XNUMX important things to build a long-term relationship

Thank you for visiting us.
This is Toritani from Universe Kyoto.
This time, I asked a question from a male member
[What do you do to make a long-term relationship? ]
Since you asked me, I thought that this would be a problem for other people, so I would like to write about it in this column.

At first

First, there are things you need to do to build a long-term relationship.
It is a relationship of trust with others.
I would like to share with you three things that are important in building a relationship of trust with your partner.

1. Empathize with others

I think they are nervous because they are meeting each other for the first time.
On top of that, if you deny or argue in conversation with the other person, the other person may be very offended.
Wouldn't it be better to agree then?You might think that.
However, if you agree, you will end up lying to the other party because you agree with things that you don't really think or feel.
If you do, you may be put at a distance from your opponent later due to such misunderstandings.
To prevent this from happening, it is neither approval nor denial, but empathy.
I think empathizing with the other person's story and going along with it is the first way to close the distance.

2. Understand the opponent's rhythm

All humans have rhythms.
We live surrounded by many rhythms such as conversations, emotional swings, gestures and actions, and walking speed.
What happens when that rhythm is broken?
It may make you feel that you are not compatible with your partner.
So please try to match the rhythm in a range that you can tolerate within a reasonable range.
I don't think it's a good idea to cut things off because the tempo of the conversation doesn't match or the speed at which the other person is walking doesn't match.
So I think it would be a good idea to try to match where you can match first, and then if the content of the conversation and the way of thinking are compatible, then by all means go out with us as it is.
However, if there are many unacceptable parts, I think it will be difficult to have a long-term relationship, so why not give up with a firm standard?

3.Do not lie or deceive

Third, don't lie or pretend
I think this is the most important.
Because the act of lying and deceiving yourself here will strangle yourself later.
Even if you gain the trust of the other party, if this lie is exposed, the trust relationship will collapse in an instant.
Then, even though I made a relationship of trust in order to date, the original and the child will be lost.
Here, if the other person asks about your occupation, I think it would be better to tell in a broad frame rather than telling everything from the beginning.
And I think it's best to talk about everything when you gradually build a relationship of trust.

A Final Word

I wrote three important things here.
However, this does not guarantee complete trust.
After doing this, I think that a relationship of trust will be built by various factors such as further confirmation of compatibility and coming to have the same values.
So when we build a relationship of trust with each other, I think we can do it on mutual effort.
Why don't you aim for a relationship where you can get to know each other and understand each other deeply?