Create a peaceful relationship

It's been a long time since my last post. This is Ren, a column writer.

It has been eight years since I joined, and before I knew it, the person who has been with me the longest has been there for eight years (the person I met the year I joined).
I am very grateful. Although there are a few people whose relationships ended due to COVID-3, I have now built good relationships with three or four people.

I don't receive many offers, but thankfully I have been able to come across some very good people.

I have been blessed with surprisingly good connections, but I have some things I keep in mind, and although I don't know if they will be of any help, there have been some changes since I first registered, so I would like to write about what I think.

The premise is that we are looking for a long-term relationship. And, of course, it is a given that the woman's looks are to my liking.
That's why I signed up for the club.

• Be mindful of whether you have something in common
  • I think this is surprisingly important. I started out as an office worker and ended up involved in management, and women who are "office workers" tend to have a lot in common when it comes to topics. Other than that, I also check the hobbies and interests of women written in their profiles. I think it's easier to have a lively conversation if you have something in common with them, not just looks. I've met a few people in the entertainment industry in the past, but they were too "aliens" and it didn't last long... Maybe I was too inflexible, but I felt it was stressful when our "common sense" was so different.
• Check with staff before making an offer
  • When making an offer, I have some conditions that I cannot compromise on. If these conditions apply, I will not make an offer. I check with the staff as much as possible to see if the conditions apply. Of course, Facebook information about past dates is very helpful, so I check it carefully. Of course, there have been cases in the past where problems have come to light since the free love system was established, but I still think it helps to avoid risks.
  • Also, when there is a gap between the timing of the photo shoot and the timing of the offer, I make sure to check carefully to see if there is a gap. Conversely, I regularly update my profile information. If I gain weight, I update my weight accordingly. I get motivated to go on a diet! lol
• (This may seem obvious) Trust videos over photos
  • Thanks to the intense efforts of our staff, the photos are very beautiful (even without any editing). That's why I think it's so important to check the video, which includes movement and allows you to see your partner in 360 degrees. There are many hints in small gestures and interactions with the staff. If you think the video is wonderful, it is usually wonderful.
• Make the most of "That's nice"
  • All of the people I've been in contact with since COVID-19 are people who have commented "That's nice." Some people have responded by adding their profile to their favorites, and some have commented "That's nice" and then added their profile to their favorites. I think this button can be used as a barometer of interest in the profile you've written.

These are the things I pay attention to when making an offer. Having said that, the truth is that you won't know until you meet the person, so in the end it's all down to intuition... haha. However, I don't know if this mindset is working, but fortunately I've never met anyone who I thought was "completely different!"
I'll write more about what people care about after the first date when it comes to continuing (or ending) the relationship.