This time's speech

This time, I will be studying the marriage system based on the title, and I will also be touching on the married life of Joe, who is embarrassed to admit it, so I will be changing my writing style from usual. There are many vague points in terms of my knowledge and what I am thinking, so I will be writing while asking myself questions, so I have written it in conversational form. Let's get started right away.

 

① Marriage rate of Universe Club members

At Universe Club, men and women are not asked whether they are married or not. As I am married myself, I had no basis for my assumption that most of the older sisters were married. In preparation for writing this column, I wanted to know more accurate figures, so I asked Maezawa.

Here's his reply:

1 When joining, they don't ask whether you're married or not, so the exact number is unknown.

2 Looking at the profile pages of male members, who are self-reported, the marriage rate is35%

From the Universe Club official page data

3 Anonymous question board2One female respondent said:

 

・My brother8% are married

From an anonymous female respondent's answer to a question box
 

・All of my brothers are married

From an anonymous female respondent's answer to a question box
 

From this statement, we can infer at least8I think about 10% are married. It depends on the age group, but at least the married rate is35I don't think it's a % but what do you think?

 

　Joe feels that Maezawa's guess is not far off the mark.

That's because the Hakata Big Breasts graduated the other day3The eldest sister is200Although he is a brave man who received the above offer, according to her, he declared himself single?6Apparently, it was a percentage of3%(laughs) However, my eldest daughter6Name of bachelors1But you got married to someone.

Therefore, from here on, I will proceed under the assumption that most of the male members of the Universe Club are married.

 

② What surprised me when I joined?

8When I joined and started participating a few years ago, what surprised me was that, from what I heard from the women, most married men were sexless at home.

The reason Joe was surprised was that although the frequency had decreased compared to before, Joe had been in a regular married life when he joined, and he thought that if the sex became less frequent, it would expose some wrongdoing (although Joe didn't think so).

According to Joe's investigation after that40I learned that from the 20th generation onwards, people who are not sexless are an overwhelming minority. I see, that's right. In other words, I learned that one of the main reasons why men join the Universe Club is to resolve their sexless marriage.

　That said, one of Joe's main motivations for joining was to solve his sexual problems. He had just broken up with his girlfriend of several years, and his relationship with his wife was also going through a major change. In short, his desire to "do standing doggy style with a beautiful, smelly woman" was no different from that of other married members.

　So, let's take a look at what married people should know when deciding to do standing doggy style at Universe.

③What is infidelity?

Marriage is categorized into legal marriage, common-law marriage, or common-law wife or husband, which are all properly registered and handled. Naturally, both legal marriage and common-law marriage have rights and obligations and are subject to certain legal restrictions.

According to a lawyer friend of mine who is also a junior high and high school alumnus, the difference in rights and obligations between legal marriage and common-law marriage has narrowed compared to the past. Not only married people, but even common-law couples can sue their partner for infidelity.Because I'm not registeredIf there are any women out there who think, "I can't be sued for infidelity," please be careful.

 

It's a little late now, butWhat is infidelity in a married person?This question comes to mind (or maybe not).

There are often rumors on the Universe Q&A board and elsewhere about the possibility of married men being sued for infidelity. It's not just men who are sued, but also women who date married men knowing they're married. It's scary.

However, Joe believes that when these kinds of descriptions are written by amateurs, they tend to be exaggerated based solely on their own experiences. At the same time, there are probably some men out there who have the mysterious, unfounded belief (or wishful thinking?) that "there's no way my wife would go that far."

So I asked my aforementioned friend, a lawyer, about the reality of the situation.

He responded to Joe's question with a sarcastic laugh (what kind of laugh?) and didn't give any specific figures, but he did mention the following examples:"More than you think."I answered.

