A woman's expressionlessness tells her true feelings more than anything 7
It will be an article from the explanation about ② in the previous column.I think that the easiest way to understand the second principle, which is to read a woman's transformation from the surface transformation to the deep transformation, is to imagine the inside of an elevator.
Let's say you're in an elevator alone with your not-so-intimate girlfriend.If she talks to you more aggressively than usual at that time, I'm pretty sure she thinks you're being perceived as a man.
Human beings tend to lose their mental equilibrium when placed in a closed space.In particular, when women are alone in such a closed space with a man with whom they have a relatively close relationship, they tend to have a mixed sense of anticipation and caution, thinking that something will be done to them. It's in
And in order to camouflage this depth, the surface changes to "talking".However, in any case, there is no difference in being conscious of the other man as a "man".What do you think.
I hope you now understand the meaning of Principle XNUMX, "When the desire itself is strong, but the desire is strongly conscious."I believe that director Yasujirō Ozu skillfully incorporated the superficial and deep cause-and-effect relationships of women, which are shown by this principle, into the drama and created dramatic effects.
Director Ozu, whose name is widely known overseas for numerous masterpieces such as “Matsushu” and “Tokyo Story,” is also known as a director who never used exaggerated expressions when depicting a man and woman who love each other. I'm here.For example, when a man expresses his affection towards a woman, the face of the woman who hears this may rather become expressionless.
When a man sees this, he is disappointed, saying, "Isn't it bad?"I was greatly impressed by director Ozu's creation of this kind of drama, saying that he is truly a master of portraying the psychology of women."
In general, women tend to avoid expressing it straight, no matter how much they like the other man.For this reason, there are many cases in which men respond with an expressionless expression that hides their happiness when they express their feelings of favor.
Therefore, taking this expressionless face at face value could result in a completely opposite interpretation of her depth of “I like you too.”In order to gauge the degree of interest of a man, a woman is a person who shows a change that seems to have gone around intentionally.
In order to gauge the degree of interest in men, women sometimes show changes that make them appear as if they have deliberately gone around.
When a woman has a lover or a man she admires, I think that the biggest change that appears on the surface is related to the direction of her interests, such as her hobbies.
There was talk of a budding female translator falling in love with a young astronomer.Until then, she had no interest in astronomy, but as she continued to date him, she became completely fascinated by the mysteries of the universe. It is said that he came to look at it.
And now, his knowledge has spread to the point where he translates technical books on astronomy.I think that her behavior is a kind of identification in psychology.So she, unconsciously, is trying to identify herself with him.
And this is none other than the principle ⑥ "When some external influence is given to a woman's deep layer" in the principle of reading deep changes from surface changes.
Finally, I would like to touch on Principle XNUMX, "When a woman tries to measure something in the other person by showing them how she has changed."It is commonly called "probe", but I think that principle XNUMX can be said to be a typical example of this.
In short, there is a deep-seated intention in women to try to find out the true feelings of men by feinting with changes on the surface.For example, there is a woman who has just quarreled with her lover or her husband over a trivial matter, but immediately utters the word "break up."Of course, this is not from the heart.
If this is evidence that the man is trying to break up with you, saying, "If you say so," most of these women will havetily withdraw their previous words.It's just a man's reasoning that if it's something like that, it shouldn't be said from the beginning.
By saying the word "break up," they are only expressing their inner dissatisfaction to their lover or husband, and by extension, they are trying to measure the depth of their love for themselves by their reactions.In the end, "break up" is nothing but a paradoxical expression of "I don't want to break up".
The next feint to introduce is a case that is a little more elaborate than this "break up".Many women are so fixated on their hairstyles and clothing preferences that they seldom try to change them.Therefore, if you completely change her hairstyle and clothes, it means that a great change has occurred in the depths of the woman.
However, to a lesser extent, women occasionally change the way they part their bangs, the accessories they wear, etc., subtly and subtly.Although this is not a complete change, it is definitely a change.
Women's deep psychology derived from these surface changes is to "measure the degree of interest of the other man in her".Simply put, the desire to be recognized is expressed in the form of "getting men's attention by showing a casual change in hairstyle or clothing."
