I think this part will definitely become an important point.

Besides, I don't want to develop any strange habits towards myself.

By all means, all the women who are currently in the process of becoming a father.

If there are people who aren't paying close attention to common sense aspects such as wording, it would be a good idea to be a little more careful.

Surprisingly, dads judge women based on what they say.