Let's know the reality a little moreBangkok, Thailand.Joe persisted."Most people file for divorce because they want to get divorced, and cases where people don't want to get divorced but want to make their partner regret their actions are in the minority, aren't they?"I asked him again, because I didn't want to cause trouble for the girl. Again, he didn't answer me directly, but tried to dodge the question by saying something like this:

"My office does receive requests for divorce, but it's not necessarily the main focus. Still, we get a constant stream of inquiries every week from people who want to sue their spouse for infidelity."Yes, that's right. And the number of consultations"The ratio of men to women is about half and half."Or something like that. I wonder if it's the times.

 

This introduction has been long. Of course, the legal provisions are important when suing someone for infidelity. I feel a bit hesitant as a layman like Joe to explain the law, but I will continue.

First of all, how is infidelity defined legally? I looked into it through lectures from friends and by reading some paperback books myself.

　Surprisingly (for Joe)There is no mention of infidelity or chastity in the articleIn other words, the Constitution and other articles regarding marriage state that "If you decide to have sex with a woman other than your wife at Lake Towada,100There is no mention of "100% infidelity" or "removing the chastity belt immediately constitutes a breach of marital chastity" (obviously?).

Even though that is the case (Although there is no mention of it in the regulations) The following Supreme Court ruling stipulates that a claim for damages due to adultery is valid.

According to"Even if it's not explicitly stated in the law,Husband and wife have an obligation to maintain chastity with each other, and maintaining chastity is an essential element of married life.".

Based on this precedent, the articleThere is no definition of infidelityNevertheless, the lower courtJudgment in favor of the claim for damageshas appeared.

I think this is a natural decision, but I also think, "Even a Supreme Court judge wants to have sex with random women!" At least according to Joe's research."Maintaining chastity is an essential element of married life"This is a view of marriage that did not exist in pre-modern times.

In the end, if a married man participates in the Universe, he should first be aware that there are certain risks and that there is a possibility that women may suffer the consequences.

But if you are sued, you can just brush it off. In other words, deal with the law with the law, or fight back. Of course, it's best not to get caught, so you need to act carefully. We'll talk about that later.
 

④ Is extramarital activity really that bad?

The title may seem defiant, but that's Joe's true feelings. If you file a marriage registration, you can never fall in love with a woman or a man other than your wife again. Isn't that inhumane?

So, perhaps as an excuse, I would like to touch on the historical significance of the institution of marriage and its changes over time.

I will write based on "Why do people get married? From sexuality and the transition between parent and child to partnership" (written by Tsutsui Junya, Chuokoron Shinsho), adding my own personal thoughts.

　According to this book, the institution of marriage is a widely recognized institution both historically and socially. Of course, there are variations in its validity, but one of the main purposes of this institution is to establish paternity.

　Since women give birth to their own children, it's easy for them to recognize that "this child is mine." On the other hand, men have the potential to wonder, "Is this child really mine?" until the DNA is established. The marriage system was used because lingering distrust would cause social confusion. In other words, the marriage system had the function of identifying the father, based on the "presumed legitimate child" (the father of a child born to a wife is her husband).

According to the author, this function has long been one of the major significances of the marriage system, which can be seen across time, in many regions, and in many societies. Of course, other factors such as social class, family succession, occupation, and reproduction have also influenced the marriage system, and it has continued to change while also evolving.

However, in modern times, this system is undergoing major changes. One of these changes is same-sex marriage. Of course, homosexuality has existed since ancient times, but the idea of ​​same-sex marriage has emerged precisely because the view of heterosexual marriage has changed.

　The author points out that until modern times, "romantic and sexual relationships" were not necessarily important elements of marriage. The author does not clearly define the term "romantic and sexual relationships," but in Joe's interpretation,"A relationship in which two people who have fallen in love live together, including sexual activity, of their own free will."The author's assertion that this relationship is most important in modern times is likely to be somewhat convincing to us older brothers. What Joe wants to emphasize is that this relationship has only become commonplace relatively recently.