It's a clever way of doing it, but I think it's proof that women's depths are covered by a thick superficial layer.
■ I picked up a collection of actual examples that reveal a woman's true nature through her transformation.
*When a woman changes her hairstyle or clothes a little, she is trying to measure the interest level of the other man in her.
* If a woman's hobby changes, you can assume that you have found a man you like.
*When a woman changes something she is familiar with, such as the brand of cigarettes, it can be seen as a message that she wants to take her relationship with her partner to the next level.
*When a woman suddenly spends money flashy, she feels a strong sense of distrust towards her husband or lover.
*When a woman drinks, it is to vent her dissatisfaction.
* Women who suddenly become talkative in closed spaces such as elevators are conscious of the other man as a man.
* When a woman suddenly becomes talkative, she has a secret that she doesn't want to be known.
*If a woman begins to slap her with a hammer more often, it is evidence that she has begun to take an interest in things other than what the man is saying.
* When a woman raises the tone of her voice, she wants to let her selfishness go through.
* The reason why women become expressionless when they know that a man likes them is because they are hesitant to openly express their feelings for the other person.
*If a woman stops doing group activities with same-sex people, it can be considered that she has become a man or is worried about men's problems.
*When a woman cuts her hair short, it indicates a desire to change her mind.
* Women who change their tastes in clothes every time they meet are emotionally unstable and have a desire to escape from reality.
*When a woman suddenly becomes kind to a man, she often has something to hide in her heart.
*When a woman begins to use honorifics more than necessary, it is a sign that she is no longer interested in you.
What do you think.Were there any memorable moments?
■ "NO" of a woman who teases a man and directs coquettery
“Iyayoi yayomo suki no uchi” is an old saying.Any man who has ever been in a romantic relationship knows very well that a woman's negative words or gestures of rejection cannot always be taken at face value.
In fact, it can be said that there is nothing more ambiguous and elusive than this negative expression of a woman directed at a man.For example, in what may be a slightly demeaning example, women almost invariably make a gesture of refusal the first time a man presses them for sex.
Even if she likes the man and is willing to surrender, at first she will usually say no or run away.In such a case, the woman is trying to tease the man by making her "no" gesture and increase the voltage of her partner's desire.
In other words, it is a euphemistic expression of "acceptance" to a man's invitation.This is a coquettery (flirting) performance of a female first class, and I think it can be said that it is an act based on a kind of animal instinct.
In fact, when mating with dogs and cats, the females make love with reluctant gestures and tease the males to provoke them, which is often seen on TV animal programs.
Even if the female poses a little bit of refusal here, if he withdraws, the male will lack vitality.Unless the male is strong enough to overcome such obstacles, it does not conform to the "law of conservation of species" and cannot be safe as a female.
However, it goes without saying that the "NO" that human females show is not limited to expressing such instinctive "teasing" as females.Since human behavior is inextricably linked to psychology, it is natural that women's deeply distorted psychology is reflected in it without realizing it.
In that sense, the "NO" pose that a woman shows on the occasion can be said to be a very valuable clue to read the depth of the woman.
Writer Souka Kawakami, who is also known as a master of this field, says, ``Women can use many different types of ``no'' by changing the subtle nuances of their expressions and slight changes in intonation.'' I was there.
I think you are right in saying that a woman's "no" is not a uniform expression of denial, but that it has various meanings depending on the situation.
I think that these women's "no deep psychology" can be roughly divided into the following three patterns. (XNUMX) Confirming and testing a man's will and sincerity "NO" of "confirmation" (XNUMX) "Reflection" of "NO" to conceal and camouflage one's desires (XNUMX) "Formal" "to defend oneself and create an alibi" NO”.
I will explain these "NO"s in my next column. It is well known that "The Tale of the Bamboo Cutter" depicts a woman's psychology that tries to test a man's sincerity.Therefore, in the next installment, "The Tale of the Bamboo Cutter," a woman's psychology that tries to test a man's sincerity is depicted.I would like to start with a story titled.