　At least in Japan, until recently, external social factors were much more important in marriage than the presence or absence of love. For example, my paternal grandmother"I met my grandfather for the first time when he was young, three days before I got married."In this way, marriages were far more often based on occupation and family preference. Of course, reproduction was also an important consideration.

Times have changed, and the external factors of marriage that were once emphasized have become less important, and as mentioned above, emphasis is now placed on internal factors, such as the will and love between the individuals involved.

This factor is between the two"sexual exclusivity, sexual exclusivity"As a result, the existence of concubines and lovers, and infidelity, which had previously been tolerated, became considered "totally unacceptable."

　Unfortunately, it has become difficult for married people to decide on standing doggy style. This trend will probably continue as long as Joe is alive.

There was a time when a swimmer who was faster than the world's best swimmer was exposed to public criticism for having sex with a flight attendant other than his wife."Are you guys really that saintly?"I wanted to defend him. Maybe it can't be helped since he's a celebrity, but I think only his wife can criticize him.

 

At the beginning of this chapter"Extramarital activities etc."I asked, but it's not interesting or anything, but the conclusion is"Unfortunately, that seems to be the case."is the answer.

 

5. For married people, the relationship with their wife is important

As mentioned above, if a married person is active in the Universe Club, their partner (wife or husband)

Your relationship with your partner is important because they could sue you, and then it's not just your problem.

　I'm not sure if this will be of any help, but I'll share Joe's example, although I'm a bit embarrassed.

Joe and his wife are not particularly close, nor do they share a deep relationship of trust. In fact, his wife is likely to be constantly suspicious of him. If her GPS was connected to his phone, she might start calling him constantly, asking questions like, "Why are you at Lake Towada? Are you doing doggy style?"　

First proposal

　So Joe'sFirst proposal The"Happiness is not included in the GPS between husband and wife"Joe can't believe it, but apparently there are a lot of married couples who link their GPS devices to each other.

As I mentioned before, I don't get along particularly well with my wife, so we do have arguments and sometimes have cold feelings towards each other, but for reasons I'll explain below, it never gets serious.

　That's because ever since we got married, Joe has been away from home for almost half the month (currently about 20 days, haha). He's supposedly away for work (really?)."I'd rather my husband be healthy and away from home."There is a proverb (a lie) that goes like this.

　The reason things don't get serious for Joe and his friends is because Joe is away for long periods of time, which allows them to cool down, reflect on their actions, or let the heat die down.

Second Proposal

　So Joe'sSecond ProposalThis means that even if you are a married couple, or rather, because you are a married couple, it is better for you to have time and space for each other.

　And there is another important rule for us."Don't talk about getting divorced lightly. If you do, you'll definitely enter into negotiations."That's it.
Maybe that's why, no matter how much we argue, the word "divorce" has never come up.

At least Joe has some complaints about his wife, but he has never wanted to get divorced. Not necessarily in a good way, but because being with his wife is more convenient for Joe in many ways.

Third Proposal

　Joe'sThird Proposal The"I don't talk about divorce lightly. Once I do, I follow through."Joe can't really act all high and mighty, but he wants to take responsibility for his words. I don't think we should be too hard on ourselves, but dividing people is not something we should take lightly.

Joe cannot be sued for infidelity by his wife because she has a boyfriend (Joe asked her to get one lol).

　Another thing is that Joe certainly spends money on extramarital activities, but the biggest part of his spending, even excluding living expenses, is on his wife."If there's a husband who spends more money on his wife than I do, bring him here!"I think so (unfortunately, there are many).

Currently my wife isprofessional painterAnd I believe Joe was the one who paved the way for that.

Is this the only thing? My wife also acknowledges this."I wouldn't have become a professional if I hadn't had you as my husband."That's right.I got accepted into an art university as a working adult.Of course, I paid tuition fees and went to a school near my home.Rented (and eventually bought) a studio., remodeling a wooden warehouse in the suburbsHe also set up a gallery to exhibit his wife's paintings.That's why.Devoted husbandI think it's safe to call myself that (really).

　At the same time, I've been thinking about something recently. My wife's skills as a painter have improved dramatically. This is the result of hard work. Unlike Joe, she is a very earnest person at heart.

　A few years ago, Joe started trying new businesses."I can't lose to my wife"That's what I thought. Until now, I had looked down on my wife and thought of her as someone who couldn't make decisions for herself, but that was a big mistake. My wife as a painterambitiousso,Always searching for new stylesThen,Give it a tryis.

So we only live together for 10 days a month, but during those days Joe is in charge of all the housework so that she can concentrate on her painting. He not only cooks, but also makes lunch boxes if she wants, cleans and does the laundry (although he's not good at folding laundry). It's a very busy job (laughs).

Osamu, a junior colleague, sees this change in Joe and says, "Senpai, you think this is an excuse for your extramarital activities, don't you?" He doesn't deny it (laughs).

　But, Osamu,The countdown begins from the moment you are born.But lately I can hear that sound, so when I'm with my wife I want to be the one who can do things on my own.

Come to think of it, I went to cooking classes with you. So, cooking isn't a chore for me (though I don't have as many dishes as you do), and I've improved my efficiency and kitchen tidying skills. I've always enjoyed cleaning the toilet, and hanging out the laundry isn't that hard for me. However, I don't like folding the laundry, and I'm not good at it. Especially ironing. I'll have to learn some ironing tips from you.

 

The conclusions of this chapter are as follows:

1 If you are a married man, check all of your wallets and suit pockets as you enter your house.

If you come across a receipt from Cheino that shows a total of 108,500 yen and the details include "Bordeaux Medoc Red 31,800 yen," then of course you should dispose of that receipt immediately.

If, by some misfortune, the front door opens just as you're about to throw it away, immediately put the receipt in your mouth and chew it.

2. If possible, do your extramarital activities away from home. Fortunately, the universe has many branches.

3. For your wife's birthday, give her a small gift and go out to dinner. Go to a slightly fancy restaurant (no Saizeriya).

"If I do that, it will only make people suspicious and something will be revealed," you say. Sweetie! In fact, it's already been revealed. That's why it's a birthday party. Let me give you some magic words.

"I'm sorry I forgot until now. From now on, let's always have birthday parties for each other."

4. Spend money on your wife. It's okay to spend as much as you can, but the standard should be more than what you paid to the Universe girls. Go for it! That's what makes you a man!

 

⑥ For those ladies who still want to have extramarital activities

One of the books I read recently that made the biggest impression on me was "A 90-Year-Old Man Living Alone" (by Atoda Takashi, Shincho Sensho).

The first thing that surprised me was, "Atouda Takashi is still alive?", but the content is excellent. The book is written in a well-seasoned style, with a high level of culture and insight, and describes the daily life of a 90-year-old in a matter-of-fact manner.

　I think this will be especially appealing to men over 60. Highly recommended.

　At the end of this book there is an "Afterword" in which the author offers nine pieces of advice as a senior in life.

All of the advice is very insightful, but the one that made the biggest impression on me was Article 7, "Become secretly familiar with Eros."

It may be a bit of an understatement, but I thought, "As expected of a senior, you understand," and not only did I touch his lap, but I also typed the book. My beloved novelist Junichiro Tanizaki also has a similar statement, but in a novel, he has the protagonist say, "Even if you become impotent, you can still have a certain kind of sex life."

　Regardless of whether you are married or not, I would like to modestly assert that Eros can be a source of vitality for life even in old age.

　So I hope that wives will not make a fuss about infidelity, but will instead be a little more lenient and think of it as their husband's reason for living.

　Speaking of Eros, I'll conclude this column by sharing a recent episode.

Recent Episodes

Over the past few months, I have been traveling to Kagoshima frequently to start a new business.

Kagoshima has great food (although it's hard to find a good restaurant that serves the city's famous tonkatsu), and I get the impression that it's home to a lot of warm-hearted people. I have an elementary school classmate who lives in my hometown, and we happened to meet again, hit it off, and started a business together. During our stay in Kagoshima, he takes me to all kinds of restaurants, and we always end the day at our favorite snack bar.

　The owner of this shop is a woman in her 2s who lives the typical life of a Kagoshima Yankee, having married at 18 and divorced at 21 with two children. When she divorced, she took on her husband's debts, so she worked in the entertainment and sex industry in her 20s, and opened her current shop in her 30s. It's a thriving shop employing several girls. She must be a go-getter.

　This mama is surprisingly timid. She calls herself that, so it must be true. But she's a very easy-going and interesting woman, so I would go to this store even if I didn't have any classmates there.

　The little guy joke is a sure thing, and when I say, "You're so little it's surprising," she replies, "Yeah, I'm surprised too. I really am little," and we both laugh together.

　One day, when I went there late, the other girls had already gone home and the mom was there alone. We started with the usual stuff and had a relaxing time.

For some reason"These days, doping doesn't improve performance"He let slip, ``I'm so happy.''

I wasn't really worried about it, but my mom was worried about me."I'll close the shop soon, so let's go to the hotel. Leave it to me."That's it.

At first, he didn't take it seriously, but before you know it, he's finished cleaning up and says, "Let's go."

Joe puts himself above the rest, but he's a bit of a looker, so he thought it would be impossible for her to be so small, especially since she wasn't particularly functional. But the atmosphere was such that he couldn't refuse, and since she was showing him kindness, he decided to go along with it.

　To put it simply, I was shocked at how hard it became.

Strangely enough, there was nothing special about it. Her manual and oral techniques were above average, but she wasn't as technically skilled as she claimed.

　It just progressed at a slow and leisurely pace.

At first I felt a little unsatisfied, but later it started to work for me.

Mom lies down next to Joe and gives him gentle kisses while slowly running her hands down his body.

Then comes oral. This is also slow and soft caressing. After caressing Joe's whole body with her tongue and hands, she sits up and whispers soft words in his ear. Nothing special.

But this was quite effective. I thought I would be put off by Chinchikurin's face, but instead I found it endearing.

　How many years has it been since you last reached climax without doping? What's even more surprising is that your erection never stops afterwards.

This continued the next day, when I was scheduled to travel to Tokyo to meet Emily, so as soon as I met her I pushed her down and did two consecutive standing doggy style shots. Emily was surprised (lol).

Now Joe wants his last mistress to be a dwarf.

Best of all, it gets me hard.

And I realized that the reason she can do that is because she penetrates the folds of a man's heart and gently stimulates them. She may be a small girl, but Mayu is a good woman.　

 

Unfortunately, Emily got married, so we had to say goodbye after two standing doggy style scenes (bitter smile).

I'm going to Kagoshima next weekend, so I'm thinking of trying to persuade Chinchikurin Mama and ask her to be my mistress.

Well, it all works out. So, although the ending isn't cohesive, it looks like Joe's sexual wanderings will continue for a while.

Biggest recommendation

And the biggest suggestion of this article is that married men should not be overly afraid of their wives' eyes, but should maintain a good distance, explore their relationships, and enjoy romance with the fascinating girls who belong to the Universe Club.

that isBecome a source of vitalityThere's no doubt about it.

 

* Supplement
Precedents regarding spousal claims
　"A third party who has a physical relationship with one spouse of a married couple, whether intentionally or negligently, violates the other spouse's rights as husband or wife, regardless of whether the third party seduced the other spouse or whether the relationship between the two spouses was born out of natural affection, and the third party's actions are illegal. The third party should be held liable for the mental anguish suffered by the other spouse."
Supreme Court decision of March 30, 1979 (Minshu Vol. 33, No. 2, p. 303)